How do I get over my boyfriend sleeping with someone else when we were separated?

[Anonymous]

Me and by boyfriend broke up about 3 months ago. Two months into break up he slept with another girl. My question is... How did he go through with it if he knew he loves me? If I think about sleeping with someone other than him I get nauseous yet he did it so easily. I had been fighting for him for all that time in between. Now not even a week after being with her he confessed his undying love to me and wants to try again because it didn't feel right. I love that man so much but he knew how I felt about that situation yet still did it? Can men have sex without attaching any feeling to it whatsoever, meaning not even thinking about me while doing it?

And if so how do I get over this, I keep thinking of that night they had together. Is it even such a big deal? How do I accept that our intimacy has been broken?

[alimahadtheman]

Yes, a man is much more capable of having sex without emotions, but that is pointless and this is NOT what your situation is about.

I don't want to dishearten you, (and I shall refrain from insulting you boyfriend) but lets just say he is not good enough for you. What matters is he EASILY got off your breakup as if it didn't even happen and hooked up with another girl. Goes without saying the kind of loose character he has.

And now he comes back after you were on the way to recovery, worsening the pain.

Had I been you, I would never even acknowledge the existence of someone like that, let alone give them another chance and LET ALLLOONE fighting to have them back. Snap out of it because you have been suffering way longer than you deserve to be. You deserve way better than this dbag. I'm sorry but it's true and you're heart broken so you don't see it.

He came back to you a WEEK after he slept with her. He did not even CARE about that girl, neither did he ever care about you. Doesn't that show you anything? **** yes its a big deal! You are not anyone's sex toy. He can't use you, move on to another when you are done, and come back once he's bored.

If I sound to harsh forgive me, but I am trying to make you realize how shallow you're going for this guy. If you don't want to, don't forget him. But don't be his personal doormat. Give him a trial time and wait for a few months without talking to him. I can bet on it, he won't bother staying. He will leave you and his so called 'undying love' for you and move on to hunt another girl.

Again, sorry if I came too strong, but you do deserve better. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

i am sorry to say this ...but guys if they really love someone they would never do anything which will hurt the girl. But in your case I see it as a one way traffic . You have been blindfolded in your thinking because you love him so much. feels as if he is taking advantage of your emotions . Be strong Lady .U ll surely find some way better than him. take for instance the world population is in the billions , there will be million more guys who would find you attractive and would respect you.

i know after reading this you may scrap this ...but I ll realize it with time .

make your decisions wisely

"IF WHAT WE ARE IS THE RESULT OF OUR OWN PAST ACTIONS , IT CERTAINLY FOLLOWS WHAT WE ARE GOING TO BE WILL BE THE RESULTS OF OUR OWN PRESENT ACTIONS>

[udolipixie]

How do I get over my boyfriend sleeping with someone else when we were seperated? Realize he's a guy and you two were separated and he didn't want to masturbate to get rid of his urges.

How did he go through with it if he knew he loves me? He's a guy love doesn't mean much when it comes to sex.

Most sex for guys is emotionless even sex with a girl he loves is emotionless the "feelings" are the ego boost of getting off in someone who loves him.

I love that man so much but he knew how I felt about that situation yet still did it? Wait...he knew you didn't want either of you to sleep with other people during the separation?

Is it even such a big deal? Yes since it causes you to question the depth of his love for you and the fact that your partner did something you get nauseous at the thought of doing to him.

How do I accept that our intimacy has been broken? Leaving him and accepting that most guys don't do intimacy and that sex to most is emotionless and sex with a girl they love is really just an ego boost

[Littleme2]

i am in the exact same boat. my man slept with someone after a months of splitting with me then contacts and tells me he is sad everyday !!! and now im back here in our flat etc thinking all the same things. yes i text and mailed people back but thats as far as it went i couldnt bare the thought of someone having their hands on me. give me a mail we can get through this together !!! spit venom about them in email !!! i want my relationships i have my moments i go out a run !! im now a size 6 after 2 months !!!

[Anonymous]

Yes men can have sex without emotions. I was in similar situation.