What do men think about a woman's skin or body?

[serena0]

Recently, I have become more concious of my body. I had dermatitis, which has been cured, but left some parts of my skin with marks that I am tending in present time. Some stretch marks have formed on my upper thighs (just like around my lower cheeks), not prominent but are seen. I am also quite skinny, but not to the point that my bones are seen. I look like a child with an adult's age, rather than a woman. I feel repulsive and thoughts of not being desirable constantly bugs me. I am in my adulthood and I haven't had any intimacy. From time to time, I wonder what passion feels like. I do crave it, I am curious of it, but not to the point that it revolves around me. It's just my self-doubt keeps me away from approaching or receiving any of it in my life. And I do not truly wish to indulge myself in hookups. Is it odd? I'd really like to know your thoughts and experiences...

[RingOfFire]

The things you are describing are completely trivial. You are probably much more harsh in judging them then men would be.

I'm no therapist but the feeling I get immediately from your comments is that you are too focused on minor issues about yourself and that's causing you stress.

I can guarantee you that there is someone who will find you very desirable.

But the biggest impediment to that sounds like it might be you and not the other person. Try not to be so harsh on yourself. Realize that other people see things in you that are desirable that you cannot see yourself because you're focused on the negative.

As far as not wanting to hookups, that's a good thing. The thing that is fulfilling is finding a person who is going to be willing to go way beyond the shallow.

Just from the few words you've said I see something beautiful. So don't be so fast to discount yourself like that. You are far more desirable than you think.

[serena0]

Thank you thank you very much that is just what I need to hear thank you really

[serena0]

😭 thank you...

[serena0]

i want to be desirable..

[serena0]

it pains me so much to feel im not

[serena0]

To feel more seen from a comment of mine than many years of my life is relieving me

[RingOfFire]

It's hard to let go of habits. But if you have a habit of focusing on negative things, it often leads you to wrong conclusions.

I can tell just by talking to you that you have some very positive things to offer. And I'm sure that other people could see that very easily if you would just give them that chance.

[serena0]

I am not a very social person. I have little to no people in my circle. When I do though, I tend to "remove" them. I do get approached to be courted or complimented. I didn't accept nor have I given them a chance. As you have said, I do tend to drown myself in conclusions. I'd question: what if he loses feelings for me? etc. A genuine sobbing person can already bring me tears, what of heartbreak? From the world I'm seeing around me, so many people are cheating and "playing", they say. I'd dislike to experience that. I want to be held so.. so gently. I fear that I am filled with so much that it is overwhelming. Yes. It is a difficult habit to remove. I tend to feel everything to heart. I know that there is a lot more to experience for me to hold instead of closing in. I have had my fair share of pain, intensely so that I had enough. I wanted to ask this question because the internet doesn't know me, it's anonymous. In truth, a part of me did want to get validated. I was getting quite desperate that I ended up in an app, here. I'm grateful that you have shared me your thoughts, and so have I. I will keep on trying to be more positive. So thank you, truly

[RingOfFire]

You are welcome. You sound to me like a beautiful person. Be brave, and remember that you are as worthy of being loved as everyone else. I wish you all the best.

[serena0]

yes okay 😊 to you as well, sir

[Orion84]

I've been saying this for years, but men don't nitpick women's bodies nearly as much as women nitpick their own bodies.

Guys are kind of the "bigger picture" folks. We see things as a complete package, rather than focus on the minute details of a woman's body. Whereas you're concerned about your stretch marks, we likely wouldn't even notice. Even if we did, we most likely wouldn't care.

Ladies are their own worst enemies, when it comes to superficial imperfections. I really don't think you'll have any trouble attracting a guy, and experiencing the intimacy you're looking for.

[serena0]

Ah, I see... I wasn't sure for I haven't done any of it. And the world around me said otherwise. I'm also not sure if I'm "looking" for intimacy. It's complicated or I'm making it complicated. I don't know what is the difference between love and intimacy. While, as I said, I do crave and am curious about it, I'm scared. I don't want a meaningless interaction. I want a deeper connection. I need.

[Orion84]

It's very normal to be curious about love, intimacy, etc, when you haven't had it, yet. When you do, though, a deeper connection is definitely the way to go. It'll make everything worth the wait.

As far as the physical appearance, society likes to bombard women with the idea they have to look perfect, and while some men would agree with that, it's mostly just a false expectation.

When you do reach the point where you have love, and intimacy, the guy more than likely won't care about most of the physical imperfections you're worried about.

[serena0]

Yes. Alright. I'll take it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts 😊

[chocolatetwopointo]

they only care for our bodies if we have huge tits and huge ass

[fish5505_87]

Try to stay more positive, maybe see a nutritionist or do some research on how to eat better. I would seek therapy as well and maybe try attempting new things or investing time in hobbies you like. Therapy may help as well? You are not repulsive! I think men and woman think about each other's bodies, skin included. I have many female friends who talked about the skin of a guy they just met. I love my wife, is she perfect physically, No!(she's a lot better than me) However, I look past those things because of who she is. You are beautiful, let you show through!

[serena0]

I haven't considered seeing a nutritionist and did research online instead. I tried to gain more meat on my own without consults. I was not constant with it for one time, I broke down and I didn't continue it any longer. As for seeking a therapist, I have already considered it many times before yet I haven't for some reasons I won't input. And I appreciate your words. Continue to live happily with your wife, sir.

[BobbyLee789]

I've known beautiful women who have had that condition and it doesn't affect their beauty 😊

[serena0]

thank you for letting me know

[BobbyLee789]

I'm sure most guys feel like wise 🙂

[serena0]

Right... The world is vast, I've forgotten that. Mh alright, I'll take it 😊

[BobbyLee789]

I hope you have a good self image because you sound fine and nothing to worry about 😊

[serena0]

😅 ah yeah?

[BobbyLee789]

Yeah, plenty of guys must think so 😊

[Aldan1609]

Her personality is what counts, I honestly prefer a connection

[exitseven]

everyone has defects.