Guys, do you prefer a clingy woman, an independent woman, or somewhere in between?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Clingy sounds pathetic. I'm not interested in a woman who is desperate, overly attached, emotionally dependent, or smothering. A partner of mine wouldn't want someone like that, either.

I want a woman, not a puppy.

I like a woman who is bright, emotionally stable, and perfectly capable of living independently, but also likes men. She likes being feminine. She doesn't need me but she wants me. I don't "complete" her, I just make her happy.

She has friends, a career and interests.

She wants to be with me because she likes me as a person, feels warm, safe and secure when she's with me, and loves sex. She's capable of deep attraction and even infatuation but is also realistic and understands what that is.

We're best friends and enjoy hanging out, going places and doing things together, laughing, conversing and confiding in each other.

Yes she's tender, empathetic, kind and compassionate. She can be girly at times. But she knows her own mind. She wants an equal partner. She wants mutual regard, respect, trust and admiration.

She gives herself 100% to our relationship and works to keep it strong and healthy, but she doesn't do that by following me around, keeping me on a leash, or acting like a Stepford Wife. In other words, she knows her worth.

ShakTreblat · Accepted Answer

It’s nice to feel wanted and appreciated, but I prefer a woman who knows what she wants and knows that she has the capability to do things for herself. In my experience, I don’t have to worry about an independent woman cheating because she’s not hurting for attention 24/7. So if I deploy overseas, I’d be confident that my woman can hold down the home front until I get home

Hitman2847 · Answer

I personally like an independent girl, the only clingy aspect I like is that she would like to be with me most of the times and tries to do it whenever she can, probably sacrificing some of her alone time or Free time to be with me (and don't get me wrong I would exactly do the same for her and all this in the concept of "when a person can spare their time")
So this might not even necessarily mean a clingy girl, depends on the public opinion of clingy

TheorionMage · Answer

Depends upon YOUR definition of 'clingy'...
IF I'm drawn to you, I WANT to spend time in your company and...
I enjoy P. D. A. s... both their affect on her and our incidental audience!

That song lyric: "And she's LOVING him with THAT body, I just KNOW it..." ;)

wa1t1ngFuture · Answer

a woman who doesn't mind if I ask her to come with me lives in the mountains, the forest endures the cold of night and fear and darkness, in nature. I often go on such trips with my friends so I need a woman like this. it may be difficult at first for women but with time it will be fun.

ARWINGx1 · Answer

Inbetween.

Too independent, and said woman would naturally/"inately" appear as someone who won't commit.

Too clingy... yeah, I value MY independence a lot. Even worse when respective woman are aware of her issue, and are (whether directly, or indirectly) intentionally making that MY problem.

'course, I'd try to make sure that some of that "independence" would be put on (for example) spending time with my what-if/would-be girlfriend, by choice.

Moose304 · Answer

I prefer ladies that know where they are in life and are happy. This means they are not insecure and are in fact very pleasant to be around. Almost everything that turns me off about a female comes from insecurity. I have heard females say the same thing about men and I agree 100%.

TodsShadow · Answer

I enjoy clingyness in the sense that it's a show of affection and not signs of mental red flags.

When I think of independent I think as when say I'm married with children. Me and my wife would haft to discuss a lot of different things in order to stay on the same path. If my wife can't operate herself and the kids while I'm at work that concerns me.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

I like both. I love a girl whose affectionate but doesn’t also feel entitled to my time. I like a woman who is independent in ways but still wants someone to be a life partner if that makes sense. If that makes sense

HighValue · Answer

Physically clingy when together, but independent enough to drive herself where she needs to go and can take care of herself like an adult. (Can cook, do her own laundry, knows how to drive, knows how to write checks to pay her bills, etc.)

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Somewhere in between. She'd have to have the willingness to be with me and I think in this situation at least, it can link to being a bit clingy or wanting my attention.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Somewhere in between. Like most guys (and, I suspect, most women), I enjoy *feeling* needed more than I'd enjoy *being* needed. Give me a woman who can live her life on her own, but WANTS more.

ohshee · Answer

Well there's a time and a place for everything I like both but I also like her just to be yourself and being that moment whatever it might be

MCheetah · Answer

Somewhere inbetween. Although TBH, I wouldn't mind clingy at all, as long as she was hot and a sweet person.

crmoore · Answer

This probably sounds weird but if she isn't clingy I will like her less or outright lose interest all together. I don't know what it is but apparently I need a girl to really like me for me to really like her.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Clingy but not nosey Theirs a difference and one is anoying and a deal breaker while one is usually pleasant

AviatorTom · Answer

Extremes of anything are rarely preferred. Somewhere in the middle is almost always the best. That applies to relationships too.

Gibbons44 · Answer

No oreference. I do expect hot, fully gendered, and genius level for starting a family. As long as fucking is good, she can be ingy all she likes. But absolutely no transgenders.

nestokyo · Answer

love my clingy girls, but most of the ones I have gotten cheated because I wasn't "there enough"

serious · Answer

Neither of them because I wish to remain single for life.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

I'd say somewhere in between. But more leaned towards independent. Clinginess kills the attraction for me. It's instant.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Clingy are easy to handle. Independent are very difficult and cause lots of problems because they never really are very Independent they just pretend to be Independent.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I like someone who’s clingy so long as it’s healthy amounts and not you know obsession.

Juxtapose · Answer

Clingy enough to actually miss me when I'm gone but not clingy that I cannot contemplate in silence ever.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Somewhere in between. Too independent would mean she is hardly ever around. Too clingy she is always around

Caliguy88 · Answer

Between. Like girls that can do their own thing but I like girls that let you know they are all about you when together.

Just4ThisNow2 · Answer

We like strong and confident women who show us that they care about us and make us feel special. No one likes clinginess.

ColHathi · Answer

I want clingy to be good. It sounds so great on paper 😩 I voted "somewhere in between".

ManHater · Answer

Independant, I don't like women who I have to save every fucking second. Or a woman I have to wait for her to catch up.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

I prefer assertive and aggressive girls who play fair.

Pudsmucker · Answer

I want them to be someone independent. It means the reliable

Straight2thepoint · Answer

Neither. Clingy has issues. Self proclaimed Independent- are unbearable.

Tellme · Answer

An independent woman who is enthusiastic about being with me when she sees me.

007kingifrit · Answer

i like being needed, but don't want her to be annoying about it and call me every 10 minutes

innerman · Answer

I want one that’s even hugging me while we crossing the road 🥺

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Independent as in distant like some cats or having an education above 6th grade?

Anonymous · Answer

Something in the middle, I would say. I prefer a girl who is attached to me, but not too obsessive.

Andres77 · Answer

Independent that WANTS me!

Iron_Man · Answer

In between a fighter champion

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

We want obedient women

driven159 · Answer

like her to be independent but a good lover too

AFretiredTXn · Answer

Somewhere in between.

Abdulwahh · Answer

Just a feminine women who knows her standing

NathanDavis · Answer

a balanced one...

deano1990 · Answer

100% independent :)

dudeinohio · Answer

Clingy

WhyMe247 · Answer

Clingy

mVCyberduVm · Answer

Somewhere in between

OddBeMe · Answer

Indep. Not a nanny.

Rudon00 · Answer

In between.

legalboxers · Answer

love clingy...

dolemite89 · Answer

somewhere in between

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Clingy.

Anonymous · Answer

Independent.

Anonymous · Answer

In between

Anonymous · Answer

Somewhere in between

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