At 27 am I really too old to be a sex icon or a “Madonna?”?

[Anonymous]

I’m not interested in marriage or anything like that. Men have always screwed me over.. last guy really hurt me and I found out that he’s gay… I feel hurt by how he treated me.

I’m very average in looks but I plan on getting work done to my face

[Finchie40]

Just because you encountered some bad seeds with men , it doesn’t mean you won’t eventually find a good one , Most of us men go through the same shit with girls’ as well, that eventually fuck us over , and break our hearts , but it doesn’t mean every girl or guy is a selfish person , you just haven’t met the right one yet. So don’t change who you are as a person to appease anyone , just move forward and eventually you will meet someone that is amazing to you. All my exes are my past , they no longer mean shit to me , because I didn't mean shit to them , if I meant something to them, they wouldn’t be my exes period. So again move forward and eventually you will meet someone that chooses you like you choose them , all my exes were learning experiences to me , by teaching me what to accept and not accept , so it makes you more wise when it comes to meeting someone new. I can usually see a red flag from a mile away when I meet a new girl , if she has red flags , I don’t waste anymore of my time on her whatsoever , I no longer tolerate selfish girls’ that do not know how to give the same way she wants to receive , if I see any selfish red flags from a girl , she isn’t the girl for me period. If she can’t wear my shoes the same way she expects me to wear hers , she is best to go the other way , because I already started walking the other way before her. Do not settle for anyone that can’t give to you the same way you give to them , Someone that loves you and wants to be with you will stay by your side and remove selfishness for you , they won’t treat you like a convenience period. They will climb mountains to be by your side as long as you do the same for them.

[Asker]

Yeah, no. That only happens in fairy tales lol I love myself enough to never be vulnerable or to let any guy in even if he has good intentions…

I want to be nothing more than a man eater

[Finchie40]

It’s your life and your choice , I am just sharing with you what I choose to do , to give ya some advice that’s all , I’m sorry you experienced some bad seeds and I can see why you are choosing what you are choosing to do , it’s a shitty society we live in and a lot of people can be complete assholes and selfish people , I blame social media for a lot of the reasons why people are the way they are today , social media ruined the foundations of relationships in so many ways. I am pretty much over relationships as well, but I am not giving up , I am just trying to play my cards right the next time around if I am dealt those cards again. If not oh well , I already had my experiences in relationships and sadly they all turned to shit. The only way I will settle with a girl again is if I meet a girl that is on the same exact page as me when it comes to relationships. I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl until her and I really get to know each other , and we are both only choosing each other , and following the same boundaries we discussed about together , if she chooses not to follow those boundaries , I will kick her to the curb where she belongs. Love only grows when 2 people choose each other over everyone else in this world , if she can’t do that for me , I will not do that for her period. She can call me insecure or jealous all she wants because it means nothing to me , because it has nothing to do with insecurities it comes down to respect for each other , if I am not being respected by her, I will not be respectful to her , it needs to go both ways for any girl to win my heart , I have no problem being single , because when I am single , I don’t answer to no one , I do what I want to do , I will only be respectful to a girl that is respectful to me period.

[Asker]

I learned that the man I really wanted to be with possibly sleeps with trans women and it broke my heart because he told me nothing.. I feel so hurt I tried blasting him on social media.. he was also disrespectful in the end…. I exposed him online and he said nothing… doesn’t even affect him

[Asker]

He just wanted to use me

[Finchie40]

Sorry to hear that happened to you , Users are fucking assholes period

[Asker]

Yeah… a real liar…

Why do you think he hasn’t responded to me exposing him?

[Finchie40]

Because he knows he is a piece of shit

[Asker]

But he did give me some closure after he ghosted me the first time…. Only because I said what he was doing was weighing on my mental health… but I didn’t find out about the other things until later….

How can he not say anything after I put his picture up, comment under post where his friends are notified….

Because he blocked my phone number after I called him a predator and dl

[Finchie40]

The damage is already done , just move on and focus on yourself and your well being , put his ass behind you as much as possible

[Asker]

Im trying… it’s been a year and I still feel sad

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry it impacted you for that long , but hopefully things will get better for you soon

[lightbulb27]

don't get work done on your face, get work done on your heart to heal from that trauma. As the Bible says, "the truth will set you free"... so find that and heal from it. truth is, this guys issues have nothing to do with you.

no you aren't look at some of the others. you'll need to have some other talent, usually singing, or martial arts or something...

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Men have screwed you over, but you want to pursue a life where you are objectified by every single man with a computer...

Girl, you are worthy of love, a relationship and care regardless of how these men treated you. Please don't allow the hurt that you've experienced to influence your life decisions or behavior. Take a step back and spend some time grieving the hurt and doing some self-reflection. Refuse to allow yourself to become bitter and cynical. Spend some time nurturing yourself and learning what healthy relationships feel like.

You don't need to be a sex icon to prove you are worthy of love. You are already worthy. Take a break and let that core person that is you out to play for a while. Get to know what makes her happy and fulfilled. Protect her and learn to set boundaries, but don't bury her or erase her.

I wish you the best! : )

[Asker]

I love myself enough not to ever trust or love another man. If women were smart this is the way to to do it

[TheRealPepperPotts]

In my opinion, men will get the last laugh if you objectify yourself, but that's just me. Good luck!

[ManOnFire]

Not exactly sure the best way to answer this. You want to be a sex icon but your basically not interested in marriage or men. Or at least, maybe you want casual sex but no marriage to a man. If you feel like men have screwed you over but you're not interested in marriage, then I don't see why there should be an issue.

[Asker]

I’m not interested in any sex at all and I’m actually a virgin… I struggle with bpd so I feel extreme emotions when a man abandons me… which happens.. so that’s why taking sex out helps me to protect my emotions

[ManOnFire]

Do you mean BPD as in bipolar disorder? Or borderline disorder? If it's either one, it's interesting that you feel deeply impacted when a man abandons you, because often times people who are bipolar or borderline will be the ones who abandon others.

[Asker]

Borderline… I think I’m becoming more avoidant to protect myself from intense pain / emotions.. I’ve landed in a lot of situations

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, look at Madonna (if you CAN!) That skanky bitch is, what, 85 years old and she's still being a sex kitten! Cher about 120 and her face could stop a clock but she still think's she's got something! (Someone should tell her she lost it 50 years ago!!)

[LeatherDame]

Nah, gen Z love pumas and cougars. You’re set.

[MasterKS]

There is no age if you have passion.

[Anonymous]

No, you aren't.