Why Is It So Easy To Know A Woman Isn't Interested In You Vs When She Is?

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Most Women would say they flirt very subtle, a little smile, she might look, then look again, etc.. I don't know them all cos it literally never happens whatsoever to me, but what about Women who have a super secret crush on you but never show any signs because their scared they might implode. How do you go about this situation.

PizzaDaddyo · Accepted Answer

I love psychology. Maybe instead of looking for the answer, as in, the answer or an answer understand what you just said and you’ll just have to accept reality and using it to move forward or still accept defeat. Bottom line: as I see it you noticed as you got older you just can’t tell who just “likes” you no more than friends from a girl that likes you with some heat. Okay, such a broad question cannot be answered without asking each woman for a solid answer. Yet, I like how you structured the question with your own interpretation and insights with perspective and your experience. Plus, realize not all guys are created equally with emotional intelligence. If you even asking a question like this you’re emotionally intelligent enough to understand social cues yet have a slight emotional challenge you’re struggling to comprehend.
Call me crazy but I heard of this strategy I didn’t invent it… The only thing I can mention to help is to Learn Flirting. Study it if you have too, watch a video or read up on it but, don’t let it take over your life. It should be actually fun for the both of you after you get comfortable in your own skin. Also don’t take the flirting or joking bantering seriously or with exaggerated expectations or failure will come yet just live in the moment, and the most smallest things to say or gestures coming from your mouth or emotions will give you all the answer your looking for. What I’m not telling you to do is: don’t gotta walk up to the next girl and directly call her beautiful. Lol where’s the fun in an abrupt declaration when you and either speak with efficient charm or purpose in hope to receive the same energy back. One thing I had to understand personally for myself is that I just needed to communicate more. Definitely just talk to more and more women of all ages attracted to or not. Be yourself joke around. It’s not a big deal to flirt with a girl you’re not attracted to. There’s so many times I’ve accidentally did it not knowing, but it’s never bad. Trust me you’ll learn a lot from just talking to people and you’re really gonna learn more about yourself just as much as you’ll learn about them. Also, when was the last time you had a crush on somebody and you told them about it? It’s not every day that you either tell the person you really like about your feelings no matter if you have the opportunity or not it’s up to you to say something now think about the girl It’s still embedded in our heads that women are not solely the person to do all the asking so definitely go for the girl that you like and see if she likes you back and if she doesn’t, she will show you. Definitely step out of your comfort zone with a girl that you’re attracted to You never can understand what’s going on in their life even if they do have a boyfriend that thought of them having one shouldn’t scare you you also never know if they’re in a very bad relationship and their boyfriend is not the man they need and you could be the man that they need. I agree it is always going to be more difficult to understand when a girl likes you especially if you are attracted to her physically, but for whatever reason this attraction makes a false challenge where it’s really more of a personal problem of you not opening up. So basically, if you see a girl that you genuinely like and you don’t know, just talk to her about something light and relatable and interesting not a boring topic. If she’s very engaging in a conversation about something small like nothing, you can tell she’s interested, but how interested is she? That’s the question that’s not what you ask her that’s what you ask yourself. Not every girl we’ll get the giggles, but the giggles are the best sign in my opinion because if she’s laughing at stupid things you’re saying and you know you don’t even crack a real joke then it’s probably just nervous laughing and she just wants to make you feel good but it’s all great for you. A great way is to tease her on her laugh if she is laughing and from here, you can tell how playful she is and if she’s nervous or smooth. You also gotta think that the guys are the ones to do all the talking girls get asked out. It’s just how it is. Maybe she’s just waiting for the day for that perfect guy to ask her out and maybe it was you the whole time don’t give up on yourself

