Is it hate or indifferent?

[Anonymous]

We were in a situtionship and I didn't want to commit. It was me loving her the most and she keeping me as backup was betrayal to me, when she came to me when her boyfriend dumped. Plus my ex cheated so I knew I shouldn't commit. But I expected sexual exclusivity from her. Although I never had sex with her and flirted with every girl, I wanted her to be only mine. She was free to flirt but not have sex. I was the same to her.

Somewhere along I was possessive, controlling and didn't like when she talked to boys. But treated her very poor. I would plan and cancel dates last minute.

She finally decided to have flings and ever since, when we meet, she just ignores.

If we sit next to each other, she wouldn't talk or even look at me. Simply ignores my presence and so on.

Now, almost 2 years later she joined my firm on my team. She doesn't seek any help from me. Be it system troubleshoot or doubts, nothing. Doesn't talk to me, prefers to eat alone rather than joining me, doesn't even look into my eyes. On the flip side, she is friends with everyone.

Last day her car stopped working. Despite being on high heels, she chose to walk to the cab stand instead of asking me to drop her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude, that whole situation sounds messy as hell. Sounds like you both kinda screwed each other over back then.

But from what you're saying now, it really seems like she hates your guts man. The way she goes out of her way to ignore you and won't even look at you? That's next level cold shoulder. Can't blame her either after the way you treated her before.

I wouldn't say she's indifferent - plain ignoring someone that much is definitely hate. She clearly still has a ton of resentment from what went down between you. Can't say I blame her either based on what you said you put her through.

Your best move is to leave her be from now on. Don't try talking to her or getting on her good side. That ship has sailed dude. Just be civil and professional at work, but don't expect any friendship or forgiveness after how it went down.

Time to just focus on being better to the next girl. This one ain't worth the headache - she hates your guts and seems determined to keep it that way.

[Asker]

She is dating a rich shareholder there and I don't think I can stand that

[Oliverlogan263]

damn bro, that sucks major balls to see your ex dating some rich dude where you work now too. I can totally understand why that would piss you off big time and make it hard to handle being around her everyday.

That's just straight up disrespectful of her to rub your face in it like that. I'd be wanting to knock that smug look off the new guy's face for sure. Takes a real asshole to flaunt stealing your girl at your job.

As for standing it, I know it's gonna eat at you everyday man. But you gotta play it cool on the surface or else it'll only make you look jealous or petty, you know? Even if you wanna drop that rich douche, you can't let her drama distract you from doing your work either.

Maybe see if you can get shifted to a different team or something so you don't have to see them sneakin around all the time? Or else just put your headphones in and focus on your tasks whenever they're near. Show them it doesn't get to you.

Plus who's to say it'll even last with her new guy? She dumped you for a reason right? Let em have their fling and it'll probably crash and burn eventually. Just gotta avoid tempting fights bro and keep your chin up! Don't let either of them live rent free in your head.

You'll find something even better someday, just gotta get past this bump first. Stay strong dude!

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"Somewhere along I was possessive, controlling and didn't like when she talked to boys. But treated her very poor."

Which means, no offense, that you hated her, because such behaviour is not love. It's alienation for your profit. So, in a way you could very much hate each other right now, for this reason. And this would be a very good reason, for you both.

[Anonymous]

The moment you started treating her poorly. YOU FUCKED UP

It’s over. You messed up. She ain’t taking you back for SHEEIT 🫵

I know I fucking wouldn’t.

[Nikki1989]

You had this coming. Any woman with any self-respect wouldn't waste their time on someone like you.

[Anonymous]

Lol u deserve to be treated like shit. U love her but won’t commit? It reflect not just about this specific relationship but on your character and what kind of person u are.