What is the point for a girl to go through the trouble of going through a talking phase and dating phase with a guy to get an ex jealous?

[Danny_dan92]

I recently met a girl that was a single mother.


She asked me if I had an issue with that concept and I told her given my age, it doesn’t bother me. So long as the father is out of the picture.


Long story short I noticed clues to pointed to the fact she was using me to make her ex jealous. Why would a girl do this (besides obviously still having feelings for the guy) ?

[Billlewis]

The purpose of intentionally trying to make a guy jealous is because if you're successful, you'll usually have him in the palm of your hand from then on. Even if I wasn't interested in her before, if I know she's trying to make me jealous, she'll have me just falling at her feet, every single time 😘👣

[EmmaMary]

Sadly there are some very deceitful lowlifes in the world... I'm fairly sure you will not be falling for this again... Wishing you good luck for your future happiness. 🤞

[Danny_dan92]

Nope. I already slammed that door shut and locked it with 4 more locks this time

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[MoroccanPrincess]

Oh my that's really rude to do. I feel like if she's still trying to make him jealous she might still love him or something I don't know

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah, the only reasonable explanation is that they created a daughter together.

But given the facts that she disclosed to me nothing was adding up.

[MoroccanPrincess]

Hopefully it works out 💕

If not I'm sure you will find someone else if you haven't already 🙏🏾

[Danny_dan92]

Ehh, tbh this reminded me why I completely disconnected from dating. She made me step out of my comfort zone for the first time in many years… only to then deal with that nonsense

[MoroccanPrincess]

That's why I stay alone lol I feel that

[Danny_dan92]

Right! Lol it really do be like that

[Anonymous]

They’re just childish and inconsiderate, to string along someone else while still being hung up on their ex.

[Danny_dan92]

I agree

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it’s unfair to you. But what “clues” have you found that made you think he’s only with you to make her ex jealous tho?

[Danny_dan92]

Well, for starters I noticed her IG was public just before I followed her, resulting in me needing to request it.

She showed an awkward/uncomfortable response when I made a comment how it’s a bad sign when the kid’s father is still in the picture because in most cases this means the parents are still intimate on occasion.

Then she told me that her and her daughter’s dad are “on good terms” and she said he has a new girlfriend, she has full custody and also has a restraining order on the guy… see how all those facts don’t line up?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh yeah that makes sense, I think for sure she’s still in contact with her baby daddy bcs they’re s on good terms like she said. If you’re dealing someone who is a single parent, more likely than not their kid’s father/mother would still be in the picture.

Still it’s so deceitful for someone to play pretend and act all interested in you only to use you to make their ex jealous. You deserve better.

[Danny_dan92]

That’s why I told her I couldn’t proceed. She said I was drawing assumptions, but I’m a very observant individual. Too observant, that the most superficial details stick out to me. Nothing gets past me without me noticing.

[Opinion Owner]

Good! Best of luck to you though, I hope you do end up finding someone that’s gonna choose you and only you.

[Danny_dan92]

It’s 2024 lol probably not

[Opinion Owner]

Lol I get what you mean, dating has gone to shit… but there are still a lot of genuine people out there! They’re most likely just too scared to open up to dating again tho bcs of how fucked up the dating scene has become

[Danny_dan92]

Agreed. Oh well.

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck!!

[chrissykerdock]

so she can get married

[Anonymous]

Maybe she was hoping he would come back to her.