Why are so many women into CNC/R@pe?

[disappoint3d]

TLDR; First off CNC is not ok, at all, and if you're into it, you need to seek therapy, man or woman.

Fetishes are one thing, and it doesn't matter how odd it is so long as it's harmless, but CNC is 1. A massive turn off and 2. Is extremely dangerous to be involving yourself in as a man or woman.

In detail; if a man is aroused by being the aggressor, it shouldn't matter how much "you" trust him. These people will always be more prone to be the ones to commit an actual assault.

And if you're a woman, the kink itself is an undermining of feminist principles as a whole. I dont agree with feminism and think "me too" did not create a net positive, but women fought so hard to get the law to take non consensual assault seriously, and now that consent is such a MASSIVE, sensitive subject, it's almost as if women with this kink subconsciously want for all of that to be undone.

I am in no way aroused by beating or assaulting women. Any woman who has told me she is into this has never heard from me again after.

PLUS, I know more than one person who spent OVER A YEAR in jail awaiting trial on false rape accusations before they were both eventually exonerated by the court.

All a woman has to do is change her mind about how "comfortable" she felt with such an interaction for it to go from play to life altering consequences and prison time for a man, VERY QUICKLY.

please help me understand why women like this? Why can you just be into feet or something else?

[petitedollbabee]

All this post tells me is that you don’t understand what CNC is, and that your complaint comes from a place of being uneducated on the topic. I’m not into the kink myself but it’s not hard to understand that it’s harmless when it’s done correctly, like any kink, and it can actually be very beneficial for the parties involved.

[disappoint3d]

I am acutely aware of what it is and it is not healthy. If you've read Ayn Rand at all, her lead female characters often get raped and then later fall in love with their rapists, Ie. Hank Rearden in "the fountainhead".

While fictional, Rand is known for accurately depicting human psychology in the early industrial period of America. Before modern times, it's safe to assume that a fair amount of children were born from what would now be considered rape.

Fast forward to modern day, feminism has swept the west and gender roles have been undone, but as a plus, consent is something EVERYONE is aware of. But after all this progress for women as a whole, many women fantasize about being raped.

Men unfortunately will always fantasize about committing the act, but what is odd is wanting it on the receiving end. It says something about human nature. If most women knew where to draw the line on what is play and what is not, it would be one thing, but many don't, and I know people who have been incarcerated for it, as mentioned.

[petitedollbabee]

Again, all this tells me is that you don’t understand what CNC actually is. But that’s fine, no one’s forcing you to participate in it, so carry on with your life and stop shaming people for something that is consensual and has nothing to do with you. Lol.

[Still-alive]

this person is sounding like a troll trying to push an agenda

[Apple1996]

It's fun! No need to kink shame.

Also you got a giggle out of me by saying why can't you just be into feet or something else lol. Us women just aren't into feet. We aren't simple like you men with foot fetishes 😆

[disappoint3d]

People going to jail is what changed my opinion on it. Please help me understand though, why would you fantasize about what people describe as being the most traumatic thing to ever happen to them when its real?

I'm not into feet, I think that's weird too, but it's harmless, and to each their own. I used to see girls all over Tumblr tagging things like #sendrapethreats, which a threat alone nowadays can send a dude to jail. I get that a lot of those girls are just advertising for onlyfans but the whole thing makes me highly uncomfortable.

[Apple1996]

Because it's not real. The fantasy and role play of of it is harmless

[disappoint3d]

I don't think it matters if it's not real. Are people who are aroused by underage children that never act on their desires harmless?

[Apple1996]

A bit different cuz obviously wrong and the child cannot consent to having sex. The woman for cnc is having the control ironically enough

[disappoint3d]

But you still haven't explained why this is a turn on? I have been assaulted in a home invasion (albeit not sexually) but I would never want to relive that?

If you were actually raped would you still find CNC a turn on?

[Apple1996]

It's different because it's from a trusted person

[QuietRunner]

@Apple1996
trusted seems right

[disappoint3d]

You are just avoiding the question with circular reasoning.

[convo_king89]

Is CNC your kink?

[Anonymous]

Because it plays into the desire most women have to be utterly dominated by a powerful man.

[disappoint3d]

This. Its like women with this fetish subconsciously DONT want to be treated as equals after all. And it turns out there's a lot of them.

[jahaims]

When you try to make a point but don't know what you are talking about

[disappoint3d]

Explain?

True story; woman wants CNC, guy follows through. Guy makes girl mad for some unrelated reason, girl accuses him of actual rape and uses photos of bruises received during CNC as "proof", guy goes to jail and is separated from his kids for over a year until case is overturned.

How can you not see that engaging in that as a man is extremely dangerous?

[Agape93]

CNC is ok because it's consensual and about power play. Rape isn't ok. Fuck off with kink shaming

[disappoint3d]

There's literally a million things a man can do to make a woman uncomfortable, so why would it be a turn on to get rape threats in your inbox?

Because I see girls on Tumblr tagging pictures with things like "send rape threats" all the time. So do women with this fetish subconsciously NOT want to be treated equal to men like we kinda knew all along? You just got offended, and didn't actually answer
Explain please.

[Agape93]

Do you even know what cnc is? Because it has fuck all yo do with an inbox or threats.

All cnc is, is when a girl and her partner role play rape sexual aggression in a safe way with people you trust, usually to get over trauma or to engage in power play.

[Anonymous]

CNC is consensual, it is tapping into a controlled setting environment sexual fantasy with the preparation also careful consideration and consent from the other party. This is with responsible adults consenting to pleasure.

R*pe is nonconsensual, it is forcing one’s sexual thrills onto a victim who had no prior knowledge to the incident and therefore is put in a position they can’t consent towards with no careful consideration either. That is a Predator preying on the Innocent.

[Anonymous]

CNC is by definition NOT rape. You don't have to like it. Some of us do and there's nothing wrong with that, so get over it.

[disappoint3d]

Consensual non consent by definition is an oxymoron actually.

[Still-alive]

You understand how 'make believe' works right disappoint? ^^

[disappoint3d]

@Still-alive we are so far past that part. I want to know why a woman would want to make believe that she is being sexually assaulted in the first place.

[Still-alive]

im sure you're asking in good faith and don't have some axe to grind over this right? hmmm

[disappoint3d]

@Still-alive a woman I actually liked wanted me to do this to her and I got scared with all the horror stories of guys being locked up for false rape accusations. And it just makes me really uncomfortable. I don't even like the thought of threatening, hitting, or forcing a woman to do something like that even if it's fake.

[Nikki1989]

Most women are not that sick in the head.

If you have been raped for real, you would understand.

[disappoint3d]

This makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Agreed but these days you've got to be a brave man to even fathom going near a woman

[disappoint3d]

Stay frosty brother

[Anonymous]

Women are into rope?

[disappoint3d]

I don't know if you're being sarcastic but if not... Yes, a lot are. It seems like something that has gotten more popular in the last 10 years ironically now that #metoo has put tons of actual rapists in prison where they belong.

[convo_king89]

It’s a being dominated thing they like