equal is a word with a meaning that dont exist... men and women arnt equal... men are better than women in some ways women are better than men in others... people are better than other people... some talk some short fat skinny good looking ugly smart stupid... equal is a word that shouldn't exist outside of math because such a thing dont exist... this is generalization of course... individuals have to be considered... i love a woman taking control but at the same time ide like to hold some control sometimes 2... but giving a man true control in sex isn't always for the best... some of the shit ide do if i could prob wouldn't make my girl feel 2 good unless she was as kinky as me ;P...
what we desire... sometimes shouldn't come true... because some people really want to rape, torture, murder others... ill say it now it would be a dream for men to control the world and women to be obedient... but i know that wouldn't be good for women so its not a good thing...
... and god promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world... then he made the Earth round and laughed and laughed and laughed...
Dumb poll.
Most obvious answer would be "Men" (history, evolution, ethology, culture, all kinds of nasty little things).
The smarter would be "Depends".
It cannot be simplified down to one or the other. "Generally" I would like to think that the normal thing is "Neither", because it should be consensual at any given time. "Sexually", it *should* have nothing to do with gender roles beyond the point that it's usually the man who takes dominant role in it.
The fact is that it depends on the specific persons, and in case they can't decide (consciously or not) who (if any of them) will be in charge, the relationship will be very unstable.
But living by what "should" be the normal in this matter is already an obsolete, archaic principle in my humble opinion.
I vote neither. A matriarchy would be as damaging as a patriarchy, and no gender should have to be obedient to the other purely because they are that gender. The fact of the matter is, men and women (and all non gender binary people) have great ideas that maybe they wouldn't have if they were the opposite gender. I believe in equal opportunity (note, opportunity does not mean representation. It only means having the same opportunities as the other gender) for men, women, and non gender binary people.
i like the president and the vp kind of idea. if you know what you're doing and want to run things go for it. but if it's a huge decision or if i have an opinion i'd like for it to be genuinely considered. and if i have more know-how in a certain situation i don't mind taking over… it all depends really. but i wouldn't mind if most of the time the guys got it under control. most of the time. not all the time.
Men have perverted issues and ideas about what dominance mean are usually hazardous and sexually promiscuous jerks when the find woman who are wiling to submit to them. Woman aren't at risk or temptation of becoming sexually corrupt if they get more control in the relationship. Eve controlled Adam and Rebekah controlled Jacob. The woman should be in control.
Yeah sure... you seem to have no idea about the new feminists or the constantly rising percent of women's physical abuse against men. If I apply your logic on my opinion about women I could say all women are slutty, which is not true so please stop generalizing you're opinion
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I think women should be in charge. I find that with my s/o, obedience = pleasure, but its not just that sexually, its like when I gave in to it over time, my life has just been more structured, peaceful, and I admit, generally happier and more satisfying. Its just very emasculating and its hard to accept it initially from an egotistic point of view, but once you go past that, its amazing. Word of advice, its a downhill journey, once you get conditioned to it, your chances of going back grow fewer and fewer. Eventually you love it.
Actions speak louder than words. Women want to feel protected and in a relationship, they want to feel like her man knows what he's doing. She want to feel like she can trust his masculine core to make decisions and to stick up for her. Women want men to take charge. Masculine energy consists of decisiveness, strength and purpose. Feminine energy consists of emotions, communication and uncertainty. Once a woman has to move from her feminine to her masculine energy because her man is acting like a needy little girl, she'll start becoming irritated and she'll eventually leave the relationship.
When a man leads with decisiveness, humor and charm, forget about it, that will allow the woman to be in her feminine, where she feels comfortable. She'll feel that her man is a mountain to her, unmovable, unshakeable; moving towards success in life and bringing her along for the ride.
If in the correct and right way (defining & describing that can be a very arduous process) then even women would like the men to be in charge. The women would love to be treated with equality, given freedom, treated like princesses / queens etc and when I guess even feminism would put the man in charge.
However, there has to be a balance in this 'in charge' stuff else it will become autocratic. There are places where the man should be in charge and places where the woman. This is how nature helps us compliment each other.
