Do you think a woman should put her man first before their kids?

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Altheavas · Accepted Answer

No it’s supposed to be a pyramid,
From the traditional point of view, relative to gender, power dynamics roles, etc. Wife comes first to husband, and kids comes first to wife, but it’s a loop where the children look up to their parents as role their model.
However, the husband and the wife are supposed to be a team, where the husband is the provider and the wife manage. With communication, consideration, there will better growth for the wellbeing of everyone.

In modern days, it’s vice versa, whichever gender possess the financial source is the provider, or possess skills to manage, they should create a team to make things work. However, without having a partner with similar values, the modern family is likely to fail. Without communication, and without collaboration it’s likely to fail.

Respect, consideration, communication, commitment, come a long way!

7Phoenix7 · Accepted Answer

A woman and her husband are supposed to be a team. Both a mother and father are extremely important in a child's life. The relationship between wife and husband is the base. If the relationship is not stable and strong... they shouldn't have kids.

Once they do have kids, both parents are a team and should give their all to raise their children.

If the mother is messing up... the dad should look out for the kids and protect them. If the dad is messing up, I as a mother would do everything to protect my children.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

If you are a single mother and you start dating
Your kids always come first and the moment they don't your kids are going to know that and that's going to change those kids and you don't want to do that

And for any guy that starts stating a single mother should know this and understand that her kids come first and that you should back that play

I did it a few single mothers and that's the first thing I would look at if her kids were asking her something or trying to get her attention when her and I were talking I would look at her like answer your kids and I had to explain to just about each one of them hey your kids come before I do I mean come on that's one thing I don't like is if a woman that has kids starts making her boyfriend out to be like a father. Or just starts ignoring her kids because of the boyfriend I don't like that at all

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I say yes. I don’t mean you completely dismiss your kids. But when your marriage is healthy, intact, prospering, the kids see it. It benefits them. They learn a few things from it. Yes there are times when kids must come first, both parents should understand that if they’re mature enough to. But if your marriage fails, it could have a strong impact on your children.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

The kid always comes first.. that is why a lot of people don't make it through a relationship after kids because neither one of them comes first anymore, the kids always do.. Unless you are just shitty parents then you always put yourself or the person you are banging before your kids..

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Taking care of the basic needs, safety, and security of your children should be your highest priority as long as the children are dependent on you. As long as you have taken care of those basics, it is reasonable to make some priority time for your marital relationship.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Both parents put kids first.
kids basic needs must come first. Aside from food, shelter. Love, warm, care, concern… are all needed to raise a child. The partner a should work together to give those to raise kids…

then they should also show kids the love they share.

Anonymous · Answer

Like everything in life, it's all about priorities. Kids? Yup they be her priority but kids don't take #1 priority every time. Sometimes your #1 priority is what's required of you at work, sometimes your partner and yes sometimes it should be yourself too.

Samantha36 · Answer

People think that by putting your partner 1st it means that you're neglecting your kids. It really isn't!

The fact is, you need to look after each other. Happy parents equal happy kids which equals a happy family.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

not really. whole ass functioning adult over (especially younger ages) kids who can't even wipe their ass without potentially trying to chug bleach...

EmmaMary · Answer

@ginger1907  No absolutely not. Personally our children take priority over everything and everyone.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Any woman who loves their kids would put them first. but in this case, 2nd place still gets the Silver.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, prioritizing her partner over her children can have negative consequences for both the mother and the children.

Gwendoline · Answer

Absolutely. One is a child that needs taking care of. Especially if she is a single mother and daddy isn't in the picture.

ManInChains · Answer

I would a woman do that? Women don’t even like men they pretend to because the backlash would be immense.

LiamJHayden · Answer

The question is too vague. In a marriage, the priority should be the spouse, then the kids, but if the child is sick or upset or has some other crisis, that would obviously take priority.

Anonymous · Answer

if women expect men to put them before their kids, then it's only fair that women put their man before their kids just look at the whole abortion debacle and the shame tactics surrounding it

AviatorTom · Answer

No, kids need someone to take care of them. They don't have the skills to take care of themselves. Her man should come second. Pun intended.

strateguy632 · Answer

Only for some things. The adults are talking.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nah. Her kids are more important. Everything within reason, of course, but her relationship with the man can generally wait.

NathanDavis · Answer

kids, kids, then kids... that's the point of having kids

mandyfire98 · Answer

Absolutely not. Kids should get the most of the mother's attention always.

katiesmuff · Answer

The kids would come first and my husband would 100% agree as it would be his choice as well.

avery58 · Answer

Of course not, kids should always come first before anyone else. For both men and women.

Staximus · Answer

Anybody who puts somebody else or themselves before their kids doesn't belong having kids in the first place

RavVid · Answer

I think a woman should make space for her husband

goaded · Answer

Oh, hell no! And any "man" who demanded that isn't worth their time.

maximilientoste · Answer

No! Especially if they aren’t his kids. However parents must stand as a united front and work as a unit when it comes to their kids but no, kids, especially the younger they are should come first to everybody.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

In an intact family there will be no ranking :)

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

H**L to the NO !!! Her children are her flesh and blood; men arrive and leave three times as often as buses, one every five minutes !!!

Anonymous · Answer

A mother who doesn't take care of her partner is putting her marriage / relationship at risk, which is bad for the kids in the long run.

Anonymous · Answer

No! And no self respecting father would want her to.

Apple1996 · Answer

Kids come first

elaphe · Answer

No, I wouldn't respect a woman like that.

Rohaan2020 · Answer

That depends on situation

4ngelic · Answer

no kids come first

Bricealan · Answer

Never

jahaims · Answer

No way. Kids> spouse

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes.

eagle1951 · Answer

nooo

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

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