"Its NOT the size of the dog in a fight, its the size of the 'fight' in the dog." I used to teach women's self-defense in college in the early 1970's. As women are usually not as muscular or large as their adversaries... I taught introductory Judo... which capitalizes on mechanical physics and using the smaller combatant's lower center of gravity and insight and also Akkido... which exploits your opponent's skeleton's joints and pain threshold.
Most bullies sense your intimidation and your hesitation. Nobody WANTS to be PUT IN pain. MOST will defer to the bully's intimation of the THREAT to inflict pain or harm for the Bully to get their way. This provides an immediate ego boost to the 'big bad' Bully.
Rule #1: Beyond 'trash talk' words, EACH of you WILL receive SOME pain.
It may be short-term or life changing.
As a former police officer and bar bouncer trainer (Road House 'cooler'), taking verbal abuse and potential physical bruising comes with the job;
(you WILL BE dealing with someone USED TO getting THEIR way...
A shark doesn't want to fight you or BE hurt BY you, it wants to exploit and EAT you. )
You are not INITIALLY seen as an equal or peer; you are an animate LESSER 'thing': 'prey'. You MUST be prepared to INFLICT 'awareness' in your Assailant...
that THEY WILL receive SIGNIFICANT injury
WITH accompanying (perhaps debilitating LIFELONG) pain.
Rule #2: EVERYBODY CAN BLEED. If THAT scares you, lie down and put out for your Assailant and vainly hope for 'mercy'.~
A mere 5-15 lbs force skillfully applied, can cripple or even kill. But do YOU have the WILL to forcefully USE that level of physical force to enforce YOUR will?
IF YOU absolutely KNEW HOW... would YOU have THE WILL to break bones?
Your Challenger WILL smell your fear, ... sense YOUR reticence and reluctance and... like a chess player EXPLOIT your hesitance. Resign yourself that YOUR demeanor MUST portray YOUR ferocity---
A friend's little dashound 'Queenie' was confronted with a far larger doberman pincher who'd ferociously elected to attack her mistress. That dashound took damage but KILLED the doberman by seizing it by ripping out the doberman's throat.
(The dashound's mistress was a RN and through judicious first aid, saved her little dashound's life.)
Your 'animal' posture MUST make your Adversary's 'animal' BELIEVE this interaction is going to COST them FAR MORE than they stand to gain.
"I MAY NOT 'win' but... YOUR pain and scars WILL remember ME... reminding YOU,
... EVERY TIME IT RAINS."
I think so. I kind of have a reputation in my hockey league already, lmao, like more than I’d think. I had one fight my first season and I handled the kid pretty decisively, but I left my gloves on, he wasn’t hurt, and it doesn’t go very long, it’s not like the pros where you can duke it out until you tire out or you fall to the ice. Plus the kid is much smaller than me, the fight went exactly how it should have, it’s not like I took down some monster. I actually have the fight from the rink cameras, and you can see what I mean, I’m the one in green, the goalie in yellow is the guy I’m fighting….
Then I got in another confrontation with him when he slashed my teammate who’s a dentist in his 60s, so I stepped in to defend him, but we got separated quickly and it was more of a slap fight, I’m kind of embarrassed lmfao.
I guess I yelled some kind of crazy shit afterwards, first at the goalie, but I think I directed it at everybody at one point😅😂
(Ironically, we’re all on the same team this season, I play my first game with him next Wednesday, so we’re going to have to find a way to get over it.) But the point is, I’ve had multiple guys in my league make comments to me or about me within earshot that would suggest a lot of people are intimidated by me. I’m pretty big, but not “holy shit”-big, so I think it’s just that I blow up when I get mad and it’s kind of a scene more than how dangerous I actually am in reality. Some guys are all bark, no bite; some are all bite, no bark; and I guess I’m just one of those guys who barks AND bites, and in a men’s recreational hockey league, that’s probably more than some people are looking for😂 I’m a very cordial guy, I’m all about good times, I’m not going out there bullying people. But if you ring my doorbell, I’m gonna answer it, that’s all. I’m just explosive, albeit only on rare occasions, and that throws a lot of people off.
i don't know how i do it but somehow i guess i am.
maybe it's more about demonstrating authority than actually being intimidating.
i work at a bar & i regularly have to kick out costumers when we're closing or deal with misbehaving drunk dudes. and in 3 years of working there i have only lost control of the situation once.
i would guess it's about attitude and self confidence. when i have to kick someone out/ tell someone off i always make sure to make it clear that they have the short end of the stick. even when i'm asking nicely.
