Why is it easier to get a girl to hang out when she texts you first vs when you text her first?

[Anonymous]

[Static_In_The_Attic]

That is a really good question & the only thing I can think of is the following. When a girl sends you a text message first I find that it makes things somewhat easier. As for her initiative act it’s like a green light & it proves that she is already thinking about you & it kind of removes the guesswork of you wondering if you are bothering her.

If she sends you a message about hanging out that is a good sign & it shows she is interested in you or wants to enjoy your company as well.

Please keep in mind she can also be bored & none of her other friends were around & she decided to message you instead of being alone.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Because if she's texting you she's thinking about you and if she's doing both of those at the same time then she probably wants to see you again enough to take action.

Girls will rarely make it obvious they don't like or are disinterested with you.

[Asker]

So when she text first I could ask her to hang out?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

You can ask her if she's doing anything or suggest some kind of activity. I find women usually respond well to gestures. So the timing and the way you bring it up and what you're bringing up matter.

So try to get a feel for what kind of mood she's in, what she's looking for from you emotionally and suggest something that fits well with that.

[HollyK21]

I don’t think one route is generally easier than the other, it’s most likely just been your own experience.

[Anonymous]

Because in one she is interested and in the other you have to get her interested plus among all the other texts she gets.

[Asker]

What if it's the same girl?

[Opinion Owner]

If she texts you she is interested, if you text her you have to get her interested, plus you are among all the other texts she gets.

[Anonymous]

Because she showed interest first

[Asker]

But if the interest is there why does it matter who text first?

[Opinion Owner]

You don’t know if it’s there if she doesn’t text you. You already know there is if she texts you first.

[Asker]

Got it. Does it matter what the text says when she text you first?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably not, unless it was something very negative but people don't typically do that

[Asker]

Okay so something like a hey or wyd you can do something with that?

[Opinion Owner]

You are way overthinking this. It's not necessary to keep being this paranoid about the simple act of asking someone to hang out.

[Asker]

You're right. I just didn't know I could ask or how to do it.

[Abbycado]

How’s that?

[Asker]

I can't explain it but when she texts first the energy is good and there but when I text first the energy is different.