Ladies, what are some of the things men do that turn you off?

[Hafia_xo]

[Rosexøxø]

Honestly... when they complain about women.. because then they just remind me of women who complain about men.

Also some rude men. Not all because some you can tell do it out of some hidden frustration, but others are like actual women haters who trigger me or turn me off altogether.

Sexually? Obviously a gay or bi man. I need me a straight hunk :)

[Rosexøxø]

glad you posted both of these by the way! I'm confused why some guys decided to jump onto this post though... lol I can't even process what they're trying to say

[DEondeBeaumont]

I like dominating women like you in the bed.

[Rosexøxø]

@DEondeBeaumont that's flattering :)

[BlueScorpio]

Lie, cheat, not affectionate, mean/cold, doesn't put effort in the relationship, non commital, has double standards when comes to women.

[Anonymous]

I know not all women are going to have the same answer/perspectives here. But let’s look at two scenarios with two identical guys

Scenario 1

Guy acts loud and seemingly “confident”. That turns you on. But you notice some red flags but you try try to overlook them. But AFTER he’s already got in your pants he’s everything you don’t like i. e. rude, loud, arrogant, selfish, etc.

Scenario 2

Guy genuinely acts polite and nice. Has manners and shows genuine interest in your life. But he’s a bit shy and introverted. You see that as underconfidence and decide to friend zone him thinking a “friendship” lightens the blow It actually leaves him in horrible self loathing and slowly makes him more misogynistic

Now which guy above is more likely to have long term issues and will quit listening to what women “say” they want? The aggressive asshole you gave it up to but later dumped? Or the polite nice guy you friend zoned and never gave a chance to?

The selfish asshole might one day have a self reckoning because he can’t stay in a long term meaningful relationships and needs to improve bid behavior. But all along the journey he was getting his biológical needs met. But the nice guy was rarely getting his needs met.

So how do you think men are going to respond to your complaints when we see what you having (initial) feelings for vs. what you don’t?

[Opinion Owner]

Identical looking guys.

[little_bird1]

I'm mostly turned off by men like you. Blaming others for their own shortcomings. Saying things like "the aggressive asshole you gave it up to" like our vagina's are something to give like a prize. I'll tell you why nice guy got rejected, is because he doesn't give sexual vibes, because he is shy. That's his own shortcoming. It's same as being obese, no one wants to fuck fat people. They have choice to change they just don't. Same with nice guys. They believe they are entitled just because they are nice. Grow up dude. You wouldn't fuck an ugly girl no matter how nice she was, so stop being a hypocrite. Being shy is a valid reason for turn off/rejection! Stop bitching about it and fix it! There are many ways to fix shyness (therapy, books, socializing, etc).

[Opinion Owner]

@little_bird1 my example above was an over simplification and an exaggeration. It’s not that simple.

But women are attracted to CHALLENGE whether they admit it or not.

Also I don’t have a problem with women going after those kinds of men. Whatever floats your boat. I do however have a problem with them COMPLAINING about those guys after the fact. You made a decision to date and sleep those kind of men. The decision is on you.

[little_bird1]

I agree with you that girls like challenge. But it's mostly younger girls, from teen to early twenties. I don't know what it is maybe something biologically but girls often see that challenge in "fixing a bad boy". But it's usually just a phase, we soon realize we just want a good boy and that we can't fix bad ones. In my 30s now I see bad boys as nothing but a quick fuck, if they're attractive enough (that's how they see themselves too so win-win). Grown women know what they want, and we don't want challenges, we just want peace, security and good fuck.

About the other point... aren't you being a bit selfish? I see it's strongly coming from the friendzone issue, probably some girl that rejected you but is dating an "asshole" who she complains to you a about? Not everyone is so wise and experienced, it takes some beatings and lessons in life to figure things out, why would you be so harsh to someone who's in process of that? Friendship is a foundation of any successful romantic relationship, if this person is worth friendship to you (and think very carefully about this) then you wouldn't abandon them you'd help them. Would think the same about your guy friend complaining about his asshole girlfriend? You'd probably try to help him right?

[Opinion Owner]

@little_bird1 where I am coming from is very complex.

I was fortunately blessed to be tall, good looking and very athletic when I was younger (I did work hard). So I lost my V card rather young and I did get a lot of female attention in my 20s and early 30s. I actually went through my own manwhore phase in my late 20s and early 30s. I wasn’t an “asshole” for the most part. But I was careful to not be overly available. I wasn’t shy about making a move. And I also got better at the “toxic guilt” I struggled with after having sex when I was younger.