Haha! That's what I've been trying to do as well at work or school, but people will see it as cute lol, so I've stopped trying and been having a poker face ever since. 🤣
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no, because I was sensitive kid and hurt emotionally so much, I retreated from conflict. I got more strength over the years and aim to engage the person to change their thinking than overpower them quickly. It isn't worth the conflict and I know I can't take the physical impact at this point. Communicating with clear intent with confidence be the key.
You could up your spiritual energy and look for techniques to do that. That's more about resolving your inner heart/spirit, addressing traumas that limit who you think you are. Everyone has these challenges, even some of the big.. strong people I've known, were limited by traumas in their lives.. e. g. one guy whose father was an alcoholic, it messed up his life and relationship. It's life's challenge to find your inner strength so you can be your true self.
That give you more power and would be valuable in relationship for there are people who will run over you if you aren't projecting strength.
That said it more about being able to stand your ground and handle people more comfortably. You aren't going to "get into it" with criminals these days...
That's a scary look. Soooo intimidating. If you ordered me to accompany you to the security room for punishment, I'd comply.
I'm 6'2" and can be kind of imposing. Plus my voice is loud when I get upset. So I can be pretty intimidating.
But nothing is more intimidating than a woman doing this
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u Apparently, I'm intimidating, even when I'm not trying to be, at least according to people that know me.
I'm tall, broad shouldered, have a shaved head, and have an imposing physique. My default facial expression can politely be described as "go fuck yourself".
So yeah, I suppose if I'm actually trying to be, then I'm pretty successful at it. 🤷♂️
My size and looks make most people feel intimidated just by being anywhere near me. I have been told by co-workers, students, parents, etc. many times that I look very intimidating.
I am one of the most patient passionate get along with person in this world I believe in right I believe in wrong and I don't think it's so much intimidating I think it's there's a time of the place to be serious I mean I allow myself to get pushed around a little bit but when enough is enough is enough it's not really intimidating it's more or less just backing in your own play we all have boundaries
This happened to me over my step daughter continuously being "not available" on our days of joint custody, and we had had enough...
Cops: "why haven't you tried talking it out?"
My wife's ex: "well, just look in his eyes, he's crazy."
Naaa
I don’t need to try to be intimidating around people. I just am. I’m big, bald and i have RBF. If i’m not actively smiling or laughing and you don’t know me, it’s easy to assume i’ll kill you and eat you. Sometimes i puff up, scowl and growl a bit around an aggressive dog though.
I’m a pretty boy so I don’t “look” intimidating, even if I am bigger ( 6’3, 220) but I been told I come off very aggressive (Not disrespectful, aggressive as in very polite but will punch you if you slip up). I’m also from North Philly, in a very violent neighborhood and I apparently have a “air” about me.
I can be if necessary. You look like a force to be reckoned with.
I'm a good yeller lol... And my deep voice makes it more aggressive and adds authority to it... Also a good trick for body language... Maintaining strong eye contact... Having your chin up ( this one is important ) ... Pointing your body towards them
I can be very intimidating when I need to be. You just have too sweet of a face to be intimidating.
Apparently, I am, cuz friends and colleagues have told me so. I can be very intense, when I am troubled, even when I'm NOT trying to be. I'm neurodivergent.
Many years ago, a female boss called me into a meeting and a third person was there, another supervisor. We had a tough conversation, but everyone was courteous and professional. I realized later that the female boss found me intimidating. We both laughed about it later.
Yes it’s easy for me because im such an apathetic easygoing sarcastic kind of guy so it’s out of character for me to act that way
all you have to do is stare people down aggressively
"LET ME SEE YOUR WAR FACE!!!"
You should have tazed him in the balls then drug him out the door 🤣🤣🤣.
I'm apparently intimidating even when I'm not trying to be due to my size. Which is just comical to me. Because anyone that knows me knows I'm soft like cookie dough.
Yes.
I have a football player build, strong and have a very good outdoor voice.
I've been told when I'm happy that no one can see me as scary and I've been told when I'm mad I am very scary. Even had a friend say "yes sir" one time when I made him panic from my anger lol. I turn it on when I need to.
I'm not going to lie, you don't look very intimidated. You look pretty damn cute. Yeah I'm 6'1 280 lb. I can definitely look very intimidating when need be.
I’m pretty good at it when I need to be but that would mess me up I would just be creeped to even look at the guy. Like what are you doing sir…
I’d think twice before shoplifting at your store
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