Why can't people be honest with themselves, Why must they turn every negative into a positive?

[Deserter3]

[LazerBean]

I think it's just part of today's participation - award society. A lot of people just can't cope with real life and its implications. Being honest with yourself requires taking responsibility for your failures. Many people today would rather blame their failures on someone/something else.

While failure is often a part of the road to success in many cases, it is certainly not a requirement and should not be treated as such. Even when failure is present, One must be able to see WHY the failure occurred and willing to make the appropriate changes in order to ever come about success.

[msmissydc]

Success in a lot of things is a process of attemps that did not suceed.
If you never try and t erefore never fail you will mostly not suceed either.
Its not turning negativ into positive for various situations so called negatives are neccessary to even have an attempt at something positive.

[aaron13547]

Why is turning something negative into something positive not being honest? Lifting weights is a perfect example. You world out until failure, until you can't lift it anymore. That workout tears and breaks down muscle. That's truth and that sounds bad right... well that's how your muscles are able to grow they repair and heal a little bigger and stronger then before... thats a perfect example of how something negative makes something positive. And how failure can be successful. The most effective way to build muscle is to workout until failure.

[Deserter3]

Yeah, no, working out is no way a failure because you got sore, weird analogy

[OneViewpoint]

Agreed. If you haven't failed, you haven't tried very hard. And you probably haven't succeeded either.

But from my own observations, 90% of people are risk averse and not strong enough for honest introspective examinations of their own behaviors. In a single word, most people are weak.

Those people are content to simply exist until death comes for them. They never truly live. They never really experience failure or success.

[jamesgoldman]

Failure is not final
Failure is not fatal
Have the strength to continue that's what counts
Sir Winston Churchill

[Anonymous]

you miss 100% of all the shots you don't take

~ Michael Jordan

[Deserter3]

How can you miss a shot you didn't take?

[Opinion Owner]

a missed shot attempt and a shot attempt not taken still counts as zero points

[Deserter3]

So if I don't pick a fight with some random dude I lost the fight? Points don't matter if I'm at home not playing basketball

[Opinion Owner]

well you have be actively engaging in a particular activity for this quote to apply

[Deserter3]

So when playing basketball am I to be a ball hog? Never pass the rock to teammates, only take from them when they have MY ball so I can take the most shots? Both my team and theirs forming an alliance against the bigger threat, myself

[jahaims]

Unhealthy coping