How do I get over what my boyfriend/ex did?

[Anonymous]

I was dating sb almost 8 months ago, and i am kind of person who birthdays is a really big deal to me, anyway i met this guy and he knows that about me and he knows that i don't forgive when it comes to my birthday, things were on and off a lot and on my birthday he literally did nothing not even said happy birthday, we were supposed to go out and he cancelled me at last minute as usual , and i told him on that day its my birthday and he said, so what do you want me to do.
I am not a silly person i should have dumped him long time before that since he started to underestimate me and my value and ghosted me but deep inside i always had some hopes and he still cares, he is not interested and my fault i didn't realise that earlier
The issue is he tried to call me back and get back together and i told him no and dupmed him,
I just can let go of my anger and what he did to me i know i left, but its been two months now since my birthday but i still have anger and hate feelings and can't let go or get over it

[ohsheeT]

Okay I hear you loud and clear it is a big deal to you and it should be a big deal to you and when something is a big deal to you your boyfriend or your girlfriend should make it a big deal I mean a really big deal and make that day one of the best days in the world for you because they know what a big deal it is for you so make it a big deal..

I think that since you said way before even your birthday things weren't right and you should let him go that's what you should have done then that you didn't and that's okay you didn't because you were just hoping that he was going to have a good birthday party for you and it would make everything and all the reasons why you felt you should have let him go in the first place it would have made everything all better but he proved to you twice who he is so let it go accept it forget about it this one birthday your next birthday is coming up if you don't have anybody around to celebrate with you send me a message I will celebrate it with you..

Because it is a big deal for you it means something to you I just had a birthday on the 7th of September I forgot it was my birthday until somebody brought it up because birthdays don't mean anything to me really but to a lot of people they do and when they do you make it the best party the best time that they can have because that's they're celebrating their life and it can be romantic and passionate and just a beautiful thing so you have to accept it and just let it go that's all there is to it acknowledge it and say hey I. Blood when I first felt that we shouldn't be together I should have walked away then that way I wouldn't have to go through the birthday thing but I just wanted to see if he was going to come through and he didn't so accept that and just let it go the faster you can do that the faster you can get back on track on your life and things will start happening for you before your next birthday so smile and happy birthday

[LiamJHayden]

Instead of being angry, realize that this guy was not for you, recognize the reasons why, and do not overlook those bad qualities in a future relationship.

I know in this moment this advice sounds "whatever" but it will help in the future. There are guys out there who will treat you properly, but there are also a lot of weeds out there.

[Asker]

Yes correct lots if weeds

[Anonymous]

Lol imagine my situation. I invited him to have drinks on the night of his birthday. But he rather spend his birthday night with someone else. I dressed up , and was waiting for him at the venue we discussed. But he never came

[Asker]

Yes i imagined myself in the same position at his birthday, its in next week glad that mine is before his

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the birthday blues mixed with a dash of love gone sour – I've seen this episode before, and let me tell you, it's a rerun worth skipping next time! Your feelings are as valid as they come. Birthdays are special, and when someone knows this about you and still chooses to underwhelm, it can feel like a direct hit to the heart. 🎂💔

But here's the juicy part: you've recognized your worth and took the first step towards self-love by saying "no" to a comeback tour. Applause for you! 👏

Now, how to drop that heavy luggage of anger? Channel that energy into something that makes you glow. Think of it as the universe's way of nudging you towards better things (and people!). Anger is the emotional junk food we sometimes binge on; it feels right in the moment but oh, so wrong afterward. Swap it for the nourishing stuff - passions, hobbies, and perhaps a self-love date or two.

Remember, moving on isn't just forgetting; it's forgiving yourself for the time it took to see their true colors. You're on a journey to a brighter, lighter you. So next time someone doesn't treat you like the birthday queen you are, know that it's their loss, not yours. Onwards and upwards, love! 🌈💖

[gag6474]

grow up. birthdays are for childeren