i hurt my boyfriend so much just because of my past, I really need help on this. like A LOT. we love each other sooooooo much and sometimes we "fake breakup" because were upset but we both know we can't be without each other. he gets SOOOOO upset about my sexual history. can someone help me who's been in this situation! I don't want answers like "dump your boyfriend" because its not going to happen. I want to be able to say or do something to make all that "bringing up my past" to stop.
How can I help my boyfriend get over my past?
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There is nothing you can say or do that's going to change his behavior - that's something he's going to have to decide on his own. I find it incredibly immature that he's hung up over something you have zero control over - but hey, love is love.
The only thing I can suggest is for you to refuse to discuss your past with him at all. Just tell him that all it does is create stress in the relationship and rehashing it all isn't going to solve anything. Explain to him that if you had the power to build a time machine and revisit the past to warn you away from the decisions that you made before you EVEN knew him, you would. But since you have no control over the past and everything that happened to you made you the woman he loves RIGHT NOW, he's just going to have to somehow learn to come to terms with it. "I love you, baby, but it's the best I can do. I don't want to discuss it anymore. Let's get some ice cream."
Good luck
*biting my tongue*
hate to tell ya but there are people who can handle sexual pasts and there are some who just cant. Even if he says its ok, it never will be in his eyes. I've been in this situation, and I just couldn't let her past go in my mind. She was an ex-prostitute, and it just drove me crazy to think about how many sexual partners she had. I don't know what your current situation is, but it doesn't look like its gonna end well. It sort of makes me sad because she was an amazing woman, who made some bad choices in life. I'm sure your cool too, but if you boyfriend can't let it go, you can't force him to.
tell him to grow and pair, what happens in the past is in the past. your writing a new chapter in your life with him, and he should only be focused on the present and the future with you.