Anyway that manwhore phase felt like the lesser of two evils at the time. It’s got it’s on downsides but it was better than doing everything women “say they want” and being treated like complete shit for it.

So in my mid 30s I tried to do things right again. Over the course of 5 years I had three GROWN ASS women in their 30s confidently try to friéndzone me again. One was a year older then me! I actually cut these women for slack initially because I thought that age they would understand men better and accept that now hetero man (in dating compatibility range) is okay with that crap.

That really depressed me. Made me believe most women never grow out of that crap.

Truth is every time I take it slow and do the right things I got screwed. I actually slept with all 3 of my previous long term gfs within three dates. I really did it more out of “staking a claim” vs. instant gratification. Felt like if I didn’t show where I stood the friendzone is inevitable and all my effort, time, hope, heart, money, etc was just being exploited.

[Anonymous]

Well... I am speaking by experience as I grew older... so far with ALL Women... really I mean all.. I am not a pessimistic person. I tell you what I witness and experience

1. Not saying the "Right" things. (I don't know what that means for women but okay...).

2. Not acting someone I am not aka force a joke, be funny, be flirty. Forcing it all. With the correct gestures and face expression. Like a well-paid actor

3. Not impressing her with anything. It could be a demanding job (doctor, lawyer), or it could be a hobby/passion (Professional singer like Nate Dogg). And whatever...

4. Not agreeing with her. Like if she says: "wanna go to that place?" But then you actually have an appointment that is very important:

"I am so busy, I can't. But I will let you know as soon as possible :)". You truly mean that and you are excited to see her again, you genuinely like her and all of a sudden she ghosts.

5. Not justifying your single status or your life. "How are you still alone? Why are you single? Why are you happily single and are so fully satisfied? What about a girl?". LMFAO GIRL !!!

6. When you clothes don't match your style. You have to be a model.

7. Not being experienced in relationships. Like you are supposed to bed 900 women, 12 relationships to be attractive.

8. Being pure at heart, a good human being. Not so attractive... eeeeeeeeehhhwwww!!! Bad boys for the win baby.

We men feel forced to do something in your presence. Like being funny, being cool, being flirtatious (ohh chiki chikiiii 😏😏)... we can't be normal, being authentic. If we do, reject. Because that's boring.

I need adult, mature women. That's why I hit on 45 year olds.

[Pinay_ako]

• #1 Stinky
• Arrogant
• Unhygienic/slob
• reeks of alcohol and smoke 😷
• no ambition/goals
• thinks of me as sugar mommy 😂
• rude
• thinks his dick size is a gift to women 😑
• All he talks about is sex…
• talks about himself a lot
• DMs me here as a GIRL. Asking for nudes 🤣

[camilaaaa22]

This!!!

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Hey what's wrong with 8th lol 😆

[DarkWinterNights]

That last one’s a hoot. How does that start off?

“Hello fellow womens. How bout them nudes? Platonically of course...”

[dustybiker]

The ones that refuse to adapt but then whine about how nobody changes for them are the most screechy. Like nails on a chalkboard.

Otherwise you just kindly point out what bugs you and most men will compromise. Just expect them to share their nitpicks of you back. lol That’s a real relationship though. Give and take.

[Sirenboobzilla]

Act like they're superior; like they're a gift to human kind and I must spread my legs and feel overjoyed...

Arrogance

Bad hygiene

Effectively lives for being negative

Constantly complains about every little thing

[monorprise]

I find it interesting how your "turned off" by typical masculine traits of self-confidence. I wonder if it has anything to do with your past experience with a few men, or perhaps the family in which you were raised?

The remaining 3 seems to be problems with the culture raising boy like girls to be lazy and complain rather than fight.

[Hafia_xo]

@monorprise how is bad hygiene, acting superior, arrogance, being negative and constantly complaining masculine traits of self confidence? Bc it really is just a masculine trait for a being a complete nobhead

[Sirenboobzilla]

It's one thing to be self confident. But to the exaggerated point of arrogance is just eew. And yes, with past experiences with men, I can safely say "this is what I don't want."

As for being raised as a 'boy like girl' well, I am the main bread winner in my relationship. Say what you will, but that's not an insult to me

[RangerBlue22]

@Sirenboobzilla overconfidence is unfortunately more effective for guys than the opposite.

What you want is for men to be masculine/confident at the RIGHT TIME. The requires mind reading on the guy’s end which is impossible.

So guys usually go in one of two directions: act aggressive/overconfident all the time. Sometimes they get slapped back hard and rejected on the spot (deservingly). It’s more risky but there are more benefits.

