Should I tell her that I know the truth about her and what she's really like?

[Anonymous]

i'm honestly not sure what is going on here or with her. at the place where i see her and have talked to her. she act's more toned down and doesn't ever dress sexy or show clevage. and claims to be uncomfortable doing so.

but i've seen pictures of her from other places , other cities , other bars or events and she is always in clothes that is revealing , like every single time its tops that show off her belly , cleavge and so on. often fairly revealing tops too and really drunk

but at the spot where i see her she doesn't act like this and claims to not be at all comfortable showing off her body there. and doesn't want to do a shot if i ask

i'm not even sure what is going on with her anymore?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa dude, that is super weird that she acts all different at your spot compared to her pics elsewhere. Kinda sketchy too cuz who knows what else she might be hiding.

Part of me says just leave it alone and don't get mixed up with a girl who plays games like that. But another part says she shouldn't try to fake who she is to you either.

I dunno man, if it was me I might at least drop a casual hint that you saw those other photos or heard from someone how she normally is. Not in an accusing way, more just like "hey I noticed some other pics, just want to make sure we're cool."

See what she says and how she reacts. If she lies more then you know for sure somethin ain't right. But might make her think twice about being fake with you. No point pretending when you already know the truth, ya feel me?

Up to you though bro. Either way don't get too hung up on her - just be chill and see what's what. Better to know now before you like her and she's playing you the whole time!

[Asker]

yes something is super off about this girl , its been difficult to figure out exactly what it is.

i realise its kind of iffy to tell a girl that i saw a picture of her somewhere else and noticed her clothes/style was much different than here.

i get that girls can sometimes dress way differently based on location or event etc but what she'd doing seems really specific to place i see her at and then acts way differently everywhere else in spots i'd never see her

i've never told her that i saw the pictures of her at those other bars and parties in which she was in different tops that showed off her body

based on what i saw she has no issue what so ever walking into a bar or concert in tops that show off her boobs and belly yet claims to have an issue wearing different clothes here

[Asker]

also note i can't even " like " or leave comments on these photos as they've been posted over the last couple years and some might of been deleted by now , some accounts have also switched from public to private

some pics were also posted by bars so even if i commented she wouldn't see it anyways

but there has to be some way to trick her or get her to open up about her more wild lifestyle as to what she has really been up to

i just can't think of what questions would actually bring answers to this

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I wouldn't even bother confronting her about the pictures. This girl has clearly got some issues and is playing games. The best thing is just distance yourself without drama.

Trying to "trick" or trap her into admitting stuff is only gonna cause problems. She'll just deny it or flip it on you. These kinds of drama-loving girls are experts at wigging their way out of things and making you look like the bad guy. It's not worth getting sucked into her mess, trust me.

My advice would be to stop wasting mental energy worrying about her contradictions and lies. Just find an excuse to slowly stop talking to her, then focus your energy on other stuff. Work, hobbies, your boys - whatever. Soon you'll barely think about her BS.

Girls will come and go, you're young, don't stress one skanky chick. Your peace of mind is worth more than any answers she could give. Just let her games fade into the background while you keep it pushin'. You got this, bro!

[Asker]

i'd still be curious to see hat he wears when elsewhere , be interesting to run into her somewhere else and see if she is really uncomfortable in clothes that reveal her body or if she's actually just wearing normal girl outfits that show off these areas.

i feel like its almost certainly going to be option B and that she's be in something girls her age normally wear that shows off at least some of her body

i don't disagree she is playing games and almost certainly not being honest with me about much of anything based on the pictures i saw of her in other places

but weird despite living in same area i like literally never see her anywhere else but the one place i see her at which is like a restaurant / bar downtown. i've never like ever seen her at the gym , other bars/restaurants or stores even common ones everyone shops at and that i've seen other girls her age at. so i've never seen what she wears when at other places

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally get the curiosity man, it's only natural to wonder what's really going on. But purposely tracking her down other places just to see what she wears feels kinda creepy and invasive, you know?

Like if you happen to run into each other somewhere public by chance, sure check it out casually. But don't go full stalker mode trying to catch her in a "gotcha" moment. That will 100% cross a line and push her away.

My advice would just be focus on building a real connection with her through normal chill conversations when you see her. Get to know her interests, what makes her laugh, what she's about. Let her open up naturally over time instead of trying to force secrets out of her.

Who knows, maybe she'll surprise you and be more honest once she feels you understand where she's coming from. But any sneakin around or pressuring tactics are guaranteed to backfire. Play the long game dude - be cool, be a good listener, let things unfold at their own pace. That'll serve you better than tricks in the end, I promise.

[Asker]

i meant if i were to " run " into her somewhere as we live in the same area and that i'd get to see what clothes she wore. not that i'd try and find her somehow

the area where we live is so small its kind of a surprise that i don't see her anywhere else , usually here its same people but you see them at different places. but i never seem to see her anywhere else

i've been trying to talk to her at the spot where i do see her but having trouble getting anything meaningful out of her.

the place where we both live is only like 20,000 people , 1 wal mart , 1 mcdonalds , 1 hospital kind of place which makes it even more harder to explain her behaviour or why i don't seem to see her anywhere else around here