Guys, are you attracted to more dependent or independent women?

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CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

According to most men's opinion, they want dependent women but not deal with the consequences of a dependent partner, or the responsibilities that comes with a dependent partner, lol. They just want a woman dependent enough to stroke their ego. 😌

Lemme tell you one thing honey, whether or not men like it, it doesn't matter. Being independent is a basic necessity for every grown-up individual. You can't entirely depend on your spouse for something.

Shit happens in life and, God forbid, if you're not independent and not capable of sustaining your family on your own, how will you keep yourself and your kids if your husband either dies or becomes unable to be the breadwinner of the family?

daniellemyers · Accepted Answer

what about codependency? Relationships would be so much better if both persons were able to do what they do best without any restrictions

Byrdman29 · Accepted Answer

Both, but I lean towards independent. It's nice to feel needed, and have someone who relies on you, but a strong independent woman has a very attractive strength.

jon72 · Accepted Answer

Independent and dominant in the outside world. Dependent and submissive in the bedroom.

devilman666 · Answer

Independent usually, though I think I love the idea of a dependant girl more. I tend to think that the woman being more dependant on me for happiness or needs makes it more likely for her to use me and cheat. If I am too busy for her for a short while, I'd have to deal with the worry that she's depending on someone else. On top of that, if she was dependant on me for financial or other security, I'd worry she only wanted me because she needed someone she didn't think would walk out on her, not because she loved me. There are traits I like about it, and the idea of having a dependant woman works really well for me, it's just ended poorly for me a few times and now I have a bad perception of people who want to depend on me.

Tbh though, I think either would be fine as long as I could depend on her a little. What matters more for me is the degree to which she proves her feelings, integrity, and honesty to me, because if I don't think I matter to her then I will assume she is using me for whatever reason.

Benedek38 · Answer

The concept of an independant woman is a failed one.

Think about it for a second. What do you want from a relationship?
Someone you can trust. A true friend, ally and lover, correct?
In other words... someone you can DEPEND on!

Entering a relationship with a deliberately independant person is like trying to put a bike lock on a stream of water. They will bail on you at some point.

Financial independance is a good thing. The problem with it is that many women get bloodshot eyes when their salary goes up.
"If I earn X much, surely I deserve a man who makes at least 2X". This phenomenom is generally referred to as hypergamy - being attracted to status.
In other words, not only is an independant woman unreliable, but there is a high chance she is extremely high maintenance.

You can label me a misogynist all you like, and say that I just want a slave - which is ACTUALLY true to some extent, because I am into BDSM. But the truth is that my experience with women tells me that loyal, slightly homely women who value traditional societal roles are some of the sweetest and most lovable creatures ever. Meanwhile your average "independant woman" often comes across as a narcissist and an overall unbearable person.

Trollfather · Answer

Are these women independent, slutty? A bit of both?

Azzazle · Answer

Depends on the woman. A lot of the independent women i have know have been toxic feminists. Nothing you do is right. Ill give a common example I give out. If i open the door I'm robbing them of their independance and thinking them too weak to get their own door but if I dont open it I'm an inconsiderate jerk who mistreats women. If she's financially independant great. If she has her own friends great. If she needs to depend on me im ok with that. I am a guy and its in my DNA to be the type of guy who can provide and be depended on.

Platypus007 · Answer

That sure is a loaded question. First of all, what does “independent woman” mean? Does that mean, whichever guy she happens to be spooning with, watching a movie, is as important to her as a tissue when she has to blow her nose? Or does it mean something else? It means different things to different people, plus whether you happen to be a man or woman

NineBreaker · Answer

Let me put it this way: I would rather with a woman who can handle business in the unfortunate scenario that I am incapacitated, or out of commission. I would prefer an independent woman because she would be more dependable than a dependent woman.

Ulvenat · Answer

Having had both types, my experience is that dependent women crave safety and affection more, making you feel needed. Independent women tend to be more intelligent and mentally fulfilling, but don't really need you.
Ideally you'd have a mix. Someone who can get stuff done on her own, who is smart and who has wholly devoted herself to you, because you fill certain needs for her. Of course as a two way street.

andyken · Answer

It depends, how independent and how dependent? There's a sweet spot where a girl is dependent enough to make the man feel needed and therefore interested in her as much as she him, but also where she's independent enough to not have to come to him with everything. For example, I'd love to teach my girlfriend about cars and such, but I don't want to be running around the house trying to kill a spider as she stands on a stool and shrieks. (Of course this isn't precise or specific it's just an exaggerated example to fully illustrate my point)

behonesttoyourself · Answer

Dependent is easy to control as you know that this person can’t do anything without your permission or conversation.
Independent women are not easy to keep and makes guys scared bcs they can dump their ass any moment. But secure is love and not money or salary.

