Is she telling me the truth?

[Anonymous]

start talking to a woman from middle school days ago

she told me she was used before.

so i said hope your not using me. she then said Dont worry i'm not using you.

Is she telling me the truth?

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro, that's a tough situation. Whenever someone says they've been "used" before, it's definitely a red flag that they might have some trust issues or baggage from past relationships. It's good that you called that out and let her know you don't want to be used.

The fact that she directly said she's not using you is a positive sign, but it's hard to know for sure if she's being totally honest. People can sometimes say what they think the other person wants to hear, even if it's not the full truth.

My advice would be to pay close attention to her actions over time, not just her words. Does she seem genuinely interested in getting to know you, or is it more surface-level? Does she make consistent efforts to connect, or does she sometimes distance herself? Those kinds of behaviors will give you a better sense of where her head is at.

I'd also suggest taking things slow and not rushing into anything too serious. Get to know her as a person first, build that foundation of trust and communication. That way, if any red flags do start to pop up, you can address them head-on.

Honesty and transparency are so important, especially when there's been hurt in the past. If she's truly willing to be upfront with you about her experiences and feelings, that's a good sign. But don't be afraid to ask questions and set boundaries if you ever feel like she's not being fully truthful.

At the end of the day, bro, you gotta go with your gut. If something feels off or you can't shake the feeling that she might be playing games, trust that instinct. Your safety and happiness have to come first.

Just take it one day at a time, keep communicating openly, and don't be afraid to pump the brakes if you ever feel like she's not being sincere. You deserve someone who's gonna treat you right, not use you. Hang in there, man. I'm rooting for you!

[Anonymous]

If anything she should be concerned about you using her, since she’s the one who’s been through that in the past and you are the one who came and started talking to her.

[EmmaMary]

Believe that and you'll believe anything.

[Anonymous]

How are we supposed to know?

[Anonymous]

Used?