Do guys REALLY get intimidated by pretty girls?

[Anonymous]

I'm not trying to be stuck up here AT ALL. honestly, I'm not, I don't understand why looks are so important to people. so the thing is, every girl I meet tells me I should be a model, cause I'm tall and apparently beautiful, and I'm thin but not creepy-anorexic-thin. I have hazel eyes and dark brown hair...but every guy I know leans toward the blond, short girls. I'm not THAT tall, still an inch or two shorter than most guys I like, but they never talk or flirt with me. all my friends have guys flirting with them left and right, and again, not to be stuck up, but I am pretty. I don't understand why no guys ever talk to me. my friends tell me that beautiful girls actually get less dates, because guys get intimidated around them, but that sounds weird to me...i know guys get shy and all, but if they can ask one girl out, why not another? can you explain this to me? and what can I do to get guys to talk to me?

[Light_Yagami]

Looks may not seem important to you, but when you have looks these things aren't a problem to you so naturally its not wrong that you do not know the answer to that question

but for somone perceived as unattractive if you ask them the question why looks are important they will give you a heart felt sincere answer.

Pretty girls have a bad rep, and lets not fake ourselves the majority haven't done any favours to cast aside that reputation.

You probably have a aura about you, and that can be anything the way you hold yourself, the way you walk, dress, look, personality etc. I wouldn't change it .. regardless its intimidating to guys as they look at you, pick up on you aura and think

shes out of my league

shes gonna be stuck up

i haven't got a chance with her etc

They don't want to take the risk of rejection...obviously they men see other girls who are maybe more on their level and find it easier to talk to them. Naturally if you perceive someone is on your level your confident, you take charge. Obviously when you think something is above you your nervous,anxious, unsure etc etc

If you want a guy to approach you, show him your interested , give him the eye contact, a smile... Once a guy knows a girl is interested they'll approach.

[Asker]

thanks...im actually really shy, so what would I do to approach guys? I tend to lean toward the more quiet/shy guys, so how would I get a conversation going if we're both shy and he thinks I could be stuck up?

[Light_Yagami]

Well from my experience shy/quiet people tend to grow in confidence when they feel comfortable around someone. My advive for you, is to approach a guy with a really talkative friend, let her do some ice breaking and then you have the 3-way conversation going. Then she makes an excuse and leaves you two to it. You'll both be comfortable at this point and the conversation will flow from there. I think after awhile you'll grow in confidence naturally. In ti

[Chaaz]

Well not really. I find I am not intimidated by pretty girls, but I think most pretty girls end up to be morons. Like most of the hot girls I have spoken to are just moronic and shallow and stuck up. But I do not hestitate to approach/talk to them, so it's not an intimidation problem. I am just reluctant to because I expect them to be moronic and not worth time-effort.

So perhaps we should consider it's not intimidation based on looks, but more like stereotypes on characteristics? A bit like the dumb blonde-theory thing.

If 10 is the prettiest/hottest, and 0 is the ugliest in terms of physique.

A lot of the girls I do end up liking/loving are not 10s, they are like 7s, most of the 10s I've met aren't nice people.

[DianaWest]

Wow, i am sorry for you. Are all the 10s you've met by any chance girls who wear caked-on makeup, fake lashes, six inch heels, low-cut blouses, and miniskirts? Because let me tell you: even a 6 can look like a 10 with a lot of concealer and eye liner. You need to start approaching natural beauties (girls who don't wear too much makeup, who are dressed stylishly but also modestly). It really sucks that you think this. It's not even the beautiful girls that are stuck up. It is the fake bimbos who think they're all the shit because they raided Sephora and now they think they look like Aphrodite or something, but when you see her without her silicone boobs, fake lashes and eye makeup, she will most likely be a 6 or 7, (as I've discovered from girls who wear too much makeup).

[Anonymous]

Yep. They assume you're stuck up, unattainable ("out of my league"), or already taken.

Look friendly, smile and actually APPROACH guys yourself. Then they'll know for sure how awesome and not intimidating you are. :)

[cyrus7]

this, specially the first part!

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

imo especially the second part about her approaching the guy herself :P

[slipslender]

maybe you're not their type or they're not digging your personality.