Equality is about complimenting each other and not about anything else :-)
Lol! People are weird. In the other poll, about two thirds of people said women were the dominant sex including 3 quarters of women. Now a majority say men should be in charge including half of the women.
Sooooo, what we're saying is women are better but should just let men be in charge. It's genius when you think about it. If we decide something they don't like, we get no sex until we change our minds. As for the other 90% of things, women get to blame us for.
Guys are like dogs, we're in front but girls are holding the leash. Whenever we go a direction they don't like, they yank the leash and put us back on course.
That image massively turns me on so maybe we should try it out. XD
Men! Us women can be in charge of the cute girly things that men Want nothing to really do with anyway, like what kind of bathroom theme are we going with etc.. Other than that I don't want any man that's submitting to me it should be the other way around.
stop being so closed minded. why can't it be both genders depending on the QUALITIES AND TRAITS of the person, not the stereotypical judgement of the gender? some men are born courageous and strong, some are born coward and weak. some women are born soft and fragile, some are born stubborn and kind.
some men get turned on by an aggresive women in bed. some men dont care.
How about a ballance? Some men, some women. Equality based on individual merrit even.
If I had to pick one or the other, I would say men. Just because guys are generally less brutally vindictive than women. No way in hell would the Genieva convention get passed in a world where women command the military and run the state.
The smartest person should be in charge. If she's more wise/intelligent then let her take charge, if he's more wise/intelligent let him take over. As long as they're fit for the job I don't see the problem. But then again, you could always share the power :)
Neither should have to "submit" to anyone.
Both people in a relationship should have an agreement on how they would like the sexual dynamics to work. A mutual agreement is the best option to keep both people happy.
If either party is bullied into submission, said relationship is dysfunctional and shouldn't have happened in the first place.
This question doesn't even make sense, and there doesn't seem to be a "Neither because everyone should be equal unless socially necessary for the group to function properly" which is how it is in every hierarchical structure such as workplaces and the like, but it's not hierarchical among sexes. Therefore, voted C): "It depends", or "neither", or "this question makes no sense".
Why can't it be equal, yes I like a man to lead because I find that attractive. However equality is very important, where I live in modern day America, the days of Patriarchial society are diminishing here. Other parts of the world still has this system, but I have my bachelors degree, am independent and don't need man, however love to have one with me of course:)
Equality!
Oh my God. Anyone who things men should be in charge of women belongs in the Stone Age. No one should be in charge of the other person. Being a team is what makes a relationship work.
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Unless there have been a special arrangement of dominant/submissive fetish role playing, there really shouldn't be a one-sided ''I'm in charge here'' in the relationship. They both should be in charge of what they're good at. The relationship should be 50/50.
There should have been an C option for neither.
im good for 50 50 if people wanna help put in the effort and work not gonna stop them. I am happy to work with females but i will never be "obedient" to them for the simple fact is that I would not expect them that for me so I should not have to be for them. : )
The best relationships is balanced with his and her desires. Hence the phrase "two becomes one". Its all about balancing what make you happy and what makes them happy. But lets be honest, men rules publicly, women rules privately. "behind every great man is a great woman"
Why can't both men and women be in charge? Why does it always have to be one or the other? Smh.
lol, I think he is. And they can't both be in charge. Too many cooks in the kitchen.
@ManThatKnewTooMuch of course both can be in charge, don't be silly.
There's only one President babe.
@ManThatKnewTooMuch there are several countries in this world that are run by a president, babe. Some of those presidents are/have been female, babe. Would you really want to leave the fate of the earth in the hands of only ONE president, babe. Don't be silly, babe. But I have to admit, that was pretty much the funniest thing I've heard today, babe. Good night, babe.
Glad you agree, babe. ;o)
Women are organizers. I think the woman gives the push. But a woman may have to run the show when men don't take initiative. But it should be teamwork. I think when women become too dominant it can cause problems. She tries to control everyone and every variable.
For some things women should be in charge and for somethings men. Traditional roles of who does what can be broken but the reason they are traditional are usually because women are actually better than men at picking curtains to match the couch or whatever and men at lifting a refrigerator.
I will omit on the sexual level since it’s preferential.
Otherwise real men are in charge and are leading their woman, because she love, trust and admires him for it.
