Do guys really get intimidated by girls? or this just something girls make up to feel better about themselves?

[pswimmermann]

I am just wondering. A lot of pretty, smart, athletic girls are single, and there more average peers have dates! I am sure some girls have qualities that repel guys away, but a lot of girls that I know that would be amazing girlfriends to have for any guy are single, and hardly ever asked out! I, for example, am not asked out very often, but I have a very open personality and I am athletic (swimmer) and smart! I go to an all girls school, which makes meeting guys not so easy, but when I do meet them, we talk for a long time, but nothing usually comes out of it. The same thing also happens to another friend of mine, who is a soccer star with dark, exotic features and is completely georgous. Just wondering, guys, do you ever get intimidated by girls that seem to be confident in themselves and are pretty/athletic and/or smart? I am not trying to justify anything, I am just curious to know if guys get nervous around certain types of girls (because I know if I see an extremely hot guy/ or athletic, I would be a tad more shy around him than I owuld the average Joe :)

[Anonymous]

I am girl who was dumped by my boyfriend of 4 years for no reason. 6 months on of no contact- I still don't really know why and can't believe this disappearing act. I can't help but think its this intimidation thing you speak of.

I recently felt like I was starting to overtake him in life overall. While he had graduated with little motivation to get into the industry, I was still studying and interning overseas in-between semesters and working really hard to save whilst he spent quite carelessly and kept losing valuables etc, just overall lacking responsibility which he knew. I also felt he wasn't growing up from the teenagers we once were. Yet he ended things with me not the other way round.

Do you guys out there think that this is a case of emasculation/intimidation or am I just in wishful thinking mode? Please give me some insight.

[Distant]

I know when I see a very attractive girl, I automatically assume she has a 6 foot, Calvin Klein model with a Porche as a boyfriend so I don't even bother with her. Not saying I have low self-confidence but comparatively speaking, I might as well have low self-confidence. A girl having a boyfriend is worse than her rejecting me, in my opinion, haha. Also: Many guys won't admit it but they don't like when a girl is smarter than them so that could be a factor as well. Other than that, I'm baffled. You seem like a catch, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

There are two kinds of physically attractive girls that I don't approach:

1. The ones that are the types that like to party and/or are probably slutty.

2. The girls that are so attractive that I assume she already has a boyfriend or at least gets approached by many guys. No point in getting shot down unnecessarily. I'm just an average Joe, nothing special.

[pswimmermann]

aww I'm sure there is something special about you! everyone is unique and special :)

[Fitchicks]

It’s not you that I can assure. After a medical procedure I had to rehab at the Y,, there were these two girls both athletic but one far more advanced, She could sling the weights better than the other, I like fit girls a lot but I wasn’t ready for this.. Let’s say she was totally out of the other’s league, I wouldn’t say a show-off but she had plenty to be proud of. I’d watch her do shoulder presses with 110ld then follow up with front and side laterals with 32lb dumb bells. So after they left the gym I went over to test my own strength I got 3 reps with the 110 press machine. Couldn’t even do side or front laterals for 2. I’m glad they didn’t see that. So I would sorta camp out bout the same time every day… sneaking a peek, if you know what I mean? I didn’t think I was so obvious but that’s a whole different story. Yes, it’s very humiliating, my hesitation was simply being tongue tied. I’m in my 50s these 2 girls were either late teen early 20s. I chock it up to insecurity, just knowing I’m not ready for that in so many ways. Admire from a distant. She wasn’t a tank top girl, but what I’d give just to see her shoulders would be a treat,;a guy can dream right? To be 20 again

[Anonymous]

I do actually..I often don't feel good about myself around women of any sort.

It's a self-esteem issue. I don't know if it accurately describes the way I feel around women. I wasn't exposed to having any gal pals and I never got much attention I'm not used to social interaction. so yeah there lies the problem for me of course. but random thoughts course through my mind that make me feel insecure.

[Enishi]

To say nothing of "intimidation", I would not think for a second that I had a snowball's chance in hell with a hot soccer player.