[myspacemybroke]

Not intimidated so much in the sense that I think to myself "holy crap she's just so gorgeous, I'm not even going near her", but when I do see an extremely attractive female I tend to steer clear a little. my own personal views on emotional attachments/relationships set aside, It just doesn't seem like the smoking hot woman would really be worth it. I suppose it's an unfair assumption, but it just seems to me that they would be incredibly high maintenance. As if they're perfectly aware of the fact that they're gorgeous, and the only reason they'd be with me is have something to do while they bide their time and wait for someone they deem worthy of their extreme attractiveness.

[Asker]

just so you know, most girls wouldn't go out with a guy at all unless she actually thought they were worth it...i don't know about other girls, but "something to do" doesn't come into the picture at all for me. and believe it or not, gorgeous girls get just as, if not more, intimidated and shy and insecure...especcially when dealing with no-guys-ever-talk-to-me-there-must-be-something-wrong-with-me.

[myspacemybroke]

I never said my feelings about it were rational, simply that is how I feel about it.

[Asker]

i know...sorry if I came across as mean, I was just laughing about it is all.

[myspacemybroke]

Haha yeah, no worries

[MachineMan]

Gorgeous women are intimidating, obviously, guys don't want to always feel self continuous, always feel like everyone is looking at you and saying how did this dude get that girl? That is maybe why we go for average girls. Me for example I know I am not the most handsome guy, so I wouldn't even bother approaching you if you are a model. It will just hurt my ego cause I imagine A) you already have a boyfriend who is obviously better looking than me, taller, buffer, etc. B) if you don't you probably could get one. My advice is if you are beautiful you should pick the guy you want and flirt with him, make it clear you are interested that way he will be more confident and more likely respond and ask you out. Another option is to try to go for more mature, successful men. They tend to have more confidence and be more willing to approach really beautiful girls.

[Brando]

Because pretty looks are what people like to see. The prettier you are, the more people like you and want to be around you. It's just human nature. It's social value that allows you to basically choose who you're surrounded with more than someone else. Think of it like money- the more money you have, the more options you have on what to buy, where to buy it, and just the things you can do. It's the same thing with looks. A guy might not feel like he will fit in with the girl's standards if she's able to have the best she wants. It makes you doubt within yourself if you are actually good enough to try with her.

[Anonymous]

in an age where women can blindly throw "sexual harassment" accusations without proof and get a guy sued, fired, arrested. only arrogant men would not care and hit on women without worrying if she gave a damn.

but average nice decent hard working guys are not about to take unnecessary chances. this is why women need to face facts, its the 21 century. your moms and aunts fought for equal right and "women's lib." and the cost is, you can't be old fashioned and expect men to knock on your door. your gotta get off yer butt and approach men and make the first move.

[faraday]

Actually, to be honest, women, no matter how pretty, don't intimidate me, but that doesn't mean they interest me either. I rarely talk to girls, and the reason is that I am not attracted to the normal... look, the perfection we call perfect, no, I instead go after the truly interesting look a few girls have, the one that really gravitates you towards them, not just the voluptuous blond haired perfect skin girl, but rather the girl with that fiery red hair, and those innocent eyes, with lips arguing with the rest of their face. That's just an example of course, but I very rarely am attracted to women solely on sheer prettiness.

[Dareon]

Yes, that's true, most of guys are intimidated by beautiful girls, and many of them won't even give a try because they already think that you're involved with someone. They think: "There's no way by any chance she's single with such amazing looks!" It's very stupid situation, but it's for real.

You need to make the first move, and to be friendly, that's all.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Guys assume you're already with someone or think you're outta their league. Been said already, but just confirming it. So ya. Approach them yourself. God damn passivity of women and feeling they're justified to be passive just cause they are women pisses me off :\

[Electric_Dreams]

Well for me, yeah, really beautiful girls intimidate me. No way I'm good enough for her. She probably is taken. She must have loads of guys interested in her.

Thoughts like that y'know. I dunno' maybe you should look for a relationship with a guy friend. Just try and be friends with guys and see where that goes.

[Even-I-can-do-it]

yes we do. We figure that your out of our league

[Shaun]

Guys get intimidated by average girls.

[Anonymous]

Yes