Do you hate being called intimidating?

[Bethany22]

Especially girls, do you hate it when most people seem to describe you as intimidating? Does it depend on the context?

Yes, I'm tired of being called that. I'm a bit distant, but I'm not THAT scary.

I get called that a lot, but it doesn't bother me.

I don't get called that

[WhiteSteve]

Intimidation is what I do, lmao

I always hold down my smaller teammates

A father/son duo was acting up here, haha

But this time I’m backing up the dad from the last gif, lmao. Never personal, always for the team😝

Sent this kid an invitation for high sticking me earlier…he did not RSVP😂

Tucked this one into bed early😴😴😴

So, on the ice, I have a bit of a reputation in the league I play in, not as a shit-starter, but just a guy who you want to look over your shoulder for before you go LARPing as a tough guy and trying to push people around. Not too many people pick on me directly, but it’s more about my teammates. I’m just the big guy who comes in and says “maybe rethink what you’re about to do, because there are bigger boys out here for you than the one you’re messing with.” That’s usually enough to calm things down. Big and known to be a little crazy, lmao…. I don’t hate the label, haha. Ultimately the idea is for there to not be any problems at all, so if my presence is any deterrent, I’m glad for that.

Outside of hockey…I guess that kind of carries over, but I don’t think I go around scaring anyone, lmao. It’s just another one of those things where it’s like “maybe that’s not the guy to swell up to.” I’m toast vs an MMA fighter or a pro football player or something, lmao, I’m not Superman, but in the ranks of average people, I like to think I’m on the better side of whether I look like someone to mess with. But I also have a nice face, so I think people assume I’m kind, haha. It’s just when anyone sees me flip out that they’re like “WHOA…”

As far as looks…. I think I’m a decent looking guy, but not the kind of guy you would be apprehensive to approach. I have an outgoing and positive personality, so I don’t think I give off “intimidating” vibes overall, when on default mode.

[Garud]

I don't get called that because I generally soften myself according to the person but sometimes after gaining some confidence the same mild-mannered person tries to intimidate me, I don't like that but still I avoid conflict as long as possible.

[SueShe]

Actually and if I want to be honest, I do like to be called intimidating and it has only positive side to it.

I am the kind of person that speaks out her mind and I am not afraid to tell what is on my mind. That gives me a kind of reputation to be intimidating because often, people tend to be more diplomatic. This is not something that I am too familiar with.

The positive side of being called (or being) intimidating is that it creates a kind of a boundary that people don't want to cross. That gives me the freedom and also it makes me unapproachable which is something that I prefer. I like to keep a certain distance between me and the others because a girl is often considered as a prey for a number males that think that they can dispose of women the way they want.

Being intimidating, unapproachable and distant removes this feeling because people tend to leave me alone, which is actually what I prefer.

[Abstractthinker31]

Are you sure your “intimidating” behavior is something to boast about? Guys are not intimidated by an opinionated woman who speaks her mind? It’s how she delivers, her tone, and most importantly, if it was even necessary? Guys avoid self-righteous, need to put down, arrogant women who think that it’s cute to dominate, and has the need to put an invisible wall of: “ain’t no man gonna ever….” Around them. I wonder if your reputation and constant boundary setting is gonna be worth it in another 20 years.

[SueShe]

@Abstractthinker31 As long as my boundaries keep me safe from potential predators, you bet that my boundary setting is worth all the efforts.

[Sour-rose]

I'm called more of..

• quiet
• sad
• angry
• depressed

But intimidating? That would be a new one. I am quiet because i like to watch and stfu. But quiet and scary? Never.

[OneViewpoint]

I guess I'm a social misfit who can't read a room.

Both men and women tell me all the time that I'm intimidating. Women get nervous around me. Men defer to me. My response is "who, me"? I just don't see myself that way. Yeah, I'm a little bigger than average and sort of serious and I don't smile much (so I'm told) but, to me I'm just drifting along enjoying life.

On the flipside, I rarely find any other guy or woman intimidating either. I'll go up to anyone and start a conversation or call them out on their bullshit. Most of the time that works for me.

So do I "hate" people calling me intimidating? No. I just think it's an odd comment.

[OneViewpoint]

Examples of comments I get from women taken from recent interactions.

1.) "You must be really confident"! What? Why?

2.) "You look like an assassin"! Uh. Thanks? I guess?

3.) "Is it OK if I sit next to you"? Yeah, sure. No one is sitting there. First come first served.

4.) "I have so many questions"! (My thought: Oh shit another quiz) About what?

[RavVid]

I more hate girls saying they are intimidating to men when they are clearly just unlikable. There was one in the Daily Mail who claimed her beauty so intimidated men she couldn't get a date.

The photo showed she was a porker and a simpler explanation existed.

[OneViewpoint]

That's a classic coping mechanism. Women struggle with accountability. They know they're toxic or they bring nothing to the table. They just try like hell to deny that reality.

So yeah, the reason guys avoid these women like the plague is because she's so "awesome" that all men are intimidated by her awesomeness. No, those "clueless guys" have assessed her in 10 seconds and decided to just sit back and watch the entertainment rather than ride the crazy train.

