Ladies, do you need a man to complete you?
Guys, how do you feel about these women who say they don’t need you?
Many of these girls don't know how badly they do need a man, and make a fool of themselves every time they pretend otherwise. But they're not mature enough to be ready for a husband.
Chloe Roma said it best: They treat men the way they do, not because they want a husband, but because they never got over the father in their lives that was never there. They aren't looking for their husbands, they're still searching for that time with their fathers that they lost, trying to chase down that innocent childhood that life stole from them very prematurely.
What these women can't accept, is that a man can be your dad, or your hubby, but it's a fool's errand to expect him to be both, and he'll resent it.
This psychology isn't without a parallel. If a man finds out that his girlfriend can't at minimum be as patient and understanding a listener as his own mother, he might not trust her with becoming his wife. Men who had healthy relationships with their mothers, will seek out women who extol the same virtues, while seeking to avoid the same pitfalls. Men who had horrible relationships with their own mothers, will seek out the good mother they never had. But if a bitch is all he knows, that's all he'll find.
In my case, I seek out whoever can give me the time of day. If she can't at least be as patient as my mom when I make a discovery and want to elaborate on it, then she's not going to get very far with me.
I lacked consistent, deep, lifelong, intelligent, committed friends most of my childhood. So that's what I seek out in women. Only to find most these days are fairweather at best, and often very shallow.
I seek out great minds, with which to discuss ideas. I'll sometimes settle for average minds, that can discuss things. But most of what I find are the small-minded. And just when I think I've broken the loop, it starts all over again.
So in the end, I'm like Bill Murray, trying not to have a Groundhog Day bad romance anymore.
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Independence is not the issue. It's arrogance and being obnoxious that are the problem. If your "independence" comes at a cost of being a healthy significant other, then yes it is a turn off.
If you're the "I don't need no man" type of person, then do us all a favor and stay single. Independence is part of being a mature adult. So nothing new. Both my girlfriend and I are independent but we still have come together to enhance each other's lives. We add to each other's lives making life more enjoyable and 'bearable'.
Do you need a men do you need a wife is so tiring already! And in the US it’s such an every day topic. Over talked seems like a joke sometimes. Americans and their fried brain I am done. They have lost sense of reality. So out of touch what’s going on with the world. Go to Tanzania for to Africa for a f sake go to the Balkans to Eastern Europe go see how REAL women and MEN A C T
Don’t just look at Africa and Europe from TV!
Oh but Boston Cream is the best lazy Americans get the fuck out of your comfort zone: Elon Musk and his flying cars be fooling your asses.
Do you need a men do you need a women ! The government wants to create babies in labs from scratch to use their souls as slaves for the modern world !! so LOVE dies FAMILIES die EMPATHY dies HUMANITY dies CULTURES die and HUMANS go out of date.. that’s WHY this war is happening between a female and a male human and removing BABIES GENDER making it a f * NEutRal gEndEr
Are you ThAT ignorant not to even understand what is going on.
Women pay 50 - 50 men do this women do that and this … it’s such a scam I’m scared how dumb humans are. How can human specie be so dumb so dumb mf dumb I’m so done I am about to explode
After reading this sure go back to sleep you f sheep
You know what. I’m independent. But do I need a man? Yes I fucking do.
I need to be held by someone every night when I go to bed.
I need someone to physically and emotionally appreciate my body that I work very hard for in the gym ESPECIALLY when I’m wearing something sexy.
I need someone to carry my groceries for me and drive long distances and fucking parallel park for me.
I NEED A MAN AND I AM SO BOTHERED.
Thank you. (My period is due today so that probably explains the outburst).
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Women can do it themselves leave them alone.
The question goes both ways of cause. We all need somebody else for non-masturbatory sex.
But is that all there is? Is there more to motor vehicle maintenance than topping up the oil? That is a figurative question.
I would suggest there is indeed a lot more than non-masturbatory sex and topping up the oil. The strength of a couple is there are two peoples knowledge and experience combined. That's two the point that male and female brains are structurally different and from an evolutionary viewpoint it makes sense that in a pair bonding species both sides bring different things to the common table.
Dropping back to motor vehicle maintenance a girl I knew, who didn't need a man, took her car to the shop to fix the air conditioning. She knew you take cars to the dealer right? They replaced the compressor three times in a row. I offered to call the dealer and after the third compressor she realized she didn't know thermodynamics. I called went through the symptoms and pointed out that it couldn't be the compressor (that they wanted to change for the fourth time) and politely suggested they could look at the expansion valve. It was of course the expansion valve.
In terms of the 'don't need a man', that phrase is saying I'm arrogant enough to think nobody else can bring anything to the table.
Nobody likes an arrogant person, particularly when they are arrogant in their ignorance.
It is not a matter of a turn on or turn off. Men are simply happy to leave arrogant women to solve their car air conditioning woes on their own.
Independent women are only a turn off when they go out of their way to state that they don't need a man, which is quite often the case. It would be weird if men walked around saying they dont need a woman, but for some reason most independent women dont realize how odd it is for them flaunt their independence, in the same nuaseating way that men with nothing to offer but money, showcase their wallets. Further, it's practically impossible to build anything with a woman that deosnt believe men and women need each other. So I think most men see it as a red flag, because in most cases, it's a safe bet to assume it is.
Nothing wrong with an independent woman, as long as she's still a person and not trying to really force and enforce the idea that she'll never be with anyone.
