Men and women who do you think is more responsible for taking care of the children?

[jennyvicks000]

Who do you think?

[Lulu897]

I don’t think there’s just one answer to this, both parents should be responsible for the child. But let me give an example if the mum is a stay at home mum and the dad is a working man, if someone needs to pick the kid up from school it would be the mum because In this situation the dads busy but the mums available and another example is let’s say the answer to your question is ‘the mum’ if the mum is unwell throwing up being very sick and doesn’t have any energy to do anything is tired and the dads well and able to do all tasks but is refusing too and the kid needs to be showered fed dressed, why should the mother get up and do that instead of resting when the father can take responsibility? sorry if the point I’m trying to make isn’t making sense what I’m trying to say is both partners should work together take responsibility be there for eachother fill in the gaps meet ends.

[Lulu897]

It also depends on circumstances, like the example I gave if one partner is unwell and unable then the other partner should take responsibility

[MendaciousMarxist]

Well, people decide to have families and become parents. Why is it controversial to suggest parents should take responsibility for their own children? Should be a given. And once was. We condition girls to aspire to marriage and we dont condition boys to aspire to marriage, and so there is already a terrible imbalance at the start.

[RiseofArtemis]

Is this seriously a question? Women are the ones who take care of children directly when its born and are at the begin more responsible to take care of it. The mothers need to nurse the child for the first few months. The fathers job is only to protect them and make sure they have food, once the baby can eat normal food then the mother isn't actually as important anymore for it and technically the father can do everything needed for the child. At a certain age I think 5 years old a child doesn't even need its mother anymore and only the father is needed who teaches the child the more important stuff.

Both are needed for a child's healthy development, but both cannot do the same job. The mother is at the begin more important and the father later.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Same energy as when people as children: "Who do you like more, your mom or your dad?"

Both of them are equally as responsible of course. From on side, women had this baby inside them and they literally feel like it's part of them, from the other side, men have the instinct to protect their offspring (search "Dad Reflexes Compilation" on YT) and see them grow and be better than them.

[EricJonesAB]

It depends on the people in the relationship.

My ex wasn't a very good mother for most of our son's childhood and he was basically with me from the age of 7 to 15.

[jennyvicks000]

Thanks

[EricJonesAB]

You're welcome. The really hard part was that she had the nerve to go around telling people that I was a deadbeat dad and had nothing to do with our child while he was with me the whole time.

[A_Bell]

My husband works long hours. I don't. I do most of the taking care of our baby girl, fixing meals, errands and housework.

And frankly, although it is draining to breastfeed, once I stopped, the job was a whole lot easier than working full time in a professional job for 10 hours a day. 11 with commute.

I enjoy everything I do at home, especially cooking and taking care of the baby. But even laundry is mostly automatic with peaceful bits of sorting and folding.

[Anonymous]

Taking care of children is a 2 person job. It's called a "partnership" for a reason. Traditionally men make more so in that sense it's probably the woman that gets most the responsibility for taking care of the children. But times are a changing. My sister makes more than her husband. And if they had any kids I'm pretty sure he'd do most the raising. He already does most the housework.

No dynamic is exactly alike. This why I think it's foolish for people to compare thier marriages to others. Each couple has to work out what works for THEM.

[Anonymous]

There is no one answer to this. It's depends on the individuals, the couple and their circumstances.

Having said that, mothers and fathers bring different things to the table in parenting. I know it is very politically incorrect to say this, but mothers are simply better at nurturing young children, and should play that role when kids are younger. The primary value fathers bring to parenting come into play as kids get a little older and need to be taught life skills, values and how to be solid adults.

[Apple1996]

Both parents are responsible but in the early years should be the mom caring for them more just cuz of breastfeeding and all the baby stuff since most men don't have the patience to deal with babies. Moms brains change during pregnancy to be able to deal with them better. Later on dad can take over.

[HighValue]

It is better to have two parents, 1 man and 1 woman, but if you want to know who does a better job as a single parent from what I have seen in my 12 years of working in schools, by far the single fathers do a better job of raising their kids than the single mothers do, especially when it comes to having well behaved kids, kids that perform better academically, are less promiscuous, and that generally seem happier and less stressed out.

[Chazmatazz269]

There are statistics that support this, AND children from single father homes are less likely to have drug and alcohol problems, less likely to encounter law enforcement negatively, and suffer lower self harm and suicide rates.

[CubsterShura]

If you are a parent, you are responsible regardless of your gender or your pronouns. Children don't care about what's in the pants or what pronouns are written on their social media bios, they care that they are getting their needs met, that they are getting attention, care, time, guidance and love.

[kaylaS91]

Circumstances might leave one taking more or different responsibilities as most women are now working and whatnot so you can have stay at home moms/dads while the other is spending more time at work to cover the finances. However, both are equally responsible.

[Chazmatazz269]

The responsibility is equal. The evidence is overwhelming suggesting that single parent homes range from damaging to disastrous to the overall welfare and development of children. Although there are interesting statistics suggesting single fathers generally produce better results than single mothers, i’m certain most children benefit more from equal parenting.

[Orion76]

There are a always exceptions 5 years ago I came home from work around midnight to find my kids are home alone ages 13, 11 and 6 my wife told them she is gonna run to the store but later I found a note pretty much saying that raising a family isn’t her thing and she knows I’ll do good on my own xoxo et cetera et cetera 😅


And sure enough it’s been five years she never took a minute to help and not one cent. So don’t tell me just because the woman is a mother she is more responsible.

[HaveNoName]

For the motherly up bringing, specially in school years, of course its rhe mom although a father has his own irreplaceable place.

From financial standpoint, its the father. And tvis comes from the first point, that at the early formative years, mom should not have the burden of financial responsibility and should gove preferance to the kids over career and money.

By grace of God we managed to lead it that way and so did our parents from both sides as well as grandparents.

[BlueScorpio]

I think both parents can be responsible if they are responsible. But it does seem like people tend to trust wome with children more so then men. Even other men don't like the idea of leaving their kids with other men 🤔

[Pudsmucker]

I think women are the most compassionate loving person to console children. But then on the other hand I do know of a woman that does not care for her children all she thinks about is her self. When her children fall and get hurt they cry for their father. He has a tender loving heart and pick them up and consult them. Women like that should not have their own children. Children should be removed from that woman's home. Move in to live with family. And sent in for metal evaluation.

[Owasso]

It's "supposedly" 50/50. But guys bear a HUGE brunt from the court system if they don't cough up every dime he has to do so... even if there's no oversight from the courts on how it's spent... but she bears no responsibility whatsoever if she tosses the baby in a trash can in an alley so she can continue to "sell content" and live the wannabe celebrity lifestyle of neverending partying. It's best just to not have them now tbh.

[LazerBean]

Both are equally responsible, sometimes that just manifests on different ways.

[SnowedIn]

^^^^^ this right here. Truth.

[monorprise]

Women for millions of years have been more responsible for children, as fathers are more responsible for protecting and feeding the whole family.

[MementoMori777]

Both are equally responsible, raising a child is both of their job, now how the two people settle on how to do it is their concern and their choices and of course it's none of my business

[mobiusforniner]

Meh, its really a personality vs gender thing. My wife admits she can't stand kids. So for our relationship, its me.

[AngelLily]

Everyone is Responsible. But if your talking about in the since of handling the kids more It’s naturally usually the Mother while the Dad works more an help with the kids when get home.

[SteveSmith1985]

I think that this varies from family to family. I think in the aggregate, women for sure. But it depends.