According to most men's opinion, they want dependent women but not deal with the consequences of a dependent partner, or the responsibilities that comes with a dependent partner, lol. They just want a woman dependent enough to stroke their ego. 😌
Lemme tell you one thing honey, whether or not men like it, it doesn't matter. Being independent is a basic necessity for every grown-up individual. You can't entirely depend on your spouse for something.
Shit happens in life and, God forbid, if you're not independent and not capable of sustaining your family on your own, how will you keep yourself and your kids if your husband either dies or becomes unable to be the breadwinner of the family?
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what about codependency? Relationships would be so much better if both persons were able to do what they do best without any restrictions
Both, but I lean towards independent. It's nice to feel needed, and have someone who relies on you, but a strong independent woman has a very attractive strength.
Independent and dominant in the outside world. Dependent and submissive in the bedroom.
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Independent usually, though I think I love the idea of a dependant girl more. I tend to think that the woman being more dependant on me for happiness or needs makes it more likely for her to use me and cheat. If I am too busy for her for a short while, I'd have to deal with the worry that she's depending on someone else. On top of that, if she was dependant on me for financial or other security, I'd worry she only wanted me because she needed someone she didn't think would walk out on her, not because she loved me. There are traits I like about it, and the idea of having a dependant woman works really well for me, it's just ended poorly for me a few times and now I have a bad perception of people who want to depend on me.
Tbh though, I think either would be fine as long as I could depend on her a little. What matters more for me is the degree to which she proves her feelings, integrity, and honesty to me, because if I don't think I matter to her then I will assume she is using me for whatever reason.The concept of an independant woman is a failed one.
Think about it for a second. What do you want from a relationship?
Someone you can trust. A true friend, ally and lover, correct?
In other words... someone you can DEPEND on!
Entering a relationship with a deliberately independant person is like trying to put a bike lock on a stream of water. They will bail on you at some point.
Financial independance is a good thing. The problem with it is that many women get bloodshot eyes when their salary goes up.
"If I earn X much, surely I deserve a man who makes at least 2X". This phenomenom is generally referred to as hypergamy - being attracted to status.
In other words, not only is an independant woman unreliable, but there is a high chance she is extremely high maintenance.
You can label me a misogynist all you like, and say that I just want a slave - which is ACTUALLY true to some extent, because I am into BDSM. But the truth is that my experience with women tells me that loyal, slightly homely women who value traditional societal roles are some of the sweetest and most lovable creatures ever. Meanwhile your average "independant woman" often comes across as a narcissist and an overall unbearable person.Depends on the woman. A lot of the independent women i have know have been toxic feminists. Nothing you do is right. Ill give a common example I give out. If i open the door I'm robbing them of their independance and thinking them too weak to get their own door but if I dont open it I'm an inconsiderate jerk who mistreats women. If she's financially independant great. If she has her own friends great. If she needs to depend on me im ok with that. I am a guy and its in my DNA to be the type of guy who can provide and be depended on.
That sure is a loaded question. First of all, what does âindependent womanâ mean? Does that mean, whichever guy she happens to be spooning with, watching a movie, is as important to her as a tissue when she has to blow her nose? Or does it mean something else? It means different things to different people, plus whether you happen to be a man or woman
Let me put it this way: I would rather with a woman who can handle business in the unfortunate scenario that I am incapacitated, or out of commission. I would prefer an independent woman because she would be more dependable than a dependent woman.
Having had both types, my experience is that dependent women crave safety and affection more, making you feel needed. Independent women tend to be more intelligent and mentally fulfilling, but don't really need you.
Ideally you'd have a mix. Someone who can get stuff done on her own, who is smart and who has wholly devoted herself to you, because you fill certain needs for her. Of course as a two way street.It depends, how independent and how dependent? There's a sweet spot where a girl is dependent enough to make the man feel needed and therefore interested in her as much as she him, but also where she's independent enough to not have to come to him with everything. For example, I'd love to teach my girlfriend about cars and such, but I don't want to be running around the house trying to kill a spider as she stands on a stool and shrieks. (Of course this isn't precise or specific it's just an exaggerated example to fully illustrate my point)
Dependent is easy to control as you know that this person canât do anything without your permission or conversation.
Independent women are not easy to keep and makes guys scared bcs they can dump their ass any moment. But secure is love and not money or salary.
Girls opinionI find that it's a combo of the two. I want my girl to be confident in herself and be able to bring out confidence in me (shut up and dance) and dependent on me to the extent that it makes me feel that I am special to her. That she will wait and desire to spend time with me.
Guys generally want their dick sucked with a side of âI canât live without you Daddyâ. Canât imagine an independent woman wanting to that everyday, willingly. At the end of the day, itâs all about men wanting their ego stroked 💦
Both. Preferably independent. If you mean it emotionally than no. Fuck those psychopath women. I like me the woman to be emotionally dependant or she becomes untrustworthy. If you mean it financially or ego wise than yes. Those Independent women are better for a man (rare and precious) because they can be as and even more efficient than the man in creating great legacy.
I think it depends on personality balances. I have been attracted to both and been turned off by both. If a girl is to passive it would make me feel like they would do everything I want without considering her own wants. And Visa versa if she's to aggressive makes me feel she would be vulnerable with me.
So I'm reading some of these guy opinions and they are so funny to me. Like the always talk about how women day dream a crazy idea of a man but holy crap they have come up with some strange ideas about a woman.
Definitely independent. I don't think I would be attracted to a woman who would have to be by me all the time and have to check if she has my permission to do something. lol. I like a woman who would be there for me when I need her, but speak her own mind. She would not be afraid to say what is on her mind and do what she likes.
I'd like to say it doesn't matter but it does. Id like independent women. It shows that they can take care of themselves, and that even of they didn't need me, they wanted me anyways and chose me over many other things. It's the being wanted most guys want.
I don't care much
but , in these hard times, independent woman means trouble , she would have depression. and many things, most likely she won't share anything with me
And that is not cool , if i am to date , i would share everything with her. y heart would be openI was raised by an independent mom, and backed up by a very independent thinking grandmother, so I can only accept an independent woman. I dont mean the type where she doesn't want to share, because I will definitely share what I have, but it has to be fair. She needs to be capable of doing what she can just like me.
I'm attracted to girls that don't focus on being independent or dependent. When I'm dating a girl I like feeling needed or wanted because it offers opportunities to build memories and for us to work together with something.
I want to be independent enough that I can easily walk away if things go bad and still be ok. I dont mind relying on him for emotional support sometimes, but never financially.
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