[RavVid]

@OneViewpoint 10 seconds is a long time for assessment. I think it is more sub-second than that.

Men still like and look for what they liked and looked for many millennium ago in my book.

[expfireworks]

The vast majority would probably agree that they could do without being called scaring in light of the fact that it suggests that they cause others to feel compromised or awkward, which is for the most part not the aim; in any case, the inclination can rely upon the unique circumstance and the singular's character, for certain individuals possibly seeing it as a commendation connected with certainty or authority in specific circumstances

[ChiTown33]

No. Because I know what I am.

I asked a question the other day regarding height and intimidation. Because I'm above avg. height. And because I've been told by more than one person that have and intimidating prescence. It makes me laugh when I hear that. Because I know I'm soft like cookie dough.🤣 I can't live my life worrying about people's mischarachterzations about me.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I've been rumored to be intimidating ever since I was in high school.

I heard more of it when I was in college.

It may have concerned me a bit back then.

Not at all nowadays.

[thatgirl2000]

No, I get that a lot. I have unintentional resting b face lol. once I smile far less intimidating. I've learned not to take anything personally.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get called that

Based on the pfp you chose, I could see why some people would describe you as intimidating. I don’t see dorky though.

[Ferngully2000]

Yes I have been called intimidating, mainly because of my looks and also my demeanour. I can be a bit aloof and maybe that’s interpreted as unapproachable. Actually I’m really friendly once I get to know guys.

[NicholasRedone]

I don't get called that - often im told I lack confidence - gee why people feel the need to tell me, some people are so rude in life out there 😤

[GlowUpGirly5]

No, it doesn't bother me. I'm assertive and the people who usually see me as intimidating are individuals who have always been doormats. So they see assertive , decisive, straightforward individuals as a threat to their self esteem

[Abstractthinker31]

I don’t think anyone would ever call An assertive, decisive, straight forward individuals intimidating? Those true individuals are respected and admired. Especially to those who have a lower self esteem. No one respects an intimidating person. I see a person who gets off on being intimidating as weak. They the doormats because they have to scream 😱 don’t mess with me or else! That in of itself is a sign of powerlessness or fear of it. And those perceived doormats? Those are people. People who are very strong and don’t feel the need to exert their power, energy or time to foolishness, or they are going through a hard time. Respect to the. Doormats for turning the other cheek.

[MicahRaine]

I haven't really been called that at all lol. The closest I've been called to intimidating was someone saying I made them worry because when we first met I wouldn't tell them anything about myself

[AviatorTom]

I don't think anyone has ever called me intimidating. I'm easy going and easy to get along with.

[MotherEarth2020]

No, I like it. Because I scare the motherf'ers into liking me

[Potteplante]

Never been called such a thing. I'm to quiet and to much of a sweetheart. 🤷‍♀️

[blackeagle007]

You seem female

[Anonymous]

You're a strong, independent woman, and yes, I understand you have a soft side and like to feel vulnerable from time to time, but I find you very intimidating.

[emeraldsaphire]

I'm the least intimidating person you'll meet

[SweetDripp]

I don't think I've ever been called intimidating 😂

[blackeagle007]

But you seem female.

[SweetDripp]

@blackeagle007 I am. Just not a very intimidating one.

[SleepingHazard]

No, I don't mind. I can be at times, so it doesn't surprise me.
Id rather be called intimidating than aggressive.

[beefcakebradybatson]

ALL black men are called "intimidating," which is Whitey's excuse for 405 years of enslaving, murdering, discriminating against and otherwise oppressing us.

[MicahRaine]

Cap 😂

[Ironco]

I've been called intimidating my whole life, it doesn't bother me anymore. I guess it's just the way I look.

It can have its advantages also.

[KostasKouvalis]

I wouldn't mind. If they think I'm intimidating at least they won't mess with me

[Sabrina_Caleri]

Being called intimidating Is kinda my goal sometimes ahahh

[Jimmerjammermama83]

I love love love your outfit! Where did you get the pants?

[TallAnon]

I'm 6'7, it's the name of the game and I've been playing since I was 12. It doesn't bother me anymore.

[Jimmerjammermama83]

6’7… hey now how are you?

[TallAnon]

32D... I'm doing just fine, how about you?

[Jimmerjammermama83]

lol I am 32D lol you like that?

[TallAnon]

As much as you like the 6'7, haha

[Eleni0199]

I find it a compliment and keeps some unwanted people away.

[Arvinwhitecow]

Not 🚫 intimidating... They showing respect ; )_ ~~~. I'm a young 54 years old! Intimidating? 'little 'ole me.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes but due to my size I've called that all of my life

[Kingofkings1992]

Yet another woman who doesn’t understand what intimidating means….

[jessica_16]

No one call me like that

[Summeroflove]

It can be a good or bad thing depending

[Agape93]

B. It doesn't bother me.

[Kelly6]

@Bethany22 nope it doesn't bother me

[clampfan101]

More like the complete opposite.

[Jimmerjammermama83]

I’ve never been called that

[MemeSupreme]

50/50

[eagle1951]

yeah