Girls opinion

Jjpayne · Answer

I find that it's a combo of the two. I want my girl to be confident in herself and be able to bring out confidence in me (shut up and dance) and dependent on me to the extent that it makes me feel that I am special to her. That she will wait and desire to spend time with me.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys generally want their dick sucked with a side of “I can’t live without you Daddy”. Can’t imagine an independent woman wanting to that everyday, willingly. At the end of the day, it’s all about men wanting their ego stroked 💦

Jake2190 · Answer

Both. Preferably independent. If you mean it emotionally than no. Fuck those psychopath women. I like me the woman to be emotionally dependant or she becomes untrustworthy. If you mean it financially or ego wise than yes. Those Independent women are better for a man (rare and precious) because they can be as and even more efficient than the man in creating great legacy.

Handyman5225 · Answer

I think it depends on personality balances. I have been attracted to both and been turned off by both. If a girl is to passive it would make me feel like they would do everything I want without considering her own wants. And Visa versa if she's to aggressive makes me feel she would be vulnerable with me.

TazWax · Answer

So I'm reading some of these guy opinions and they are so funny to me. Like the always talk about how women day dream a crazy idea of a man but holy crap they have come up with some strange ideas about a woman.

hindril · Answer

Definitely independent. I don't think I would be attracted to a woman who would have to be by me all the time and have to check if she has my permission to do something. lol. I like a woman who would be there for me when I need her, but speak her own mind. She would not be afraid to say what is on her mind and do what she likes.

aaronbw · Answer

I'd like to say it doesn't matter but it does. Id like independent women. It shows that they can take care of themselves, and that even of they didn't need me, they wanted me anyways and chose me over many other things. It's the being wanted most guys want.

AbdKilani · Answer

I don't care much
but , in these hard times, independent woman means trouble , she would have depression. and many things, most likely she won't share anything with me
And that is not cool , if i am to date , i would share everything with her. y heart would be open

blkhermano · Answer

I was raised by an independent mom, and backed up by a very independent thinking grandmother, so I can only accept an independent woman. I dont mean the type where she doesn't want to share, because I will definitely share what I have, but it has to be fair. She needs to be capable of doing what she can just like me.

Jonestombrice · Answer

I'm attracted to girls that don't focus on being independent or dependent. When I'm dating a girl I like feeling needed or wanted because it offers opportunities to build memories and for us to work together with something.

blubblubblub · Answer

I want to be independent enough that I can easily walk away if things go bad and still be ok. I dont mind relying on him for emotional support sometimes, but never financially.

Vynar · Answer

I want a dependend woman. Of course, it's a responsibillity, but I just feel useless with independend girls. They're just there, you have sex with them and that's it. I want to feel needed, I need to take care of someone.

Britishisthenewme · Answer

Both to a certain extent. Dependant to the point that she wants your opinion on things and want to know what you think and asks you questions on how you stand on things. And independent to the extent that she also works a job and she knows how to to do things without you.

KiaTate · Answer

I think men like a combination of both. Like "I don't need you but I appreciate that your here".

djmzes · Answer

Simple

Morg1796 · Answer

Good question. Well, there's something about her being dependant on me that I really like, for some reason but I also wouldn't mind an independent woman.

So really, my opinion is being equally attracted to both.

Wondering54 · Answer

A fine balance of both. Strong independence can be very off putting these days as it takes away from a guys natural role as a provider. But equally not a clingy needy woman as that trait would be taught by her to shared children and no man wants his offspring to be weak. A mutual compromise of power in a relationship is the healthiest option.

InkHero · Answer

Independent. That doesn't mean she should be arrogant about being independent. Just means I can rest easy knowing that if one of us isn't doing well every now and then, the other can lift us back up. A dependent woman is cool, but I'd stress out if my check is shorter one week. Lol.

