Girls, Why are Women known for choosing Confidence over Kindness when choosing a partner?

[Anonymous]

[_Maya_]

I was not aware that we are known for this. At least I have never heard this before. Both traits are good ones to have. Are we not allowed to want both of them? Confidence in a person is a quality trait. They know who they are and are pleased with their life in general. I like that. Kindness is a no brainer when it comes to personality traits. I am only going to assume that you are referring to quality of a partner or someone I would be in a relationship with. I would value both his or her confidence and kindness equally. I would not be in a relationship with someone that isn't kind and someone that is insecure is not a desirable partner. I don't want to spend my tike reassuring them.

[Asker]

In theory women say they want kindness and reliability in a long-term partner, but in practice confidence is rewarded first and shyness is punished. Shy but kind men often get ignored before their good traits are ever seen, while confident but unreliable men still get attention. That ends up shaming shy men for their personality, even though they often have the qualities women ultimately say they want in a partner.

[Imjustagirl1520]

because they all lie, why not choose somebody hot🤷‍♀️

[Asker]

Not really.

Most Women just choose Confidence first.

[Imjustagirl1520]

it was a joke.

[Asker]

Oh okay.

Yeh, Most of us Guys would be okay with you Girls choosing someone that's just Hot but most of you Girls go for Confidence first and foremost.

[beenherebefore]

While kindness is appreciated, confidence is way more attractive and sexy.

[Asker]

That's pretty obvious.

[queenofcardio]

I don't know if I would choose one over the other.

[Anonymous]

Lack of confidence does not = kindness.

[Asker]

Yes, But Confidence or Popularity does not equal kindness either but that's what most Women are Attracted to.