Why do girls go eww?

[Anonymous]

So you’re not talking to them you just happened to look up and make eye contact. Like I was thrown off I did not know her I was just walking my dog

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I think to avoid this I’m probably gonna start looking at the ground more

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Watch my words trying to reach your reason and your emotion:

This is Micro: One event in your life doesn't get the right to determine the entirety of your life. One person acting weird does not represent billions of earthlings. Eyes up, open the window, launch the telescope.

Go Macro. think about the great ballet of the universe, feel it even, its infinitely more powerful than you, than any sadness, than any joy, than anything trivial or important. You are a pixel, this girl is a pixel, my words are pixels on a screen so ridiculously vast that you can't even begin to measure it. Isn't it a relief to look up above and contemplate something greater than you, than any frustrating event, any bad day?

Relax, nothing else matters, listen to Metallica.

[Summeroflove]

I have no idea. If you don’t know her I would just ignore her

[Asker]

Yeah it had a great impact on my self esteem

[Summeroflove]

That’s probably what she was doing. Some people like hurting others. It makes them feel powerful.

[Summeroflove]

But you don’t even know her so she’s the weirdo

[Crimsyjo]

Noooo don't change. And don't avoid people, or eye contact! Just be you. Which you was. Fuck her and whatever was in her head. She probably thinks every guy adores her. Most prob look in disgust if her attitude is so evident.

Anyways... counter this next time you out. Deliberately head high and look and smile at people. It gets easier with practise and I bet you get positive responses back too.

[Asker]

I have had girls smile at me and then I had her response

[Crimsyjo]

Exactly. Means nothing. Put it behind you 😊

[Asker]

Well it was hurtful I just came out of a relationship where I was good to a girl and I was getting beat and called horrible names

[Crimsyjo]

So maybe your in a place where your more sensitive than you would normally be? That's OK. It's just she was a stranger and you can't let her dictate your actions (retreating). If you want to retreat for a bit then do so. But not over that! More to heal from your recent experience!
And believe me I've been there. Took me 8 years to recover from my abusive boyfriend. I've only just emerged from the protective bubble I was in to heal 10 months ago.

[Asker]

Yeah I have everything to this girl and to have it end like that it messed me up not only was she being physically and verbally abusive she turned everyone against me so not only was I having this horrible stuff happen there was people around her saying I was causing it or deserved it

[Asker]

How do you cause someone to hit you, how do you cause someone to call you a bitch, she hauled off and hit me in the head cause she was losing in a video game. It got to a point where I refuse to play because she would become abusive. Another time our dog did something and I had a slow reaction she hit me in the back of my head. Another time I was bending down to pet our dog and she took a cheap shot and kneed me in the ass and just laughed about it it basically got to the point where she felt she could do whatever she wanted with no consequences

[Crimsyjo]

Yeah things can get out of control. I had a best friend at school that kept hitting me on the head. And cos I didn't react and too shy to say anything straight away she just got worse and worse.
Slightly different I know...
But some people I guess it becomes almost a habit. I don't know your girlfriend's background but sometimes we only show our true selves to the person we are closest too. And that can be both positive or negative. There's no excuse for her behaviour. Hold on to that when you feel sad about how you ended up where you are. I'm sure, like most relationships, there was good and bad and sometimes we hold on to the good parts and feel sad. And we mourn and grieve but remember your grieving what could have been rather than what was. Your better off now out of that relationship!! When your ready look for your own support network of friends. And us lot on here are around in the meantime!

[Asker]

I fell into a deep depression because the easier path for everyone was to attack me and villainize me even though this girl admitted to having anger issues. She would also blame it on her childhood trauma

[Crimsyjo]

Ah i see. Well in all likely hood yes her trauma does effect her. But still... in life we should always be trying to grow and accepting our past issues or flaws is about self awareness and trying to better ourselves, not use it as an excuse.
And of course... we all know that men get villanised over women. That a woman hitting a man does not get same response as man hitting a woman. That women are thought of as emotional and man has to put up with a certain level of crazy. Probably true lol... but not to the extent of abuse or disrespect in a relationship.
I hope you can heal soon from this!