2opaz · Answer

Independent for the most. Like she should have things she enjoys doing without me and vice versa.

but id like her to be clingy in a relationship. Clingyness makes me feel wanted. Aloofness makes me feel unwanted

SupernovaV10 · Answer

A blend of both for me. Too much dependence show incompetence. Too much independence means lack of trust. Dependent enough to trust me to handle important things and take care of her but independent enough to take care of herself for simple everyday things. I wanna feel like a partner not a father or just a friend.

Mikecheck123 · Answer

Independent in the streets, dependent in the sheets ;)

Unnameable · Answer

I guess independent, but not arrogant. Ideally, she would suck at things I'm great at, and she'd be great at things I suck at. That way, we can be an equal partnership with respect for each other

Guanfei · Answer

Dependent, because I need them as much as I like them to need me. Independant women won't even look at me, I'm too stupid and they can find better without problem.

dante1221 · Answer

Personally I like a good mix between the 2, for instance let's say you have to go on a trip for work she can handle herself and be okay, then when you come home she can depend on you to be there and say you care for her and will always be there for her.

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

Half way, I want a SO that depends on me and needs me otherwise I feel useless, but at the same time I don't want to have to do EVERYTHING for them so they must be somewhat independent :)

HikerDude · Answer

"independent" is usually code for "fuck you and give me my Whopper."

serious · Answer

Attracted to? No, I can never get attracted to any woman. However yes I can find a woman attractive ( from a distance), so yes I do find independent women attractive.

ScaryCool · Answer

I'm attracted to a girl who is independent enough to fight back in life, but not afraid to rely/depend on someone else from time to time when they need the extra help.

ShortCircuit · Answer

If you aren't dependent on your partner, there is no reason to be in a relationship.

Maxemeister · Answer

Independent. Dependent ones are not always but more often crazy, overattached, jealous, have less ambitions, etc.

scottalanmiller · Answer

Independent. Dependent are just... needy. But independent doesn't imply that she doesn't want or appreciate being taken care of.

TomasLyy · Answer

In the middle, I want her to feel safe in my arms, and trust me, but at the same time i dont want someone who needs to cling to me or those type of peple who say "We complete eachother"

Logorithim · Answer

Independent, because I know she really wants to be with me/enjoys being around me rather than just what I can do for her.

JSmuve · Answer

I'm attracted to women how know how to take care of themselves and aren't helpless/useless, but I'm not attracted to "independent women" who are too proud to ask for her help and don't want a man to help them with anything.

bennyboi222 · Answer

Both. Just has to be the right amount of both. As long as you're not a feminist who gets mad when he opens doors and stuff for you

schadelbrecher · Answer

I feel indifferent because she has to have both characteristics but I like a more independent woman with high tendency to need me.

Hello4242 · Answer

If guys like dependent woman they are probably abusive.

iDropThem · Answer

I like a girl who's independent, but still craves my attention.

jdrrichmond · Answer

I want to with someone who makes a good salary so I don't have to work, cooks, cleans, give me bjs whenever I want, and gives me a foot massage. I also want 10 million dollars and a Ferarri. My SO wants the same. Neither of us have it yet.

Cosytoasty · Answer

Independent. I want her to be able to exist without me.

xxripper81xx · Answer

Personally, a mix of both. Just right you know? So that way it's better for both of us. But of course, if the man is a gentleman, he'll be wanting to help you as much as he can and make you feel amazing

taleswapper · Answer

Independant, every time. Better a woman who's with me out of choice, than out of need.

brocklee · Answer

Independent and I will not settle for anything but.

Juxtapose · Answer

I want an independent woman who can be strong when I am not. Needless to say I would return the gesture. She should be my equal and not a child.

SirRexington · Answer

The balance? Where is the balance? I need someone to understand you can't have a functional social structure with one predominating the other!

BarMan95 · Answer

Both, a woman is strong enough to look after herself yet need to support of her partner

FelixNagle · Answer

Personally, I like a woman that is independent but will still ask me for help with tasks that would be difficult for her.

AlphaGhost · Answer

What do you want for an answer?
Sugar-coated shit or real facts and I can argue about it but if you ask this question, so that woman can support it and you can feel good about it for something you did then I will not waste my time.

RedThread · Answer

I like very independent women. So independent that I feel like I don't have to look after them. Like her life is her responsibility and my life is mine.

Omar5881 · Answer

Dependant is a deal breaker for me , I like independent mature women to me dependant = immature

GodHatesKaitlin · Answer

I prefer independent girls. My girlfriend even has a job.

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