How come girls rarely text first?

[radmoney]

Just a general question. It seems like girls always like the guys to initiate the conversation. What's your opinion on it?

[Bestilledhart]

In my case I always text the boy first, but I can tell you why sometimes I'm afraid to.

Some girls are afraid of rejection. A lot of girls are just afraid that if we text a by first, they're not gonna respond well. We're afraid that he boy is going to read it and not answer.
Also, a lot of girls are just scared of being considered too clingy or annoying. If girls don't get a response right away (which we normally don't lol) than we start to panic, and send random text messages just so they'll answer, but when we do that, boys think we're too clingy.
Another big factor could be that we just wanna feel special. If a boy texts us first, especially when we like them, it makes us feel like they were thinking about us.

I hope this helped at least a little :)

[kalrodkal]

But don't girls know that guys also need to feel wanted and if they are the only ones doing the texting they will feel unwanted?

[Bestilledhart]

Yeah, they do.. but usually boys are the dominant person In the relationship, so girls just like when boys take charge and start a conversation. Like I said, I'm always the one who texts the guys first just because I don't like waiting.. but this is coming from watching my friends relationships.

[HandofHeart]

I don't think this really matters on a personal level, but it seems like if someone likes someone more in a relationship, they'll text first. I have initiated plenty of conversations and I know guys who have done their share as well. It just comes down to who likes the other person more (based on my observations)

[Gryffindorjedi]

It depends on the girl and how much the girl likes the guy she's texting. If I don't like a guy I'll probably never text first, if I like a guy then I'll make a point to text him first to hint that I'm interested in him.

[NoblesseOblige]

1. They don't like you enough to initiate.
2. They are shy.

To test it, initiate for a while. But if they don't start to, drop it.

[Lovebug875]

Personally, when I don't text first it's because I don't wanna seem too needy or I don't wanna take the risk that he won't text back or the conversation will be dull. Also it's awesome when you see the guy texted first because then you know you were on his mind.

[sherlocked]

Not really. I don't care about who texts first usually. But yes, if I realize I am texting first and the other person doesn't seem interested in talking I will stop initiating the conversation. If you wanna talk, talk. I am not gonna make an effort.

[HopelessRomantic9818]

Girls rarely text first because 1.we don't want seem annoying or 2.because we want the guy to text us first to show that we were on his mind and that he missed us. Honestly if a girl really likes a guy she would want to text him every minute of the day, but as I said before we don't want to come off as annoying or clingy/weird.

[kalrodkal]

But don't girls know that guys also need to feel wanted and if they are the only ones doing the texting they will feel unwanted?

[Bittybittyboopboop]

We do know it, but on some level, girls are the ones that expect to be the discarded, not the discarders. As much as we know guys have that same anxiety, it reflects less on the guy as a person if they aren't "important" to someone, or if they're needy and going after someone who isn't as invested. We're basically staking a bit more on the "feeling wanted" here.

[brainy21]

If a girl doesn't text first it means she doesn't wants to sound needy or clingy, if u initiate chats sometime I don't think she'll have any hesitations in texting u first

[nooriginality]

guys are always spewing shit about girls being clingy. and if we message first, we get paranoid about y'all thinking that

[silencewillfall]

I think some girls still have a notion that the guy has to text first. Not true. If feelings are mutual there should be no need for games

[elmobeau]

We don't wanna seem needy or too interested in you and scare you away. and if the guy texts us first its like aww he was thinking about me.

[Sex_Panther]

I think this is a lie.

[PrettyBlackButterfly]

because we dont wanna seem needy or clingy.