Ladies, what are things that instantly disqualify a man? Also, what are things that instantly qualify him?

[Anonymous]

[SueShe]

Every man is automatically disqualified and also every woman.

I don't date, never did and have no plans to date because in today's world, there is nothing that motivates me to want to be in a relationship. Most men, not all of course, only want to get in a girl's pants and when they are finished with her, they drop her and move onto the next victim.

Alas, today, everything revolves around fornication and there is no longer a long term commitment; long term meaning 25+ years. Women are disposed of after use and when they are no longer a novelty. This has been our fate since the beginning of mankind and is not likely to ever stop.

[BetaBucks]

Literally every long term marriage I've ever seen ended was from the woman cheating on the man and leaving. And the rest are still happy and together.

Statistically, women initiate a vast majority of divorces, especially if he doesn't earn enough money (triple the divorce rate). So I think your PoV is a bit unfair.

And to say everything revolves around fornication, when the typical LTR involves less than 1% of their time having sex, isn't fair either in my opinion.

And most men are actively looking for relationships. Your PoV probably stems from viewing the bottom 80% of men as non-existent, so the top 20%, most likely to be players, looks like it's representing the entire sex. Those other 80% would desperately like a chance at a healthy relationship with a sane woman.

[marshmallowcream]

Disqualify :
Doesn’t want kids
Is not looking for something serious/long term relationship
Unattractive
Already has kids with another woman
Unhealthy (i. e overweight )


Qualify :
Same morals and values
Mature
Makes intention clear / good communication
Attractive
Stable career ( this doesn’t mean rich just stable income )

[missindiana93]

1. Lives with his parents
2. Can't keep a job
3. Dosent have a car
4. He can't cook
5. He's mean to kids
Qualify
1. Has a career and lives on his own
2. Stable life
3. Handsome
4. Family man

[Asker]

Great, clear answer. Do you think most women would consider a man living with roommates as "living on his own", or would it make him less desirable?

[missindiana93]

Well considering the my ex had roommates didn't make him less desirable I didn't mind.

[Nikki1989]

Lack of respect, poor hygiene, lack of confidence / insecurities, Inconsiderate behavior etcetera.

[Smashingdoozy]

Rudeness and closed mindedness.

Genuine kindness.

[LiamJHayden]

Just here to see what I'm doing wrong.

[Asker]

you and me both. :)

[Ariesman81]

Listening to women for starters...

[msc545]

@Ariesman81 Good point !

[Apple1996]

If he gives me the ick in anyway

[Asker]

I guess that would pose the question: what gives you "the ick?"

[Avicenna]

If he’s two seconds older than her….

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna that is accurate 🤣 I remember being at my exes birthday party and thinking ew why is he so old lol broke up with him shortly after that

[Asker]

Okay, but that makes it sound like it wasn't a great connection to begin with.

[Apple1996]

No the connection was fine like friendly but I couldn't get into him sexually because he was older

[Apple1996]

The sexual side of things felt disgusting when we tried

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna the guy needs to be at least be born in 1997 for me to consider him

[Asker]

Fair enough. You can't control what is disgusting or not. I feel the same with some older women or women with kids, tattoos, etc. In actuality though, it usually depends on the person.

[Avicenna]

Now, Apple, as much as I prefer younger women, I still date women a little older than me.

[Apple1996]

Ah i must go get some tattoos so I can cover your whole list

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna at your age I'm not sure being picky about age matters 🤔

[Avicenna]

It does at most ages because you can reduce your dating pool a lot.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna probably but the most taken people are ages 30 to 45 or something like that lol younger or older there's lots of options since more people those ages are single

[Avicenna]

There are lots of women in their 50s who are single. I’ve only met one I found to be long-term relationship material, though.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna because at 50 a "long term" relationship isn't ideal anymore when death is around the corner. 😂Might as well only have fun relationships

[Avicenna]

LOL, „death around the corner“.
No, it’s because these women are usually still pissed of about their divorce or they are childless cat ladies.

[Asker]

I don't mean to be rude, but that seems like a gross misunderstanding of life.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna cat ladies are top tier 👌 that's my dream for when I'm old and my kids are out of the house and my husband is dead or to old to notice the cats

[Avicenna]

According to you, that’s coming sooner than you think!

The cat ladies only want friends with benefits!

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna life goes by fast so gotta start collecting those cats soon 🐈
And because they are smart. Before I met my husband I had planned on only doing friends with benefits and staying single for life lol

[Avicenna]

See the thing is, when you meet the right person, you want to go exclusive with them, so I don’t take it literally when someone says they only want friends with benefits.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna ah I see so you give the cat ladies a chance? Lol

[Avicenna]

Of course- I don’t have a problem with them (I even love cats!). I did turn one down who just wanted me to accompany her to business events in return for sex and some home-cooked meals, but I really was dead set on an exclusive relationship at that time.

[Avicenna]

LOL, they’ll say looks and financial situation

[Asker]

And act differently?

[Avicenna]

Probably not