Then the thoughtful guys actually make the mistake of listening to what women say and take it as face value (it’s not face value). They come off as too nice and passive out of paranoia. Those guys fare worst than anybody.

Anyway all of this isn’t so simple. But you need to double check your initial impulses when a guy interacts with you. If he’s loud and aggressive a part of you might get turned on thinking that’s masculine behavior. When that happens you quickly overlook his flaws.

Then if a guy is nice and polite you think he is only looking to be “friends”. He most likely isn’t.

[monorprise]

@Hafia_xo only questioning why the 1st one was an issue.
I did not question why the remaining 3 were issues.

[monorprise]

@Sirenboobzilla Ahh so it is past experience that makes this judgement, perhaps then you can inform me where exactly do you draw the line between a man believing in himself and being arrogant?

As for the other issue of Boy raised like girl that was not intended as an insult to you nor even addressed to you at all but rather most boys raised in or after the 1990s.

The consequences of this kind of school methods of teaching motivation is boys become quite lazy, uneducated, and poor. This of course means hygiene which has always been a lower priority for boys then girls gets demoted even further down the list.

Its also why your the breadwinner in your relationship and are likely to be for relationships with most men you might meet from that generation going forward. If you have boys they would do quite well to NOT go to school with girls, and instead attend a school specialized in how boys are motivated competitively to learn.

[Sirenboobzilla]

@monorprise Self confidence is a great quality to have. I certainly wouldn't want someone who's self worth is down in the shitter. However, there's a point where self confidence turns to arrogance and thus becomes a turn off for me. I've dated a few guys that pushed that boundary. Acting like their worth and identity are more important than my own. They'd ask me questions and would then interrupt me while answering. Would pick on my male friends for not being stereotypically macho. One dude acted all high and mighty because he made supervisor at a Wendy's. Don't get me wrong, it's an accomplishment for him and there's nothing wrong with that, buuuuuut he was talking to me as if he was living large.

I don't need a guy who's gonna try and impress me with what he can earn; I already make good money. Nor someone who's gonna flex his muscles.

My boyfriend of almost 2 years won me over by making me laugh and taking an interest in what I like. Literally that simple.

I'm not speaking for anyone other than myself here. Just throwing that out there. All girls are different.

[Anonymous]

Can't think of anything specific to being male, but I guess things like pissing over toilet seat (my ex used to not lift the seat up and piss over it. Not really a turn off but SO annoying, especially if I'd go after him and sit on that). Generally being disgusting in public like spitting, burping, farting, adjusting their thing. Poor hygiene. Loud laughing (my older brother used to do this on purpose and he had a really loud, deep voice. It was very annoying). Not cleaning the bathroom after shaving/trimming (also something my ex did, his beard hair would be all over the sink). Well all these things are just annoying, I wouldn't say there's anything specific to males that turn me off, otherwise I wouldn't be heterosexual. There are however plenty of things PEOPLE generally do that turn me off, but that was not a question.

[RangerBlue22]

That’s actually a understandable response.

[2Wheels]

Arrogance in looks or in general. (Major turn off.)
Constant whining and complaining.
Always saying everyone is stupid.
Constant shaming of others for the way they look or dress.
Ego driving.
Always acting like a tough guy.

Basically don't be an asshole. You can be a masculine man without needing to do these things. Just fyi. 😁

[Subarugirl]

Makes misogynistic, homophobic, racist or transphobic remarks.

Uses his money to try and attract partners.

Speaking ill of others

Arrogance

Exaggeration/dishonesty

Weaponized incompetence

Lacking in emotional maturity

Poor hygiene

Lacking empathy

Being a hypocrite

[888theGreat]

that eliminates me

[Kingofkings1992]

“Weaponized incompetence” isn’t a thing. Gtfoh

[Subarugirl]

@Kingofkings1992 it is though, because people do it.

[jennifer_bloom]

Objectify themselves or others, I had three guys make up lies about me after I rejected them because they felt they were entitled to me after spending time and money on me, not a lot of money, a couple car rides or a few meals at fast food places.

[humanearth]

What I get me, some think fast food meal is a date.

To me a date dinner is a place with a waiter, waitress and greeters. I'm not talking about breaking the bank kind of place.

But maybe Applebee's, Red Robin or similar type places.

To me if someone ask me out to a dinner date and they went to a fast food joint. I'm ditching them

[humanearth]

Glad I'm married don't have to play this modern world of dating game.