A woman who wishes to be in control defies nature and has unhappier relationships. No man is happy being dominated by a woman, and no woman respect at male pussy.
There will never be gender balance. One day women will be higher than men and men will be fighting for gender equality and the men will achieve higher status than women and again and the cycle restarts. At least that my theory on prospects of Gender equality.
Neither should have to submit to the other.
In all my relationships we are completely equal.
On a sexual level, its what you enjoy as a PERSON not as a gender. Both men and women can be dominant sexually.
NEITHER... It should be totally equal on all aspects.
Total male domination. I'm talking let's go back to the eras where women had absolutely zero rights. Her only use being to take care of her house and family - whatever her male relatives told her to do, she would have to do. And, her men could actually punish her without it being considered 'domestic violence'.
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@SomeGuy37 No, I'm absolutely not. :/ I don't see what's so wrong with that. Everything was just more simple and easier. I honestly don't understand why women ever decided they would want to be in charge, or even equal. It's just my opinion (and, yes, I understand the irony in saying this given my beliefs).
@AdamThomas This was exactly the role of women during the Renaissance Period. Of course, there are a couple of women who broke the mold, but excluding those, that was exactly how it was.
Why can't we both be equals?
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Fallacy of the excluded third
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No boss in a relationship.
Well men have been in charge throughout our history and I'd say that didn't work out so well. So are you familiar with Einsteins definition of insanity?
@dudeman No I'm not. My initial thought was that no one should be submissive of anyone but that wasn't an option and it's also kinda a boring answer.
So out of the options available, I do not see the flaw in my logic. I mean have a look at history and at the world cultures where women didn't/don't have a say generally suck compared to those where women do. The middle east, India, our dark ages.
Men have had a chance at ruling the world and they've been pathetic at it
The middle east doesn't count because of the constant wars due to geography. You have to look at isolated places like the americas and middle of the jungle matriarch. Men created space travel and hell we are working on teleportation and give women the right to vote though they sbow own group preference and vote to tax men for their decisions. Look at modern day matriarch. They are inner city ghettos
@dudeman Men created space travel in a time when women in sciences were considered abominations. You can't look only at the positives without looking at the negative. Major inventions in human history were born in war for war. Including space travel. And even when an invention was specifically invented for war it was certainly used for it. Nuclear energy became nuclear weapons
When space travel was invented black kids couldn't go to the same schools as white kids.
I think the middle east is fair game, as a matter of fact in terms of wars, violence and injustice it's a lot like Europe before the 20th century. I mean they used t burn women for having red hair there. The middle east now is the prime example for patriarchal culture today and look how that's working out
So to be clear what you're saying is the history men created would overall be judged positively? Same for the world as it is today?
Yeah I think it should be viewed positively if you look to our relatives the apes. We are doing really well. Sure there is a lot of dumb but hell men gave women the right to vote. If women were in charge im not so sure they would have gave men the right to vote. Women overwhelmingly show own group preference
@dudeman So now you think evolution is men's achievement too?
And do you even realize what an absurd statement it is. Men gave women the right not vote, by that you mean in the west in the 1950s, which they could do because when men got the right to vote women weren't considered human. I don't see how you in any would judge that to be positive.
And that's where we disagree, looking at history I think it was fucking terrible.
Well men did bring us out of the jungle. Doubt women could protect us from the beast at night and create the modern infrastructure we have today. A large part of the wage gap is women staying out of construction they have had a half century to fix that demographic and choose not to.
Who thinks women should be in charge? My God, has anyone bothered to think that one through?
*Nuclear war. The Earth is covered in ash and radiation.*
[inside a bunker, somewhere]
"What happened!" A man asks, bewildered.
A lone voice speaks, shattering the silence:
"President Janet was menstruating, and Putin told her she looked fat in that dress!"
No. Just no. Things are bad enough, no need to make them worse.
Amazing poll results. This a lot of what's wrong with the country... weak men and women feel the need to step in. Girls, you're feminizing the weaker males and that's definitely not a good thing. So many young men today are pussies and are encouraged to be so. Until the pussies & and women stop listening to the media and act like they historically have we won't be able to turn things around and we are doomed as a society.
