Am I being too ott?

[Monalisa77]

My crushes mum died and because he works at my college (IT) he hasn't been in since and its possibly he might not even be back before i finish and tbh he's really sensitive so you know im quietly worried about him, can't help but worry cos it can lead to dark paths and I don't know him well enough to know if he has people around or on his own mothers day coming up is going to make it harder for him

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I have zero contact with him outside of the college

[Anonymous]

Not much you can do other than hope for the best. You’re worrying about something that is completely out of your control. I mean honestly you don’t even know him. If you did t have a crush on him would you be as concerned as you are?

[Monalisa77]

Mm i might still be concerned yes i mean the other students/ Teachers are its kinda natural

[Monalisa77]

But i do have a tendancy to avoid anything like this as i struggle dealing with death in general.

[nawtee_me]

Be a friend and invite him over or out to eat to keep his mind occupied.

[Monalisa77]

Like i said i dont know him that well he just works at the college

[nawtee_me]

You can still be a friend and ask. You may be the only one to ask…,

[Monalisa77]

But i dont have contact with him and my mothers a control freak who wouldn't let me go anywhere with someone i barely know. Not possible i just dunno how its gonna be if he comes back in or doesn't at all

[nawtee_me]

Can you reach out to the school admins as a concerned student?

[Monalisa77]

Like, if it gets to April i am supposed to ask him about my exam, so if he's not back ill have to talk about him anyway. I always fear ill give it away cos i get upset easily

[Monalisa77]

Is it strange for us to even be friends? I mean were pretty much around the same age

[nawtee_me]

Is there a school website or something like that you can use to post or ask about him anonymously?

[seeyounexttuesday]

don't you have a way to contact him?

[Monalisa77]

Not personally no

[seeyounexttuesday]

you have to know people who know him. Or know his name to stalk his social media.

[Monalisa77]

I tried that but he doesn't use it. he's a very quiet person. I dont want to ask too many questions as it will make it obvious i like him.

[seeyounexttuesday]

So what?

[Monalisa77]

Because they might think im a crazy stalker who is out to cause trouble😂(im not) and warn him

[seeyounexttuesday]

They won’t.

[Monalisa77]

Its a college and he does it for our class. Why wouldn't they? there's no way theyd believe me or think hed be interested 😂😂

[Monalisa77]

Plus the whole class would probably laugh at me and call me a weirdo

[Monalisa77]

Actually, when i first said to one of the staff members about him not coming in, they wondered how i knew as if to say "u have personal contact with him?" till i said no it was just a message on his work ac.

[seeyounexttuesday]

Right.

[Monalisa77]

Been told im a creep for stalking them on social media😂as if theyve never done it

[seeyounexttuesday]

Disregard them.

[Monalisa77]

They blocked me anyway. But man over sensitive much lol shouldn't be on social media if they don't want people being on their page

[Bklynbadboy12]

Call him up or text him

[Monalisa77]

I dont have his number or i wouldn't be posting this?