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Historically women were socialized for modesty. Immodest women existed, but they were rare because we bred them out. Too few men selected them for marriage and child rearing. All modern people are a product of evolutionary biology. So most women are literally born of women who were very reticent to make their amorous intentions known, because it was considered improper for a lady. First, women will have to overcome their nature. Then there’s the risk of rejection, however low that may be. Stack on top of that the fear of getting used and hurt because you crushed on the wrong person. Lastly, our collective history in which men chase and women choose offers women the privilege of passivity. Meanwhile the women’s liberation movement offers them some protection for being immodest and even promiscuous. If you stop to really think about it, that’s the part that bugs many men. We feel like we’re not being chosen or that we have to chase promiscuous women to be chosen, albeit temporarily. There’s the old joke. “What’s the difference between a wh*re and a b*tch? The wh*re f*cks everyone at the party. The b*tch f*cks everyone but you.” 😂😂😂
It’s a vicious cycle because, contrary to popular myth, men too are judged for their promiscuity. So when a good woman sees the man she likes run off with the trifling trollop, she loses respect for him, and her interest wanes. Obviously there’s a happy medium, but it requires us all to overcome our natures, our socialization and our fears. There’s nothing easy about that. Then again, the best stuff rarely comes easy. Keep that in mind.

Nauorbb · Accepted Answer

I think it’s easy to read most women maybe because we are very emotional to begin with and more sensitive generally so we are easily moved even by simple things like scaring us as a joke, whereas a lot of men tend to come off as more stoic and in control of their emotions or expression. Either many guys are just less emotional than us or they just have more control over how their emotions show.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Most women avoid looking at men because many men see any eye contact at all as some kind of sign.

RavVid · Answer

The easiest thing to tell is when a women was interested but isn't now because she changes how she interacts.

If she isn't interested she doesn't talk or pay attention to you at all.

If she is interested it is hard to tell between that and she is just friendly and likes interacting with people.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Because women make a much more intentional effort to be subtle when they're interested as a way to avoid being hurt if you don't feel the same.

If they aren't interested in you, the mostly don't notice or care how you feel.

Plus, people also tend to logic themselves out of thinking that the person they like likes them back.

Anonymous · Answer

99% of the time women aren’t flirting. Super virgins have a hard time telling because they probably rarely interact with women. You’ll know if she’s flirting with you or just being nice off rip, or you at least should. Some girls do flirt knowing they aren’t interested though, for whatever reason, which makes it a little confusing as some women are just flirty by nature, it’s not a large portion though so it isn’t a real issue.

Anonymous · Answer

It's easy to tell. What is hard to tell is whether it's GENUINE or not. Most women lie so much and will feign interest just for a man's attention that it's hard to tell if she has GENUINE interest, or whether you're just her current game she's playing.

jeta33 · Answer

It’s often easier to tell when a woman isn’t interested because disinterest tends to show up clearly in avoidance — and humans are wired to detect rejection for survival and social reasons. Interest, on the other hand, can be subtle, indirect, and context-dependent.

Anonymous · Answer

The super secret crush probably doesn’t exist. That guy is looking at her actions and deciding in his own mind that it means she has a crush. Either that or he was told by other people that she liked him but they should’ve never said that.

WonderingManII · Answer

Women never crush on me, as far as I can tell. Thus I gave up. Now I just come on GAG and write junk to pass the time until I will no longer exist.

Avicenna · Answer

It’s partly because not be interested in the normal state

stvigor · Answer

looking for any reason why to give up. Compared to reason to pursue and communicate , find common interests in basics in abnormal but normal schedule and commuting association.

AviatorTom · Answer

A woman who's not interested will either tell you thst, or just walk away. We guys aren't very observant, but we're not thst dumb.

Anonymous · Answer

Most of us don't like to be responsible for pursuing a partner. Men are pursuers, women are the pursuees. If that seems unfair, take it up with mother nature.

Priya99999 · Answer

If I'm by myself and I see a guy I'm interested in, i would definitely approach and make a move

JackCarter · Answer

Women are not interested in men who are desperately thinking "is she interested:

Anonymous · Answer

It's easy be utterly oblivious, if they were seriously interested they'll eventually make a move

Ricopan · Answer

They give the signs that they are, but my experience has been that they want to connect more with who they want me to be instead of who I actually am. Then they realize that they actually want that, but by that time, I'm good.

Likes2drive · Answer

Because they’re very direct with that, but if they’re interested, they only give subtle hints

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody wants to be hurt. Self preservation while testing the waters.

Godihateyou · Answer

If you don't have money or can't help her socially... she isn't into you.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, women never show interest in me... at least not women that I like.

exitseven · Answer

they like to play games.

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