Ladies, how do you carefully befriend a guy who doesn't like you when you like him back?

[scott04sa22]

I know most women see this as a lost cause and move on. But if you see a lot of potential in him, what would you do?

[MoonFace2]

I used to try really hard, multiple times, to prove my worth, for several years. It didn’t work. So I’ve since learnt to honour their wishes and move on. When they come back because they’ve bombed out with everyone else, I am polite and pleasant. But that’s it. If they told me basically to go away, I’m gone.

[lin123_]

What on god's green earth? I would never pursue anyone who isn't interested in me if i knew this beforehand, i have self-respect.

[abbyjgriffin98]

I won't. Because I know it would only hurt me in the long run. I'd still be polite and professional (I really only meet people at work), but I wouldn't go out of my way to be a part of their life. I feel like it wouldn't be a genuine friendship on my end. I would wish him well, but I wouldn't try to be his friend.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I wouldn’t. There was a guy I knew like that a while ago, I worked with him. He seemed decent enough, and he had alienated himself from a lot of the younger coworkers by saying some things they didn’t agree with. I was closer to his age, and since no one enjoys being the bad guy I could give him a chance, but he never initiated a conversation with me. And when I tried he would tell me, quite bluntly, to leave him alone. He didn’t like me, and I never made an attempt to befriend him after that because I learned not to like him. When he got a better paying job, I was happy for his success and also happy he was leaving.

[scott04sa22]

So if I keep ignoring her with no interests, she'll eventually give up? Her behavior of interests started in September 2024. There was a time she called her friends in to check me out. I been trying to get her the hint I'm not interested at all

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Oh no, that was completely different from my situation. Your best option is to just publicly humiliate her

[thatshydork]

I move on. If he doesn’t want me in his life, that’s fine. There are people out there who want me in their life and will treasure my presence like no other.

[Unit1]

As you can see, girls just scroll Tik Tok until they find someone telling them "men should" and "never pursue a man or else" and "he's not man enough" and then apply it. All the same.

GG Girls. Dating is diminished and AI makes it's way to the romance sector.

[Unit1]

To be fair though, were I a girl and a boy wasn't as interested in me as if I was towards him, then I would simply move on with grace and not take any Tik Tok propaganda as the material behind it.

[VIVANT]

Tell her directly you are not interested. Do not hint!!

[VIVANT]

people confuse hints with how. Be blunt. It’s the mindset thing you can do and it frees you up as well and efficiently.

[PsychicBoobs]

Men usually enjoy being insulted. It makes them feel loved.