Is it okay to seek advice and comfort from male friends after arguing with my husband?

[TheLovelyWoman]

When my husband and I have an argument or disagreement, I go to my guy friends for advice and comfort. Sometime I feel they understand me more than my own husband.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I think it's your job to assess what is okay or not. Also your job to examine and conclude anything about dynamics and intents going on between you and any friend.

So far, I haven't seen any friend of mine being helpful about the situation you describe. And I don't expect any friend of any gender would be. Unless, perhaps, they were similar enough to me. Otherwise, I just expect them to understand things according to their experience, since we don't experience the same things, and even then, not the same way. So any advice is bound to be unhelpful.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the situation. But most men aren’t going to like that because it’s private, between two people in a relationship. Especially if it has to done something that’s making him look like the person who was wrong, or you’re embarrassing him in some way. For instance if he has ED then you go to your male friends telling them this is why you two argue a lot because he won’t seek help for it. Yes that would piss a lot of men off. The other thing though is a lot of men may use that vulnerability to try to get closer to you as far as trying to sleep w you. I understand what you mean sometimes about talking to a member of the opposite sex because I’ve had a few women ask me things. So I being in a neutral position understood what she was talking about. Do you thinking would be ok for him to go to mother women to talk about his problems w you? Especially women who knew you?

[Anonymous]

Why not go to your girl friends?

It feels like pounding my head against a brick wall sometimes. Like I’m pretty sure you’re a troll, but part of me hopes you’re actually a real person with real problems.

[Sirenboobzilla]

Ok, when you say comfort, what does that mean exactly?

[TheLovelyWoman]

Like listening and paying attention to my needs.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle messy relationship knots… and this is definitely one of them 😏

It’s understandable, but also a bit of a red flag. Regularly turning to other men for emotional comfort can create emotional affairs, lovebombing, and resentment from your husband. Better to build communication with him, maybe a therapist or a neutral female friend, not guys who might low‑key replace him in your heart.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

This is exactly how infidelity stories start out. "He is just a friend, don't worry " then it becomes " it was an accident, we didn't mean for it to happen " .

Advice isn't the problem, but comfort? Thats pushing a line that you shouldn't cross.

[Hiker_011]

In my experience, most other guys won't really care about your relationship. They might see it as an opportunity to make you like them more. Guys are competitive when it comes to women. You should work out your relationship problems within the relationship, unless you want to find someone else. In which case, you should probably end your marriage first.

[Iron_Man]

Don’t bring males into The picture the husband will be Extremely upset he doesn’t want people getting into your business and his business and he doesn’t trust a male influence hitting on his wife all guys say that they’re friends, but they want more

[Jersey2]

Spot on

[Iron_Man]

@Jersey2 thank you Jose

[Iron_Man]

Sorry that was voice command error Jose. I was saying Jersey. Auto correction chanted it on me at the last second before sending it

[Jersey2]

😂 No worries.

[Iron_Man]

@Jersey2 ok lol

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Lol they understand you more than your husband because they are not responsible for you.

Your responsibility is on your husband shoulders and you live together just live with your male friends for two weeks they will also run

That's how men minds works most but not all.

They have nothing to loose so they comfort if they are that you are leaning and depending on them then will speak firmly.

[slatyb]

Probably not, it's understandable that he would object to you seeking comfort from an unrelated man. What sort of things are you arguing about?

[TheLovelyWoman]

Sexual needs and money.

[DryGermanGuy]

Does your husband argue because you seek comfort from male friends? How circular! :-D

[Ailen2]

I've obviously never been married, I'm a teenager. But I think you should be able to do whatever you want. Why are you asking does he get upset about it?

[TheLovelyWoman]

He gets upset.

[Ailen2]

he's jealous

[LiamJHayden]

Usually a bad idea and a dangerous path. Understanding becomes connection and that can slide into infidelity easier that you think.

[msc545]

Considering that you fuck your male friends all the time, I think this question is a little bit moot.

[Anonymous]

Considering how many of them you've had sex with, I'm sure they do...

[dudeinohio]

No. Male friends are a no no if you are in a relationship.

[Ariesman81]

Shitty women typically run to weaker men after an argument.

[Jeff51]

Maybe if you stop cheating on him since he doesn't make a lot of money. Deal with it.

[In_Trance]

The comfort you want from male friends is their dick

[Anonymous]

If they are really just friends, then it's ok.

[Fireburn2025T2]

No seek your advice from a women. Women to women is best for advice. Men are dumb

[krin_m]

Sometimes. Depends on the situation.

[Anonymous]

as long as you don't polish is saugage

[Zionne]

no wayyy