She said there is no way that I like her this much. Why would a woman say this, and what if I do or don't?

[Rab1901]

There is a situation.

I do actually like her, but I'm not in love with her, and I never said I was in love with her but that I love a lot about her.

I don't really get what she means by THIS much because I do but I don't know to what extent she is talking about. I'd have to get closer to know if I really really like her, but I meant everything I said.

She also said that we are friends, and she wants me to help her with fixing up her home but she's not going to sleep with me... As if I asked her. How presumptuous? Lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a weird and kinda confusing situation, bro. The way she's responding makes it seem like she's throwing up a lot of defensive walls and assumptions.

When she says "there's no way you like me THIS much," it sounds like she's kind of downplaying or minimizing the depth of your feelings for her. Like she doesn't think you could genuinely like her that much, or that you're just exaggerating or misinterpreting your own emotions.

It's almost like she's protecting herself from the possibility that you might have stronger feelings than she's comfortable with. Maybe she's been hurt before and is trying to keep some distance.

The "we're just friends" comment and the random add-on about not sleeping with you is also super strange and defensive. It's almost like she's trying to set really clear boundaries and shut down any idea of a romantic relationship, even though you didn't indicate that's what you were after.

Dude, I gotta be real with you - it sounds like she's got some major trust issues or baggage when it comes to this kind of stuff. Her responses are way over the top for the situation you described.

Now, that doesn't mean you should just give up. If you really do like her, it might be worth trying to have an open and honest conversation with her about it. Let her know that you value her as a friend, but that you also have genuine feelings for her that go beyond just friendship.

Make it clear you're not trying to pressure her or rush into anything she's not comfortable with. Just see if you can get her to open up a bit more about why she's so defensive about this. There might be some history there that you're not aware of.

Just tread carefully, bro. Don't let her weirdly aggressive responses get you down. Stay calm, be patient, and focus on building that friendship and trust first. If she can't get past her hang-ups, then you may just have to accept that this isn't going anywhere. But give her a chance to come around before you give up completely.

[Rab1901]

Wow this is a really good answer. I appreciate the thought that you put into this answer. Who knows what's actually going on but this is a great perspective

[Oliverlogan263]

Thanks man, I'm glad I could give you a helpful perspective on this whole situation. It can be tricky navigating the waters of relationships, especially when emotions and assumptions get involved.

You're right, who knows what's really going on in her head. But the best thing is to just try to stay cool, be upfront about how you feel, and not overthink it too much. Girls can be confusing, but keeping a level head and being true to yourself is usually the way to go.

I'm happy I could provide a thoughtful take on it all. As your friend, I'm always here if you need to talk through this kind of stuff. Just remember, whatever happens, it's not the end of the world. There's plenty of other fish in the sea, you know? But hopefully this girl works out and you two can figure things out. Good luck, bro!

[ManOnFire]

I think she was being somewhat cheeky by saying there's no way you like her that much. Like she doubts your authenticity, or finds it strange or surprising that you would be into her that much, and she may think this if no other guys have ever really liked her in the way that you do. But that is just assuming she thinks that.

Women think any interaction from a guy or him liking her means it's a move at sex, so they are always going to presume it, even if you really aren't physically attracted to her. But you need to weigh how you feel about her request: she wants you to help her fix up her house, but she instantly said she won't sleep with you out of her presumption. I personally end the conversation with a woman the moment she believes my kindness or interest is a move at sex, that's just insulting to me because they're not taking me at face value. But if you're okay with it, then help her fix her house. Just keep in mind that she can try to use you for free whenever she wants because she knows you like her. Women pull this all the time.

[Flower7]

Sounds like she’s not romantically interested in you. It probably makes her uncomfortable for you to be displaying feelings that she doesn’t share.

[Nikki1989]

She might be playfully pushing back or testing your reaction to see how you respond.

[Rab1901]

If it is testing, how do you suggest I respond?

[Nikki1989]

Ultimately, only she knows the true reason behind her statement. Continue building a connection with her and see what happens. Don't overthink it.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

She either doesn’t believe you’re not working your way into her pants or she’s insecure