[Asker]

I don’t know if I’ll be able to date again I just wanted to find a truly special girl and I nightmare is what I found that even after months of being broken up the after effects still haunt me

[Crimsyjo]

I don't know how old you are. You can DM me if you can do so without worrying about being anonymous.
I've now had 3 not good relationships. My first was longest and probably best but still, plenty of not good issues I was too young and naive to think about. I've had a few complicated "friendships" that emotionally hurt me when feelings get too involved.
I spent 8 years like I said healing and recovering and living in a bubble to protect myself after the worst relationship. But here I am... back trying again.
My last boyfriend ugh... I evidently didn't learn enough from the bad one. But I did learn enough to get out faster 3 months instead of 3 years.
And you know... every relationship even heartbreak helps you grow as a person. Be self aware. Be stronger. Know your boundaries and what you are looking for. It sounds too soon for you yet. And even if never ready so long as you can find peace in that decision that's OK too.
Just do what you feel at the moment. But with an open heart that nothing is set in stone. You can change. Your desires can change. And another relationship might work out. But sadly it's always a risk.

[avery58]

She sounds like a bitch. You should have told her not to flatter herself

[Asker]

It made me wonder if some women go fucking with people for the fun of it

[avery58]

I never have but I would think there probably is a minority of women who do, who knows maybe she's just being a bitch because she's on her period or something but it's no excuse to act like that

[Asker]

So should I try to avoid any eye contact with women moving forward and i I see I’m coming up on a women just immediately look at the ground

[avery58]

No, of course not. Most women don't act like that, she just doesn't have any etiquette. I mean, this hasn't happened to you often right? You shouldn't be afraid to just go about your day freely, you're not doing anything wrong. If anyone else bitches up next time just keep your head up and like I said tell them not to flatter themselves and ignore them.

Don't let her ruin your day, she's just a stranger

[Asker]

Well having a women say eww when she sees you can absolutely kill your self esteem even if she doesn’t know you

[avery58]

Yeah, I understand. But trust me I'm sure she just did it to annoy you and make you feel bad. Besides tastes are subjective, people like different things. She's just one person, it doesn't mean everyone agrees with her

[Asker]

Yeah i already struggle with low self esteem

[avery58]

You can always find ways to improve yourself if you want, don't worry so much about it

[Asker]

Not likely I’m hideous based on that eww

[avery58]

You can, by hitting the gym for example. It improves not only looks but your health and mentality

[Asker]

I was muscular and fit and it did nothing for my confidence or dating life

[Taniisokay]

She is a weirdo, don't let this shit ruin your day.

[Asker]

Like she was coming out of a building and I just happened to look up and she said that and I’m thinking damn I’m not even interacting with her

[Taniisokay]

Yeah. Someone are rude. She is the problem. Next time don't mind her. I met someone that called me a bitch on my birthday morning when I was shopping but I didn't mind him. I didn't feel anything. Some people are damn weirdo.

[Asker]

So should I try to avoid any eye contact with women moving forward and i I see I’m coming up on a women just immediately look at the ground

[Taniisokay]

Act normal. Don't generalize your experience. That's one fucked up lady you came across.

[Asker]

Yeah i already have low self esteem

[Taniisokay]

Damn... that sucks. I will pray for you.

[Asker]

Yeah when I got in the house I was thinking wow this is probably what most women think when they see me

[Taniisokay]

Sucks to have a low esteem indeed.

[DrPepper12]

Cuz their mean n soulless and aren't worthy of your time and attn.

[Asker]

Yeah just makes me not want to leave my apartment

[Anonymous]

So she just simply said "eww"? She didn't say "eww gross"? This just sounds like something a young girl might idiotically say. Nothing to take seriously or worry about.

[Asker]

So should I try to avoid any eye contact with women moving forward and i I see I’m coming up on a women just immediately look at the ground

[Opinion Owner]

Of course not. Looking at people and attempting to be friendly is just natural human nature. Don't let silly words that a person says dissuade you from acting friendly

[Asker]

Yeah i already have bad self esteem

[Anonymous]

Maybe she didn't like your dog.

[Asker]

But she looked right at me