If you eventually open up to how YOU'RE feeling, because you just can't take a situation anymore, they then turn around and try and say that you have a problem, because you stayed quiet and/or opened up about it?
I mean, wtf? Is it just easier to LIE? 😡💔 Saying "I feel great, thanks for asking" - so no real human exchange is made, no one wants to help/interact, find out, or just be bothered, or care about others needs?
I HATE lying, I find it incredibly difficult to do so, and although I can stretch the truth by saying things like "I'm doing ok" or whatever it may be, in that situation...
WHY DO HUMAN BEINGS DISLIKE HONESTY? For Real? 😤😭💔
People tend to avoid clear, concise, open, honest communication, as that requires vulnerability and accountability, and most people don't feel strong enough to handle either. In order to be open to great joy, we also must be open to great pain. Knowing how much we can lose and how much that can hurt can add significant value to the positives. Unfortunately, people prefer to be noncommittal, limiting both extremes and settling for safety. Criticism is so common, people choose to remain vague and general, so they can always say they were misunderstood or misinterpreted rather than accept accountability for their choices and feelings.
As long as people feel entitled to be inconsiderate of others, and we're taught to feel defective for not measuring up to societal expectations, dishonesty will be rampant. Dishonesty is generally used to protect oneself more so than lay intentional harm on others. The more people believe in the value they have to offer, and the more people consider how it might feel to be the recipient of what they plan to dish out before saying or doing anything, the more honesty will exist in the world.
I highly value honesty and being direct with one another. I try to be kind but I don’t dance around things. I say things as I see them and as reality dictates.
I was invited to answer a question a few days ago here on GAG regarding transgender. I answered directly but respectfully. I didn’t dance around or try to ignore reality by propagating someone else’s psychosis. For that, someone as usual got offended on the GAG and reported my answer. And of course as predictable, my answer was removed by a woke moderator who likes censorship, and I lost seven points. I was literally punished for being honest! Which is again why I am considering leaving this site once and for all.
If we can’t be in an environment where people can be honest with each other on every topic without selective dishonesty based on woke centric topics/agendas, then it’s a waste of my time to be here.
because its just the way people are you can change 6billion people to suite your personal values. honesty isn't always honesty sometime its just opinion. if some guy told you you are ugly he probably be convince he is being honest when actually its just his opinion and another guy might think you are model material. if everyone started telling everyone their opinion thinking they are being honest the world would be a mess. if you ask someone how they are and the person tells you all their problem you might get pissed off not because the person is honest but because you have your own problems and can't help the person or you feel that the person is smart enough to solve her own problems.
so there is a difference with lying and not revealing unhelpful information. so if you think telling all of your problem to someone could be dangerous for them or for you its not lying its just no over sharing. and anyone this world is full of unkind and cruel individuals who could use your truth against you and our priority is to protect ourselves.
we all live how we feel is best. we can't change others. i dont waist my time trying to change others. if i do that i will waiste my life and by the the time i am old and my life is over. the people i tried to change will still do the same things and will be old as well. seriously its a waist of time thinking people are gonna think like you.
I think it depends on how long you know the person or how close you are. If I'm heading somewhere and I'm on friendly terms I'll ask "How are you". I expect you to say good and walk on by and not give me your life story. But if your my best friend and are having a bad day when I ask " How are you" You can tell me how you feel.
I really don't mind if people unload on me. I asked somebody how his vacation was because he was not at work last week. He explained to me he had eye surgery and how difficult it was. I really was interested in finding out what was really going on with him.
You ask a Good Q. I consider myself, and I think people, who know me, will agree, I am straight up, and I ask Qs directly without a filter, which does get me in trouble from time to time. And I expect the same in return, especially with my friends and family!
The truth is usually complicated and people prefer dealings with other people to be as simple and succinct as possible, unless the dealings are of some benefit, and especially if they are of mutual benefit.
The problem with honesty is that it makes people have to confront and acknowledge things that aren't convenient for them, and it's tough to get excited about providing that kind of support for someone you don't feel much connection to.
See this has changed with me, I want people to tell me the truth and be honest with me, no matter how bad the truth hurts me I will man up and own up to my wrong doing.
I wouldn't say people hate on honesty or truth but rather on negativity. Very few asks you how you are out of any genuine concern for you. They do so to strike up conversation and be polite mostly expecting a positive respons and become disappointed when they actually receive a negative one.
I don't think people hate honesty, especially women I thought they always like honesty in a person and more so if a man is honest with them irrespective even if the man is just friends with them.
Because people have been in a social media echo chamer for so long, that they don't know how to handle something outside their mentality/thought-process.