I feel sorry for the younger ones. All they do is text

[DancingQueen16]

1. If they don't respond to my text messages

2. If they don't listen to me when I talking and we're sitting right next to each other

3. If all they do is stare at their phone or some other screen when their supposed to be paying attention to me

[888theGreat]

like respond in 1.5 seconds?

[Ayesha587]

When they give you silent treatment instead of talking it out , I hate that

[monorprise]

Just remember most men are not into talking about feelings as women are. We bond on actions and experiences NOT being vulnerable.
If you ask your man to be vulnerable you can lose your ability to admire him and that can cripple the relationship if your not mature enough to respect him without admiration.

[Ayesha587]

Relationship doesn't work without having communication, it doesn't matter he is into talking or not , he has to talk it out instead of Going for silent treatment

[DEondeBeaumont]

@Ayesha587 I mean, I talk, but I can't speak to someone every hour of the day. You have to be patient if you want attention. Blowing up a guy's phone is going to make him go crazy. And I am only going to tell you good things about myself because I know you would get turned off. Like how I am talking about my feelings right now, I can tell you find it very repulsive.

[Cottonpinku]

When he laughs too much. Like, it’s not even funny -_- When he teases me too much, I’m definitely dry by then lol. When he pretends he doesn’t know what I want and makes me beg for it…

[PinkRose24]

-rude to others

-smokes drugs/drinks alcohol

-Talks Loud

-agressiveness

-acts feminine

-bad hygiene

-desperate for female attention

-plays video games

[888theGreat]

I have a booming voice. I don't need a mic. I am a pro trained umpire

[PinkRose24]

@888theGreat guys that are loud and never shout up are annoying AF. I'd prefer guys with deep voices that don't yap about nothing all day long

[Pleaznhim4me]

I do not have the time or the energy to waste on this. I’m already in a bad mood.

[Pleaznhim4me]

After thinking about it. I don’t really get to annoyed about “male” behavior. If anything sticks out it would be dishonesty which is not exclusive to men. Adjusting themselves in public. Being cheap with a good woman. Being classless when wanting to have sex. There are ways to be romantic or nasty. That can be sexy. But just flat out horny male behavior is so irritating and such a turn off. Poor fitting clothing and heavy cologne. Overly feminine behavior. I like men who act very masculine with me and dominant.
So mostly I think guys act pretty comical, entertaining and endearing.

[PrincetonGirl97]

Bad hygiene, slow replies in texting, "I mainly want physical affection" as an excuse for not replying to texts or calls. Being overly touchy. Being obnoxious and loud. "jokes" that aren't jokes.

[A_Bell]

When they pick up any long cylindrical object and hold it up to their groin for laughs.

Not letting me carry my own stuff or fix my own things.

Not letting me drive on trips.

[monorprise]

Seeing as you want to do the man's job for him, are you sure you wouldn't prefer a woman?

[A_Bell]

@monorprise driving is fun.

[DEondeBeaumont]

@A_Bell So you don't want a handyman? So you like the androgynous guys or something? Or a nerdy guy because you think the nerd makes more money.

[Babygirl_S]

The biggest thing that turns me off is if he is a racist and says stuff like x race of women is superior to all. Guys with a fetish for oriental girls do it all the time. I also hate misogynists and unhygienic guys.

[MementoMori_]

You mean white women are *NOT* superior to black women? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 😲

[Hafia_xo]

@MementoMori_ no one is superior to anyone. We’re all Humans

[MikeInHawaii]

1) Speak the truth

2) Fail to be simps

3) Not make enough money, even if it’s triple what you make.

4) Have morals, so you can’t blame us for your failings.

[AviatorTom]

Let me mention some things that drive my SO nuts...

Leaving the toilet seat up

Getting dirt on the towel that we dry the dishes with

Wearing the same clothes two days in a row

[Pleaznhim4me]

Ha I can agree with most of those. The clothes for two days in a row isn’t that bad as long as a shower and clean underwear are involved.

[TroyDT]

Depends on the lady. For some it's if we are not attentive enough, scope out or flirt with other women while with her, are rude or condescending. For others it seems like our very existence turns them off. Or maybe it's just mine.

[TroyDT]

More seriously, desperation and wimpiness seem to tune all of them off.

[TroyDT]

turn, not tune. Where's my #@$!^& edit button!

[Sour-rose]

Have a dong that's not shorter than 0.5 inches

[LovingLoverReturned]

-_- -_-

[LovingLoverReturned]

Lol great joke

[Sour-rose]

@LovingLoverReturned Joke? :)

[xyzfdg]

Was reading girls' replies, reflecting on the guys I know who've been successful with women, and thinking: "they're describing everything the guys they casually f*cked do."