I am a man so my obvious choice is the man just cause we think logically while u think emtionally i think the world be a lot diffrent if women were in charge more than men but sexually it does not really matter to me i sometimes like a girl take charge over in bed.
Generally speaking most humans are too stupid to be in charge of anything larger than a small operation, and even then require extensive teams to manage it, so the concept of one party submitting to the other based on their sex seems, at best, worthless.
Seriously? It didn't occur to you to that neither sex needs to be under the thumb of the other. I vote C: Neither.
"... and on a sexual level. Should men just submit to women and obey?" What exactly do you mean? If you're into submission, good for you. I don't see why you would think all males should be or why women in general should want submissive men.
it depends on the person in my relationships im very submissive... sexually. but outside of sex im top dog if he allows it lol
i think we should be equals! and even though people say that man are in charge of the family i think that woman are most of the times.. their the ones controlling the house maybe children.. but in general man and woman should be equal:)
"Equality equality equality..." I'll just continue repeating this until you understand
I think it should be both ways. That's the way it is with me and my man. Were both dominant in different areas as far as sexually it just depends on what mood were in, it goes both ways.
During sex both should be able to be dominant and submissive. It makes sex more exciting! I love to be dominated, then other times i like to take the lead and be the dominant one
This wasn't a sex question. Someone is hornyyy 😂
hahaha sorry, thought it was when you said on a sexual level haha
I think it should be mutual, but if anyone, women. Men's priorities are usually sex then love, and women's are usually love then sex. I think a lot fewer people would get hurt if the woman was in charge, but again, no one should be "in charge"
Both. There are moment where men can take charge and other moments when women can. Why be sexist when gender equality is evolving in today's society? I think it's fun when a guy takes charge and "takes care of you" so to speak. On the other hand, sometimes my bravado is up to par and I want that control and he may want to be the submissive one. It varies on a day to day, the mood and the two people engaging.
Equals. I think men and women make up a team. A team has a captain and coach. Who do you think is more important or dominating, Neither. In the feild it's captain in training it's coach. It's just the situation. You see I don't expect my gf/wife to pay bills for a dinner out.
How about the most qualified be in charge man or women and just take gender out of it? The best man (as in human) for the job is the best man for the job. Done
It is a circle, for every man there is a woman behind the scene. So, I think Men run the world but Women are the illuminate or Freemasons behind the men :D.
On the serious note, both run this world.
Equality= no one gender is better than the other.
In sex, its always how each person feels about it. Some guys like to sub and some girls like to dom, and vice versa. As long as it's all consensual.
The smartest person should be in charge.
I think they should work together and pull om eachothers strengths. Like fuck man why isn't that an option
Nobody SHOULD be in charge. it's just a matter of whose softer and squishier and who has their shit together.
Why can't we let who ever is more qualified be in charge? If the guy knows more he should make the decision, if the girl knows more she should.
A man should be in charge when the woman is emotionally unstable. While the woman should be in charge with the man at all other times because women tend to foresee things better when they're not in an emotional state.
that's why the words "give and take" were invented.
Woman
Or men
I don't know
I don't like it when men are controlling
That's scary AF
so women
I love it when a woman takes charge, the whips, the handcuffs, the... wait I have said too much ;)
Women of course.
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men are assholes when in charge. Even balance makes the most sense. One person is not multi faceted enough to cover every decision.
Men naturally have a dominant personality. The are good at this, so let them be do it.
Dominance doesn't mean absolutely notorious, it means if you got a big decision to make,
Woman in charge, eh?
You're a manly man, aren't you? Fuckin pussy.
Any real relationship is 50/50
Whoever is best fit - regardless of gender. It's stupid to assume our genitals will somehow make us make for better or for worse decisions.
This is a dumb question, women will vote for women and men will vote for men. Both genders should be equal.
Men definitely we R the man for a reason. We have bigger muscles for a reason and a dick for a reason
oh yes, you had a dick. Yippy! you should be in charge!
Seriously? how old are you 14?
In order for one to be in charge, both parties have got to work together. Its all about who is willing to submit.
Just lookin for trouble lol. Men should period. If not society would collapse. But I think both sexes should work together.
Both should be in charge. Why should just one sex be in charge? It doesn't make any sense.
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