How do I stop being too emotional?

[Anonymous]

[RavVid]

I think men and woman might be fundamentally different in dealing with emotional stress so maybe my technique is not so helpful.

A couple of things to know is that neurons that fire together group together and trauma memories get stored in particular area. So there is a broken record effect and current trauma can re-awaken past trauma. The emotional memory is the same as the emotional response you had when it happened.

Work trauma just happens. I might be very pissed off but I push that aside to give some distance and stop thinking of it. That helps avoid the broken record. In effect I am pushing that prob onto a back burner in my mind. I even use those words to myself.

When the raw emotion has receded and just logic is operative I dredge it back. Maybe there is nothing to do. Maybe there is but at least then I am operating under logic.

I find this helps a lot.

[Asker]

Thank u 🙏🏻

[RavVid]

Girls seem to like to talk it out but I think that makes you think about and re-experience the trauma more.

[Asker]

It may be true...

[HusamRocks]

Think less, expect less, be satisfied, do what makes u happy, focus on urself, be professional and don't take things personal
U can focus ur emotional energy on something else like going to gym
U can also exhaust ur mind and body but I don't recommend it

[Asker]

Thank u 🙏🏻

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Learn to process it in appropriate moments. There’s nothing wrong with feeling your feelings, but if you’re worried that your reactions are having adverse effects then you can find ways to process it privately at home. Or even just a relatively private space at work, like sitting in your car for 15 minutes just to yell or cry and then stop when that time is up.

[Asker]

I'll try thank u

[bowenw]

It is probably your personality and you are dealing with things you are passionate about. If you feel you are being too emotional, take a break and think about something else or do something to take your mind off of things.

[Asker]

Teşekkür ederim

[bowenw]

Rica ederim.

[Anonymous]

Are we talking too emotional in all things in life or just certain things?

[Asker]

All things

[Opinion Owner]

Where does that come from?

[Asker]

My personality

[Panthero80]

I don't know if you can if that is your constitution.

[Abbycado]

No one here can fix that. See a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should try meditation and yoga.

[Asker]

I'll try. Thank u

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome

[jahaims]

Heal trauma

[chocolatetwopointo]

therapy

[ballweevil]

About what?

[Asker]

general, life, relationships etc.

[ballweevil]

relationships is difficult, but for life, you just need to understand accept lot of stuff isn't in your hands so if it something shitty happens it happens just move on, dont take it personal

[Asker]

I will take it into consideration, thank u