[RangerBlue22]

Yep exactly.

If they want to f*ck these kind of guys then fine. Really I do not have a problem with that. But the fact they complain about them after making a voluntary decision to dive head first into the black hole is 100% on them. There are usually huge warning signs about these type men that these women ignore until it’s too late.

[CA4444]

I think I’m attracted to crazy men, they drive me crazy, maybe cause I’m a bit fucked up too

[AngelOfLight258]

They don't clean up after themselves.

[Hafia_xo]

Honestly!

[HaveNoName]

@angeloflight258 Does that include guys who wipe themselves with a toilet paper (dry or wet) and think they are clean for the day?

[mobiusforniner]

That moment when im in the workplace bathroom and the guy in the next stall has explosive diarrhea and leaves without washing his hands...

[AssholeNumberOne]

Give me sympathy I didn't ask for just because I'm a female. I got dignity too, yknow

[AsaKyo]

When he farts and picks his nose at the dinner table

[888theGreat]

At the same time?

[AsaKyo]

@888theGreat Yes, at the same time lmao

[OnlinePeanut22]

Being too over confidence , being a idoit , cheater , hygiene , lying and can't ts take to for answers if a girls or women are not interested in you.

[Lydianon]

being loud, speaking loudly wanting to control every convo, very off putting, also if they have a bad smell. that absolutely digsting no excuse.

[vitaminlover]

-hyper masculinity/ toxic masculinity
-being conservative (yuck)
-dirty finger nails
-arrogance
just be a normal human being tbh and there won't be a turn off

[Snickers_5171]

Conservatives are normal human beings

[888theGreat]

Conservatives are best catch baby

[vitaminlover]

hell no

[Anonymous]

Being cold, lying, and talking to a lot of females.

[TonightYouu]

Open up. Which is why we delete ourselves 4x more than they do

[Anonymous]

Poor hygiene, bragging, cursing too much, trying to impress me with money/car/materials.

[pass_the_celery98]

I thought that Prada purse I bought you was a sure fire way to win you over :-|

[DEondeBeaumont]

@Asker Awesome, I have been dying for a girl who does not care about money. Do you want our first date next to me in my cardboard box? We can have some anchovies for our date.

[Anonymous]

I hate it when guys don't even treat me like a human. Also being really dirty.

[MORPHEUS_12]

Piss all over the floor and toilet.

[888theGreat]

they don't make toilets big enough

[SaoirseS]

Get tattoos and body piercings.

[melanieeeB]

Nearly everything lmaoo... jk

[Hafia_xo]

Hahah

[Varanus]

Projecting insecurity and/or desperation

[Imsmurter1]

Everything we do women love

[NotTacocaT6969]

Overly confident are we?

Being egotistical like that is something many women hate in men.

[Joker_]

@NotTacoT6969 relax

[Imsmurter1]

@NotTacocaT6969 I’m just joking around but I get your disapproval

[thisluvv]

When they are mean.

[Anonymous]

be too forward

[Anony3942]

SPIT ON THE SIDEWALK

[Hafia_xo]

YESS

[pass_the_celery98]

Really? I guess i'll stop spitting on the sidewalk and just swallow, thanks for the tip.

[Lyndsielee666]

Exist?

[StrongMale]

@Lyndsielee666 Really?

[Lyndsielee666]

@StrongMale does it seem like I’m joking

[StrongMale]

@Lyndsielee666 A bit. Seemed a tad harsh! 😁

[DEondeBeaumont]

@Lyndsielee666 But the men's existence is why you live in a comfortable building or house that men built. Or your air conditioner. Your comfortable job in an office. The dishwasher was made to make women's lives easier.

Maybe you hate most men, but you can't them all. 😆

[DarkWinterNights]

Big femcel energy.

[Lyndsielee666]

big mad over a joke 😌 glad I could be of service.

[DEondeBeaumont]

@Lyndsielee666 No, I know you like us, men. Most men, maybe you don't like, but you still like men.

[Lyndsielee666]

@DEondeBeaumont not really but whatever you want to believe my guy.

[DEondeBeaumont]

@Lyndsielee666 Oh, my apologies. I was wrong

[LavLavLuv]

dry texters

[pink-jilly]

Same

[jimmy2]

She looks like she miss it

[MrTaboo]

Pretend to be girls.

[Anonymous]

Being broke.

[despiteful]

Bad hygiene

[xJayleenx]

Cheat

[Snickers_5171]

Based