Did my friend bail on our plans or was it my fault?

[WinCx3d]

I texted her last night asking did she was to go to apples bees. I texted her around 3:30 she replied at 6:35 and said yeah that’s cool with her.

So i texted her at 9:55 and asked her what time did she want to go and asked her was 12:30 or 12 a good time for her and she never responded back

She opens that messaged at 1 am

[ProbablyClueless]

Sounds like your friend bailed. Is there something in particular about the situation that makes you think it could be your fault?

[WinCx3d]

I didn’t set a time at first

[WinCx3d]

She gets off at 10 pm so i didn’t know if she was up for company that late

[ProbablyClueless]

Oh... yeah, I think you did everything fine. She has her work schedule, so it's not like there are lots of different times you'd be meeting up. Applebees is usually a dinner spot, so it makes sense that she would be meeting you for drinks after work.

If you wanted to meet for lunch you probably would have specified that.

I think you're good =)

[WinCx3d]

Should i just wait for her to say something she read my message no response

[ProbablyClueless]

That is a trickier question... on one hand, it's probably not worth getting hung up about, but on the other, it shows a certain lack of respect for your time.

I would probably wait until after you see her again in person to text. And I don't mean to just automatically text her some mindless thing after you see her. Probably see her in person. If she brings up the Applebees thing, probably just laugh it off and try make an established plan right then and there.

Most people are space cadets and lost in their own little worlds. It's good to show those people grace. Some people are just disrespectful and couldn't care less about making plans with other people; those are the people you want to get rid of.

[HungTexan]

Sounds like he bailed. Any idea what you might have done, or was it just him?

[WinCx3d]

She gets off at 10 pm so that’s why i asked was 12 good for her

[StevenMcGarrett]

I would say it on your friend. I guess she is one of these people that you have to make plans with days in advance.

[WinCx3d]

So am i wrong or is she wrong?

[StevenMcGarrett]

I would say she is wrong.

[WinCx3d]

Why would she not say anything and leave my message unread

[StevenMcGarrett]

Some people are inconsiderate like that. She was probably getting fucked by her boyfriend and/or getting high.

[princeofromance]

It most have been too late for her. Either way, she should have given you a proper response to let you know if she could make it or not.

[WinCx3d]

Ok gotcha well why would she agree anyways

[princeofromance]

Some people will just agree to agree. However, she probably never wanted to go that late or maybe she never wanted to go at all.

[WinCx3d]

Oh ok that’s dumb to agreee just to agree

[princeofromance]

Yes, but people will do that because they know that is what you want to hear. They think it makes you happy to hear yes, but they know their intentions of going were never there to begin with.

[WinCx3d]

Do you think she doesn’t want to be friends anymore

[princeofromance]

No, I just think she thought you would be disappointed if she said no. Therefore, in here mind she thought telling you yes would make you happy.

[shortster]

You guys didn't have plans yet

[WinCx3d]

We didn’t? What did i do wrong

[shortster]

I think that it took too long to get a time and place agreed upon.

[WinCx3d]

But i texted her back a few hours later