What to do when my boyfriend hangs out with girls when him and his guy friends are out?

[Anonymous]

hi, I don't know if my boyfriend goes and looks for theses girls. his friends are the ones that bring them along on their hangout. three weeks ago my bfs best guy friend called him up and asked him to met him at this bar. my boyfriend called him and he didn’t answer. my boyfriend shows up at the bar and his friend is there with a girl they both have known for years. however this girl is a total slut!!! showing b00bs, showing her a$$ and wearing lingerie on facebook and instagram. he didn’t tell me she was there, i found out a few days later. him, his friend and the girl took a picture together and his friend posted it on his instagram stories. when i saw it i immediately called him and he told me the truth. he said that nothing happened and yes i believe him in that sense but why would he hangout with a girl with his guy friend and not tell me about it. also another incident was last year in October we were in a really bad place constantly arguing and he went out to eat with a group of his guy friends and two girls that knows one of guys showed up. there were two seats open next to my boyfriend and they sat next to him. they ended up following each other on instagram and my boyfriend DMed one of the girls memes. in November i found out he hung out with them because both of the girls posted a picture of them three of their stories. my heart broke when i saw that. i understand that you can’t make someone do something but i want to do something to make him not want to hangout with girls. i’ll admit i constantly complain about something towards him. so maybe just maybe if i don’t complain and be nice and a good time when i am with him he won’t want to be around them? someone please give me advice?

[Anonymous]

Honestly sounds like you’re going to chase him off. He didn’t say a thing for a few reasons. One because he knew you’d react the way you are. Two it wasn’t that big of a deal to him because he wasn’t planning on doing anything w these women. I get to you it’s a big deal. I try to understand that as a man, I really do. But a lot of things we as men just don’t feel is a big deal. I know women are going to say well what if she went out w her friends and there were men with them. I get that. I think the difference is that as a man it might bother me because men know other men are trying to fuck other women all the time. Even as far as purchasing them drinks. Women aren’t usually like that. But I think he knew he had no interest. Even if one of the girls looked hot that’s all it was l, a few looks but nothing beyond that. You might have to just pull the trigger on this one. You don’t care for his friends which sound like they mean a lot to him. So if you can’t get along w his friends or go out w them chances are he’s going to say this isn’t going to work.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to feel the way that you do and it's a very common issue. However him not hanging out with women is putting a bandaid on a open wound. Until you start stitching yourself together it's gonna reopen that wound everytime he's near another woman. Focusing on your self worth should be your main focus. If you work on being confident in your self worth, that's you with a needle in hand closing that wound for good. Hope that helps

[Asker]

thank you, but i truly don’t want him to hangout with them. i’ve complained a lot. about his instagram following. he follows a lot of bikini girls so i’ve complained about that and i complained how he spends more time with his friends, i complained that he does not take me out on dates and he has told me that im not his peace. so i fear that he has hung out with girls because i complain too much and im not his peace. what do you think?

[Opinion Owner]

I misunderstood you then, my bad. What he said to you about not being his peace is not cool at all. On top of that, lack of dates or general attention is telling. You deserve someone better, and someone better deserves you. What has he done to earn your love, and why can't you find that same thing somewhere else?

[jahaims]

Why are you with someone you don't trust? That is moronic

[Sam1133]

God please save her boyfriend from this type of stupid girlfriend..