Do guys feel intimidated by pretty girls?

Question

My friends and also strangers usually tell me that I’m pretty ( but it’s usually girls ) as for guys it was only the guys that I already knew , but they described me as a 10 , who’s cute and who would suit a long term relationship , but what I wonder is why don’t guys that I like approach me , and when they do they usually settle for being friends and don’t take the next step , and I usually fall for average looking guys with a great personnality so I really don’t get it

Kiss_Me · Accepted Answer

OK... this is a topic that can take a few pages to cover. I'll just hit the bullet points to save my typing fingers and your time. :)

1. The moment a guy's body starts producing the proper hormones he is begging for women's attention. He voluntarily yet unintentionally gives them all the power in their interactions. Women are attracted to powerful men, so they unconsciously resent the weakness displayed by the guys. It gives them the ability to socially, emotionally, and verbally beat the crap out of guys.

This is a bit of a rabbit hole, so you will have to think about it to reveal the greater details.

2. Some women are immature as well. They don't really understand why in-depth but know they are not attracted to certain guys. They beat up the guys that display unwanted attention.

3. Younger guys (13 to 20ish) lack the skill (Yes, dating is a skill) and or experience to remain powerful around women. As stated above, they get beat up for it. The Social and emotional consequences are too high to reveal their attraction. They take the safe road and remain silent.

4. Women, especially beautiful women, have options. All the three concepts above kick in and the guy talks himself out of even trying.

OK, I've rambled quite enough. I could get into more detail, but at least it gives your things to consider and question about yourself and how people interact with you. Perhaps in another post...

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I don't know if intimidated is the right word. But let me just day that good looking usually know they are good looking on some level. So, they tend to expect a a certain level of appreciation. This is true for good looking men as well as woman.

So I consider myself a good-looking person, I never put any stock in the 1 to 10 scale, because you can look like a 10 but have a personality of a 5. So, for me I tend to like 5 to 7s that have a personality of a 10. These types of women tend to be more appreciative of the things you do, and more accepting of the things you don't.

So I will tell you the truth, I have been with good looking woman and I have been with average looking woman, and the average looking woman have always treated me better. So, I will not say I am intimidated by good looking woman, but good-looking woman tend to be more demanding and often not worth the effort, given the demands they place on people... because they have come to a expect it from men in general. And true be told a good looking woman can find average looking men that are more than willing to bend over backwards for them.

But I am good looking guy, that has a high level of self-esteem in myself as well... so when two people with high levels of esteem match up... its usually electric at the start, but one or the other starts to think they can do better with less drama in their lives.

JamesMI616 · Answer

It's an issue of individual confidence. When I was younger I believed that there was such a thing as "out of my league" so I would often convince myself that a girl like you would never talk to me or already has a boyfriend or must get hit on so often that I could only be a nuisance. Now I know that the heart wants what it wants and an organic encounter can lead anywhere. Many of us don't have the confidence to take a chance and talk to a gorgeous woman. Don't be afraid to make the first move. Guys like me like that.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Intimidated really isn’t really the right word for it. There is a risk to asking a girl out so that many average guys don’t even bother. But even if you avoid an embarrassing situation and get her number, is it even going to be her number? Will she even respond? What if you have nothing in common or have incompatible beliefs? And that’s just asking a girl out in general. Very attractive women are typically high maintenance, have unrealistically high expectations and there will always be another guy asking her out. Id say it’s less about intimidation and more just apathy.

Justaguyagain · Answer

Im intimidated by girls who look like models, but not by girls who are very pretty to me, but they dont look like models. I don't know if that makes sense

ZXCwWRQWz · Answer

I think they're more intimidated by police than the girls. Girls seem to get confused here. If I meet a hot girl in a bar and she says this is my gay friend who protects me and I meet 7 foot tall black man with 24-inch biceps, I'm intimidated. But not by her.

baseball9 · Answer

Personally im scared to ask someone out because if I consider them pretty they probably have a boyfriend. Why waste my time on that?

Billlewis · Answer

Absolutely! When I meet a beautiful woman, all I can think about is, 'She is much too good for me...'

spartan55 · Answer

Because you don't seem em interested and expect the guy to do all the work.

Pohjolan · Answer

Intimidated is the wrong word. Rather I would say excited.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Because most attractive women on the outside are typically very ugly on the inside. So I never feel I'm really missing anything.

TrillXHippy · Answer

Lol intimidated? Stop it

Anonymous · Answer

Well alittle until you break the ice

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope.

In_Trance · Answer

Some do, some don't

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