Girls’ could you fall in love with a guy that had a vasectomy and couldn’t give you babies?

[Finchie40]

Now that I am single and had a vasectomy, should I just focus on girls’ that don’t want kids? I am a honest guy and I usually lay everything on the table right from the beginning when I meet a beautiful girl , I don’t want to blind side anyone , I know most younger girls’ want babies and sadly I do not want anymore , My kids are older now , so I can’t see myself starting over. Most females’ I meet say they don’t mind it , because they just want sex , but I want more than just sex , is having a vasectomy a deal breaker for most of you girls’?

[Crimsyjo]

You not interested in a woman who already has kids (maybe older like yours) and so also don't want more? Having a guy who had a vasectomy is a huge bonus in my book.

I think if you are talking relationships then it is important consideration. So just be honest from the start.

And mindful. As I am.

I will consider a relationship with a guy upto ten years younger than myself but not if he hasn't had kids already because I don't trust he won't decide he wants kids and ditch the relationship a few years down the line. A guy over 40 without kids who says he doesn't want kids I'm more open to trusting.

For you maybe same? In terms of if you get with a woman who's between 30-35 without kids I'd be suspicious she's probably gonna ditch you for kids at some point. 35-45 probably has already. If that don't bother you? Over 40? If they seem pretty positive they've accepted no kids it's probably sage.

[Crimsyjo]

*safe

[Finchie40]

Yea I am an open book from the start , cuz I am not the type to blind side someone , and sadly I know people change their minds , just like my so called wife did , so that’s why I am not rushing into a relationship with anyone until they know for sure I am who they want to be with before having my heart shit on again ,

[sage2021]

Gee, isn't that what they are all clambering about now?
They don't want to have sex or babies anymore.

Plus women want to poison men too!

I think a guy with a vasectomy would be a plus for the guy. He'd be a commodity!

[Finchie40]

Yea most girls’ love it for the sex , but when it comes down to having a family they change their minds , why I am upfront about it , I don’t want to blind side anyone

[sage2021]

@Finchie40
Have you seen pictures of these women that refuse sex and don't want babies and believe all men should be poisoned and dead?
So, get the sex while you can because there will probably be a new line of chastity belts coming to your town any day now!!

[DrPepper12]

Yup. No problem. At a certain point getting snipped to go rawdog just makes sense so you only have to worry about disease.

[NathanDavis]

they will be relieved...

[SueShe]

Wouldn't that be the dream for a great number of women?

However, it takes substantially more than just a guy that has had a vasectomy. What about that guy's character, what about his personality? what about his intellect?

Falling in love is one thing but if it is the wrong guy, then it is not of much help.

Now, if only this guy would not want to fornicate, then it would be a real treat for all those that are not interested in that kind of activity. There are so much more you can do with a person who is compatible intellectually and has a good character and personality but is not a slave of his testosterone.

[BK2482047329]

yeah I guess your right that is true

[Finchie40]

I hate talking about myself , but I been told numerous times I have an amazing personality and I tend to treat people the way I like to be treated in return , I tend to look at the positives in life , even though negativity can effect me at times depending on what is happening, but I value relationships, I was married to my wife for almost 20 years , I stayed loyal and devoted to our marriage until she decided to be selfish and ruin it , now that my kids’ are older , it’s like she didn’t want to be tied down anymore , which made me question if love truly exists , Or do people just use each other? I have always been a hard worker and always lived contently and secure with my finances , I have achieved most of my goals. Now that I am single , I kind of want to spoil myself and meet a girl that wants me like I want her , that wants to spoil each other , I just can’t give her babies

[SueShe]

Life is a game of give and take. You gave everything you could but apparently, that was not enough.

My answer was not directed at you specifically but it is more of a generalized statement. As for me, being intimate with a person is not what I am looking for in a relation. That bears absolutely no importance. As a matter of fact, that would be more of a hinderance than anything else.

But yes, if you feel that you need to spoil other girls, then by all means go for it but just make sure you play a fair game and don't "fire and forget" as it seems the rule in today's society.

[Finchie40]

I am old school when it comes to relationships, I am not the type to jump from girl to girl

[avery58]

I could fall in love but it would be pretty disappointing. I'd like to think that he would tell me before I developed strong feelings for him and would let me choose if I want to stay or not knowing that.

[Finchie40]

That’s why I am honest and upfront about it

[On_cloud_wine]

I don’t want kids so that would be ideal for me. The worst thing you can do is to lead someone on who doesn’t want just sex and dreams of children someday

[Finchie40]

Yea that’s why I am upfront , I don’t want to blind side her

[RageBabe]

I could fall in love, but since I want to have children, I'm not sure if I would pursue a relationship with them; this is something I need to ponder more.

[Finchie40]

That’s why I am upfront about it , I don’t want to blind side her whatsoever

[RageBabe]

Yes, it's always good to be upfront.

[Apple1996]

That'd be ideal for women who don't want kids or who already have kids and are done. My hubby is planning on getting snipped after our next baby. It'll be a relief to not have to worry about birth control anymore

[amizen]

I would say yes because some women are children themselves and can’t raise a child the wise way. I would prefer men who don’t have kids like me but if a guy is attractive to me physically and mentally then I can consider if he has children. Like I would still want to be the most important person in his life.

[Finchie40]

My kids are older now , and I am as well, I can’t see myself starting over and raising kids , I don’t mind if she has kids already but to make a baby , not my priority , I just want to find a girl that wants a relationship not just sex that is ok with not making more babies

[DizzyDesii]

If I were 34+ then yes because I’m not really trying to birth kids after 32

[Finchie40]

Yea having kids now is way off of my to do list , I already raised 3 , I can’t see myself starting over whatsoever

[smashleyy]

Unlikely but that’s mainly cause of my age. Even tho im still 50/50 about having kids I wouldn’t want to waste time with someone who has already experienced parenthood and has since closed the door on reliving it

[Squishyfeet]

Huge plus for me. Kids are expensive, and I’m not looking to have one.

[DrPepper12]

I'm curious. Would you want proof or take his word?

[ihateTaylorSwift]

I don't think I can even have any myself
So yeah I wouldn't mind

My mom even jokes about it once
She said with all the sex you and him had
I'm still surprised you didn't come out pregnant

And that's cuz I never even used birth control in my life

[Finchie40]

It could be him shooting blanks

[Anonymous]

I’ve got a tubal. I only pursue men that have already had kids and he has to be involved 51% at least. It helps me browse easier to my preferences.

[Finchie40]

My kids’ are older now and they are a big part of my life , I just can’t see myself starting over raising a baby , I would just like to find a girl that chooses me like I choose her , that wants a relationship , not just sex

[BK2482047329]

I mean it doesn't really matter to me if they can't give you babies its about there personality for me

[AngelLily]

Focus on women who don’t want or can’t have kids

[CarolinaGirl5]

If he treats me well, had an education and money why not. We could adopt

[itsannalee]

That’s good idea for women who child free, but mostly guys who do that are old man lol.

[Finchie40]

I got snipped after my 3rd child was born , I was in my early 30’s so not necessarily old lol

[itsannalee]

But dating a single dad with 3 kids is worse than dating old man with no kids.

[Finchie40]

Why is that worse?

[pierre7i]

True @itsannalee - but not necessarily ancient old !

[chocolatetwopointo]

yup i dont want kids, loads of women dont want kids

[NewWaves]

Yes I could fall in love. Emotions and all. But I hope for the strength to say no to being with him. I want kids.

[lowkanymous]

personally no, i wanna live out my picket fence dream with 5 kids a dog and a cat

[alice55]

That would be a deal breaker to me but I'm young