Guys, what happens when a woman is overly independent and then she realizes later in life she actually needs a man?

[megzs16]

I've always seen myself as a woman who didn’t need a man. Like many women of my generation, I was raised to be strong, self-reliant, and to never depend on a man. Throughout my 20s and early 30s, I fully embraced that mindset. If I needed advice, help with my car, or anything maintenance-related, I turned to my dad. He’s always been my go-to. But now that I’m 36, and my dad is getting older, I’ve started to feel a shift. I find myself wondering how I’ll manage when he’s no longer around to lean on. It’s made me confront a truth I didn’t want to admit before — that doing life completely on my own forever may not be as easy as I once believed. I’m not trying to throw any shade at women who are happily single or fully independent. I admire that deeply. But I also think many women quietly wrestle with feelings like mine and just don’t talk about it. The truth is, men and women have different strengths — and that’s okay. Men naturally bring certain qualities to the table, just like women do. What are your thoughts on this? Does it make a woman sound weak or needy when she feels like she needs a man? Does it come across as if she wants to use a man?

[Anonymous]

No it doesn’t make you sound weak at all. Most men, unlike a lot of women know we need each other. We work better together as a couple, then as individuals w some exceptions. Sadly a lot of women will follow on that same path, same will be ok w it but a lot of them like yourself will realize what you have realized. Most women in general need men for a number of things. Maybe not directly, but indirectly as far as what men do for society. It’s easy for women say say we don’t need men while sitting in their air conditioned house behind a computer or a phone that a man invented, or while traveling to Starbucks to get their coffee in some sort of vehicle that men created. It’s not impossible for you to meet someone if that’s what you’re hoping for. But I will say it’s going to be harder for a number of reasons. One being that you’re older, two of you have person have kids. Three if you’ve never been married. But hopefully it all works out for you.

[DJB72]

That insight is what decent guys in their 20s are looking for. In women in their 20s. So they can have kids.

It's one of the things guys look for. Not the only thing, but a crucial part of it. Because the women with that level of insight also tend to be gracious, supportive, and infinitely stronger than the "boss babe" type.

Most guys have a boss at work. Why would they look for that at home as well? We need a wife that will bring peace to the table. Again, because a woman who lives that way tends to be the strongest. And a Man with the intelligence to look for a woman who brings him Peace tends to be smart enough to know he can't do it on his own.

[Anonymous]

So what happens would be that you lost value in the dating market.
Men you want do not reciprocate that like they did in your 20s.
They go for younger women.

[Anonymous]

I think the whole "independant" thing is nonsense, in general, and anyone who was raised that way, or thinks that way, just low key hates men, whether they want to admit it, or not.

Men and women have different strengths & weaknesses; we compliment each other, and denying that fact is just foolhardy pigheadedness.

Going based off of your example, I would just feel like you're trying to use me. I like to feel needed, but I want a woman that wants me for me, and wants to be with me, not just because I can change her oil.

I'd feel like she only wants me because she can no longer rely on her dad, not because she actually cares about me, and wants me in her life. I'm just cheap labor for her.

[HighValue]

The "Later in life" part is the problem. Obviously she fell for the man hating feminist garbage and now that she is no longer worthy of a good man she hopes that somehow someone will still want her when the good men have many other better options. Once a woman is past 30, I have no interest in her no matter what realizations she has. She has absolutely no value to me as a potential partner.

[WonderingManII]

I feel like you woke up to reality. Life is hard to go at it all on your own. Currently I live with my parents. But I know that once they are gone, I will need someone in my life too. My parents work at things together. Dad does things around the house, and so does my Mom. I also do things as well. That is how the family unit works.

[Ironic_Method]

Going through life is hard and having that support makes it easy.

Though I don't think you inherently need a man specifically, but men do tend to be problem solvers.

There's nothing wrong from wanting the kind of help that men typically provide. Sounds like you could get by without it, but it would make your life easier with.

[nawtee_me]

Absolutely not. I raised my kids to be independent. With that said I did not teach them to do it all themselves but to know how to just in case. Work smart not hard…. Work with him if need be to make sure it is done right or let him do it all if you like. Being strong does not mean you have to do it all yourself.

[MasterKS]

Sorry but sounds like double standard and selfish, you need man just to replace father, if its an actual realization its good otherwise you will spoil yourself and the mans too. being honest! I will follow you, its a serious matter think deeply.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You've always needed a man your father is a man and there is nothing wrong with needing a man cause we definitely need woman and thats how it supposed to be

[Arcadian222]

If both men and women realize this, its gonna be 1+1=11

[Anonymous]

ok yup you are some dude using a pink account. typical manosphere talking points here

[jahaims]

She dies alone or gets the leftovers

[nudeNhorny]

that's pretty normal