Just be yourself, be natural and not forced behavior, and enjoy what you like and don't like.
The only "independent women" I can't stand are the ones who feel it's necessary to keep constantly hitting the point home that they don't need anyone.
Like yeah I get it, you're super strong and beautiful and powerful and amazing and a god and everyone loves you and you'll never do anything wrong and you're perfect, but, all I did was open the door for you because it's an unconscious habit. I don't hate you and don't think you're incapable of opening the door, I just did it because I did it.
Dependency in a relationship is something that should be talked about every time, and it should be balanced. If it works for both sides, that's great! For me, I think people should be okay by themselves before they try and take someone else into their life. Thus, I like women who have their own goals and go after it, extremely attractive when they're busy or need to take vare of something. But, after that, relationships for me should become partnerships, where two people work with one amother as a team. Sure, you may be okay if you broke up, but while you're together you should do what you can together, have someone by your side, with balance of what you can do by yourself. That's just for me though :)
i live men in fact in my life i give highest priority to romantic love, i do anything foe love but if i do not like your character even if your the wealthiest, most hamdsome man here on earth i don't wanna be eith you. havinh a preference doesn't mean arrogance.
somr men when they are rich and powerful they wpuld think you are abnormal if you don't like them. that something is wronh with you. they choose women like choosinh a product in a grocery store. but romantic relationship is a two-way street the womam choose too
don't accuse me i don't need a man just because i do not like yoy to be my mateNo, I don't NEED a man.
I don't feel incomplete when I'm single.
If I want to date someone, it's because I want them to add to my quality of life and because I like them as a person. They would be the accessory. They should be the bonus, not the requirement for my happiness.I never really thought about it, but I’ll tell you an experience I had with a woman that’s independent I guess.
I made sure I took care of everything where she wouldn't ever have to worry about a job or a bill or whatever, I guess she felt dependent and lazy and lost motivation her words and eventually we went separate ways it was my way of showing love but what she needed is someone who would keep her motivated and would not feel like a safety net so can’t slack. I thought it’s good when someone have your back. But apparently it’s not always the case.Sorry this image has nothing to do with needing a man. I've meet men who have no knowledge whatsoever about cars, the blasphemy. So this could easily be two men, or a woman watching a man.
On top of that what's wrong with not knowing how to do something and asking for help? Whether it's changing your oil or any other task?
I do think we all need someone for companionship, conversation, etc.
I do not need a man. A man would be a bonus, an asset to my life but without one I can be just as happy and fulfilled, it’s like wether or not you have a best friend, having one to experience life with is great but I do not need one I have other things / people that make me happy
Women who have life skills that she can bring to enrich my life are desirable. No guy wants to be in a relationship with a woman who has the life skills of a 14 yo.
However, women who don't know how to make me feel wanted are an utter turn off.
It's never been about "independence". It's always been about knowing men's emotional needs and being emotionally competent to address them. Self-proclaimed "independent women" who "don't need men" are generally completely oblivious to men's emotional needs in a relationship. Which is probably why they're single.
I need and I want therefore I have.
I am very independent. I have lived without a man in my life as an adult and as a single mom. I can take care of my kids and have a good career and is financially comfortable even with no child support or alimony.
I now have a second husband who I share my life with … it’s always healthier and better balance to love and be love.Good. I don't like to be bothered anyways. LOL
Anyways, I find a woman who can hold her own attractive as an adult should.
Now, if she comes off as those women that "I don't need a man" in terms of being arrogant and doesn't care about love then I find it a turn off.
I don't need but I want and have. I'm fortunate and thankful.
I lived alone long time and filled the void by keeping busy and with unproductive relationships.
Independent isn't a turn off, but we all have to get to the question of... what is my value to this other person and feel valued. That's important and it's ok for that to evolve as it did with me.
I don't need a man to complete me- I can take care of myself & I'm perfectly content with my life alone. If I need an expertise I do not posses, I'll pay for a service of someone who does.
However I think I'd like a partner in my life again at some point. If it is a man again - I don't know but if it is - then it isn't because I need him, but it will be because I want him.
I pay most of my own bills. I take care of my apartment. I have a job. I do my own chores. I do things that make me happy. No I don't need a partner. I am getting more content with being without a partner for the rest of my life. And if that is going to make me live a better life than being someone who not right for me than I can embrace that.
If "need" means would I collapse and die wo a man in my life, no I don't think that would happen, at least not any sooner than it will anyway from old age. And I would rather be single than be in a bad relationship.
If "need" means am I a lot happier, feel more secure etc w the RIGHT man in my life, the answer is yes. JMO!I’m bi with a preference for women. I don’t need a man or woman to complete me I enjoy being in relationships but feel perfectly whole single too.
As for if independent women are a turn on: ABSOLUTELY! They’re so wonderful and strong and I don’t worry about them as much. They also tend to be less clingy which I like. Although it makes me sad when they’re not affectionate.the pic is so stupid xD
But no, i don't need a man. I'm doing well by just living by myself. No mofo calling me at 3 in the morning, asking for "some booty" and just come on over for a while. truly feels good to not have that happening.
It's a turn off, based off of what I associate with it, like when I've heard some women say it, it seems like they're just angry at men as if they're trying to compete with them or just be bitchy to them - basically a way of trashing men and being a victim, acting as if women have no rights and they're suddenly free from the oppression they never experienced.
A relationship shouldn't be a need, but a want, obviously for those who want it.
I'm not traditional either.
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