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equal is a word with a meaning that dont exist... men and women arnt equal... men are better than women in some ways women are better than men in others... people are better than other people... some talk some short fat skinny good looking ugly smart stupid... equal is a word that shouldn't exist outside of math because such a thing dont exist... this is generalization of course... individuals have to be considered... i love a woman taking control but at the same time ide like to hold some control sometimes 2... but giving a man true control in sex isn't always for the best... some of the shit ide do if i could prob wouldn't make my girl feel 2 good unless she was as kinky as me ;P...
what we desire... sometimes shouldn't come true... because some people really want to rape, torture, murder others... ill say it now it would be a dream for men to control the world and women to be obedient... but i know that wouldn't be good for women so its not a good thing...
... and god promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world... then he made the Earth round and laughed and laughed and laughed...
Dumb poll.
Most obvious answer would be "Men" (history, evolution, ethology, culture, all kinds of nasty little things).
The smarter would be "Depends".
It cannot be simplified down to one or the other. "Generally" I would like to think that the normal thing is "Neither", because it should be consensual at any given time. "Sexually", it *should* have nothing to do with gender roles beyond the point that it's usually the man who takes dominant role in it.
The fact is that it depends on the specific persons, and in case they can't decide (consciously or not) who (if any of them) will be in charge, the relationship will be very unstable.
But living by what "should" be the normal in this matter is already an obsolete, archaic principle in my humble opinion.
I vote neither. A matriarchy would be as damaging as a patriarchy, and no gender should have to be obedient to the other purely because they are that gender. The fact of the matter is, men and women (and all non gender binary people) have great ideas that maybe they wouldn't have if they were the opposite gender. I believe in equal opportunity (note, opportunity does not mean representation. It only means having the same opportunities as the other gender) for men, women, and non gender binary people.
i like the president and the vp kind of idea. if you know what you're doing and want to run things go for it. but if it's a huge decision or if i have an opinion i'd like for it to be genuinely considered. and if i have more know-how in a certain situation i don't mind taking over… it all depends really. but i wouldn't mind if most of the time the guys got it under control. most of the time. not all the time.
Men have perverted issues and ideas about what dominance mean are usually hazardous and sexually promiscuous jerks when the find woman who are wiling to submit to them. Woman aren't at risk or temptation of becoming sexually corrupt if they get more control in the relationship. Eve controlled Adam and Rebekah controlled Jacob. The woman should be in control.
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I think women should be in charge. I find that with my s/o, obedience = pleasure, but its not just that sexually, its like when I gave in to it over time, my life has just been more structured, peaceful, and I admit, generally happier and more satisfying. Its just very emasculating and its hard to accept it initially from an egotistic point of view, but once you go past that, its amazing. Word of advice, its a downhill journey, once you get conditioned to it, your chances of going back grow fewer and fewer. Eventually you love it.
Actions speak louder than words. Women want to feel protected and in a relationship, they want to feel like her man knows what he's doing. She want to feel like she can trust his masculine core to make decisions and to stick up for her. Women want men to take charge. Masculine energy consists of decisiveness, strength and purpose. Feminine energy consists of emotions, communication and uncertainty. Once a woman has to move from her feminine to her masculine energy because her man is acting like a needy little girl, she'll start becoming irritated and she'll eventually leave the relationship.
When a man leads with decisiveness, humor and charm, forget about it, that will allow the woman to be in her feminine, where she feels comfortable. She'll feel that her man is a mountain to her, unmovable, unshakeable; moving towards success in life and bringing her along for the ride.
If in the correct and right way (defining & describing that can be a very arduous process) then even women would like the men to be in charge. The women would love to be treated with equality, given freedom, treated like princesses / queens etc and when I guess even feminism would put the man in charge.
However, there has to be a balance in this 'in charge' stuff else it will become autocratic. There are places where the man should be in charge and places where the woman. This is how nature helps us compliment each other.
Equality is about complimenting each other and not about anything else :-)
Lol! People are weird. In the other poll, about two thirds of people said women were the dominant sex including 3 quarters of women. Now a majority say men should be in charge including half of the women.
Sooooo, what we're saying is women are better but should just let men be in charge. It's genius when you think about it. If we decide something they don't like, we get no sex until we change our minds. As for the other 90% of things, women get to blame us for.
Guys are like dogs, we're in front but girls are holding the leash. Whenever we go a direction they don't like, they yank the leash and put us back on course.
That image massively turns me on so maybe we should try it out. XD
Men! Us women can be in charge of the cute girly things that men Want nothing to really do with anyway, like what kind of bathroom theme are we going with etc.. Other than that I don't want any man that's submitting to me it should be the other way around.
stop being so closed minded. why can't it be both genders depending on the QUALITIES AND TRAITS of the person, not the stereotypical judgement of the gender? some men are born courageous and strong, some are born coward and weak. some women are born soft and fragile, some are born stubborn and kind.
some men get turned on by an aggresive women in bed. some men dont care.
How about a ballance? Some men, some women. Equality based on individual merrit even.
If I had to pick one or the other, I would say men. Just because guys are generally less brutally vindictive than women. No way in hell would the Genieva convention get passed in a world where women command the military and run the state.
The smartest person should be in charge. If she's more wise/intelligent then let her take charge, if he's more wise/intelligent let him take over. As long as they're fit for the job I don't see the problem. But then again, you could always share the power :)
Neither should have to "submit" to anyone.
Both people in a relationship should have an agreement on how they would like the sexual dynamics to work. A mutual agreement is the best option to keep both people happy.
If either party is bullied into submission, said relationship is dysfunctional and shouldn't have happened in the first place.
Oh my God. Anyone who things men should be in charge of women belongs in the Stone Age. No one should be in charge of the other person. Being a team is what makes a relationship work.
This question doesn't even make sense, and there doesn't seem to be a "Neither because everyone should be equal unless socially necessary for the group to function properly" which is how it is in every hierarchical structure such as workplaces and the like, but it's not hierarchical among sexes. Therefore, voted C): "It depends", or "neither", or "this question makes no sense".
Why can't it be equal, yes I like a man to lead because I find that attractive. However equality is very important, where I live in modern day America, the days of Patriarchial society are diminishing here. Other parts of the world still has this system, but I have my bachelors degree, am independent and don't need man, however love to have one with me of course:)
Equality!
Unless there have been a special arrangement of dominant/submissive fetish role playing, there really shouldn't be a one-sided ''I'm in charge here'' in the relationship. They both should be in charge of what they're good at. The relationship should be 50/50.
There should have been an C option for neither.
im good for 50 50 if people wanna help put in the effort and work not gonna stop them. I am happy to work with females but i will never be "obedient" to them for the simple fact is that I would not expect them that for me so I should not have to be for them. : )
The best relationships is balanced with his and her desires. Hence the phrase "two becomes one". Its all about balancing what make you happy and what makes them happy. But lets be honest, men rules publicly, women rules privately. "behind every great man is a great woman"
Why can't both men and women be in charge? Why does it always have to be one or the other? Smh.
Women are organizers. I think the woman gives the push. But a woman may have to run the show when men don't take initiative. But it should be teamwork. I think when women become too dominant it can cause problems. She tries to control everyone and every variable.
For some things women should be in charge and for somethings men. Traditional roles of who does what can be broken but the reason they are traditional are usually because women are actually better than men at picking curtains to match the couch or whatever and men at lifting a refrigerator.
NEITHER... It should be totally equal on all aspects.
There will never be gender balance. One day women will be higher than men and men will be fighting for gender equality and the men will achieve higher status than women and again and the cycle restarts. At least that my theory on prospects of Gender equality.
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