How long does it usually take you to get over a disappointment?

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BriamG22 · Accepted Answer

Depends on the reason for the disappointment and whom it is directed at I guess.

At close friends or people I rely on; if its a huge screw-up it could take a couple of weeks to a month maybe, if its something minor like being late it'll most likely be instant.

If its acquaintances, then no time at all because I don't expect anything from them to begin with.

For myself, in the past it used to be pretty bad, I beat myself up for the whole first year of undergrad because I failed to get into med school. But in recent years I pretty much just shake it off, I just don't think its worth it to be sulking around feeling sorry for myself haha. I guess one could say I've grown up just a tiny bit.

DrPepper12 · Accepted Answer

With others? Almost instantly. Like everyone else i have a REALLY hard time granting the same grace to myself.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

Depends on how much change it holds over my life. For example, I go to the shop wanting to buy a garlic roll for lunch. They’ve run out of garlic rolls. Im disappointed. But I get over it straight away and find something else for lunch.
Another example, I wanted my father to be involved in my children’s lives as their grandad. He doesn’t want to be involved. I’m disappointed. It takes me just over a year to get over it.

Kelley1 · Accepted Answer

That depends on the level of disappointment. If my grade were a B instead of an A because I overslept and was late to an exam, I would get over my disappointment in a very short time. If I had a car accident because I didn't realize the road was so slippery and ended up cripiled I would never get over my disappointment.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for disappointment unfortunately it does happen & depending on the disappointment I usually get over it within seven to ten business days or within thirteen hours if it isn’t too bad. As for life it moves on & so do I.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Depends on the size of the disappointment. I seriously doubt I'll EVER get over the royal fucking over I got from my ex-sisters 6 years ago!! It was COMPLETELY uncalled for and COMPLETELY driven by their own greed!!!
Losing that game of pool I just shot a few minutes ago is pretty much forgotten, already except for the fact that I DID technically lose it by accidentally putting the 8 into an undesignated pocket. However, I DID put the 8 in AFTER my last ball went in, even though it was the same shot so, to me, that's a win!

aaron13547 · Answer

Depends how much benefit I can get from feeling disappointed. I only let myself remember something bad as long as i can use it as a tool to be better. I try not to hold onto disappointment at all, instead i turn it into progress or productivity. When you remember disappointment like trying to be better instead of trying to be enough it makes it not such a bad emotion.

exitseven · Answer

It depends on what it is. I did not get to spend any time at the beach this summer. I have already moved on. 30 years ago I was kicked out of the Air Force because I am colorblind. I really thought I had my whole life planned out. Sometimes I still feel bad about it. My whole life was derailed and it took years before I was able to figure out what I wanted to do

FreyaRed · Answer

Until i convince myself it wasn't my fault. It doesn't take long, because I always prepare the battlefield I have to fight on that way it's easy to displace responsibility on others. It's highly antisocial but it works.

Tarifa · Answer

Way too long. I tend to overanalyze things that went wrong, even if it can't be pinpointed down to a specific reason.

katiesmuff · Answer

You learn quickly to shake it off and get on your feet moving on, or your going to waste a lot of your lifes happyness.

Spencer10 · Answer

Pretty quickly in general. Wallowing in the past does not really accomplish anything. Learn and keep moving forward.

Nikki1989 · Answer

The depends on the level of disappointment.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

Maybe a few minutes to a few hours to a day 😆😊

Xawyx-2 · Answer

Depends on what kind of disappointment. When I was in my 20s, I needed more time, but now, it's kinda quicker.

Shiprex · Answer

Depends on the importance of it and my state of mind.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I don't get over them. I analyze what went wrong and keep it in mind for later on.

Jay-_- · Answer

The next day, unless its something that hit me very deeply... I try my hardest not to dwell on something negative to the best of my ability.

Surely · Answer

Chaulk it up to experience. Then, put it in the back of your mind and not allow it to happen again.

Still-alive · Answer

i suppose depends on how much i really cared about whatever it was.

Ironco · Answer

I usually beat myself up for half a day, then just learn from it and move on.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

A long time. Struggling with it majorly right now.

Abbycado · Answer

It depends on the disappointment.

tzdc21 · Answer

Depends on the situation

LiamJHayden · Answer

Less than an hour.

jahaims · Answer

Not all disappointment is the same

shortster · Answer

From about 5 seconds to 24 hours.

msg321 · Answer

Depend on the kind of disappointment.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Two and a half years, and counting

In_Trance · Answer

Depends on the context

Anonymous · Answer

To long

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