How to stop being mean/ evil to every man I talk to due to past hurt?

[Anonymous]

I was hurt in the past by a couple guys but the last one hurt the most… it feels overwhelming talking to men because I feel scared of them hurting me so being mean is my coping mechanism but I don’t know when to turn it off

[ProbablyClueless]

When I was dealing with similar issues, I found this book really helpful. It's free on Kindle.

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[Effably]

Well you don't really need to be more than civil. If you still want to I'd suggest a controlled exposure therapy.

So either professionals or find some girl friend with an actual good guy brother or boyfriend to help you adjust to it being some, not all that are bad.

End of the day there are bad people around and learning to surround yourself with people who are good for you is a habit few of us ever develop.

[Anonymous]

So don’t talk to men and heal first. Get therapy if you need it, but handle that. You won’t be any good in a relationship otherwise.

[itsannalee]

Heal your pain, if you feel so hurt. Get some help from professional like psychologist.

[Ask105]

Women hurt me all the Time toxic girl i dont want them dont get attached and filter dont get attached marriage only get slightly attached

[Anonymous]

I have only really tried to court one girl. She was extremely mean to me and showed no mercy. Despite this, I still feel very strongly about her. Maybe you'll find someone as retarded as me.

[HusamRocks]

Don't take the talk personal and keep formality 👍🏻

[cavedweller1973]

Sorry someone got you girl there are some shitty people in the world

[jahaims]

Go to therapy