Help I slept with a married woman what do I do?

[Anonymous]

We were friends in high school we will call her Sam (not her real name) we hooked up a few times but nothing serious. She had a few boyfriends and all that other stuff. But we were talking catching up, asking about life, she told me she was married now and all that.

Long story short as we kept talking and catching up we went out for a few drinks. It was never meant to be serious not a date but literally just drinking as friends. But one thing led to another.. and we fucked like animals. I never seen anything like it.

But now I’m wondering WTF did I do…. She seems to have no regrets from it which is odd. She told me she really enjoyed herself and that nobody else has to know. She tells me that she would be open to doing it again but we can also forget this ever happened. But I can’t

[Cormac995]

The honorable thing is to tell the husband. If she cheated once, she'll cheat again even if it's not with you. The poor guy doesn't deserve that and what she did was wrong, so she deserves consequences. Frankly what you did on your end was wrong too and I think you know that, or you wouldn't be freaking out right now.

This is a character development moment where you have to ask yourself what kind of man you want to be. I can tell you're torn up and feel very guilty, but she shows no remorse and doesn't care how it hurts him because she doesn't mind being cruel. I think you know what the RIGHT thing to do is but it's your call if you go through with it or choose to hide and live with the guilt for god knows how long if not forever.

He deserves to know he married a monster, and he deserves that information because if he ends up in a divorce situation it will also help him get less screwed by her in the divorce if he can prove infidelity. In my opinion cheating and abuse are the 4th most evil thing a person can do 1. rape. 2. lying about rape. 3. Murder. 4. Cheating or abuse.

What are you going to choose? Honor Or guilt? what you did was wrong, but you can still do the right thing now and prove you're better than your moment of weakness. You feel guilty and you care but she doesn't. She's behaving like a sociopath she deserves to get caught.

[Anonymous]

Just think to yourself. If your wife did this to you what would you want to know? Would you want that person to tell you? Which you’re kind of fucked on that one cause you knew she was married. It would be different if she was someone you met, had sex w who didn’t say a word about being married. But what’s not to say she’s doing this w other men. Wouldn't you want to know so you can protect yourself from some sort of disease? What if they have kids? Most likely she’d blame the man even if she was the one who ruined things. Make the kids think it was dad who screwed everything up. What if you had a son or brother whose wife was doing this to them and you knew about it. Would you tell them? Maybe the dude’s a good man, providing everything for his family and this skank is out fucking around. A lot to consider.

[Anonymous]

There's some poor bustard that thinks he has a loving loyal wife. Don't interfere in other people's lives.

[Flower7]

Due to how calm she was, you’re probably not the first guy she has cheated with.

[Asker]

Probably not but that doesn’t make it right on my end.

[Flower7]

I didn’t say it was right. I’m just stating a fact. Yes it is wrong for you to be doing this.

[scott04sa22]

Just keep calm and chill the hell out. She probably been unfaithful to her husband for sometime time orshe's in a open marriage. It's hard who initiate the move from what you said and I'm guessing you haven't having had sex for awhile until you saw your married friend then went to town.

Let you tell you something. I know someone who is recently got divorced and i want to have sex with her but she wants nothing to do with me! Ever since I lost my job I started thinking about her without knowing. What I did, is to leave her alone and accept those feelings and continue moving on.

Your situation you had to accept it, learn from it and move on. Don't worry until it happens. You'll be fine.

I'm not the expert on your situation

[slatyb]

Like what? You either keep seeing her or you don't. Is she living with her husband, or are they separated?

[Asker]

Well they are recently married actually and on the outside seem very happy together. Like…. Your typical newlywed couple

[Nikki1989]

Don't say a word to anyone about this, and let it go.

[Asker]

Do you not think it’s such a big deal or

[jahaims]

Tell her husband. Helping someone cheat makes you trash.