Do you usually take a compliment about your appearance as flirting, or just as someone being nice?

Question

I was thinking about this because I picked up a food order earlier and randomly told the guy I liked his smile. I genuinely just meant it as a compliment, but.. then he turned around and asked for my number haha.

So now I’m curious… when someone compliments your appearance, do you automatically think they’re flirting or interested in you? Or can a compliment just be a compliment?

HawkPerception · Answer

Almost every time... I take it as just being nice. Unless a girl specifically tells me she's into me, I don't assume otherwise. I tend to give compliments to others often when I'm out out, even strangers and it doesn't necessarily mean I want to date them. I also tend to get "You have beautiful eyes" pretty often, so it's a dangerous game to assume every girl who says so is interested, when I'd assume less than 5% are.

Anonymous · Answer

I take it as a setup. Women by in large do NOT genuinely compliment guys when they're attracted to them. Most do not genuinely compliment men to be nice. Women just typically do not compliment men.😆 UNLESS she has an Ulterior motive. She WANTS something!

If i had been the guy i would smiled, said thank you, and then spent the next 15 minutes in my head asking myself what were you trying to gain by having said that.

It is funny that you ask this question, because it HAS been asked before on G@G (by me for one😆). And the overwhelming majority of the women said they do not compliment men for the reasons you said. The fear of it being misinterpreted. Ironically, a woman that responded complimented me for, you guessed it, because she had a ulterior motive to get closer to me.

It's funny the way humans work isn't it? When we have an interest in someone we kind of stop being who we are. It doesn't make necessarily what we do nefarious. But it's kind of goofy how we change to try and write the narrative about ourselves to the other person.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I try not to lean in too much to the idea that it's always necessarily flirting because that's my ego or vanity talking. I'm a very humble person so I usually just take the compliment for what it is. Just a compliment and say thank you without spiralling into God knows what fantasy.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Usually women are flirting when they say stuff like that. Not that they're necessarily very interested but they're flirting.

sage2021 · Answer

Just someone being nice.

But I am kinda blind at knowing when guys are checking me out and flirting with me.

Patrick used to tell me that guys are checking me out every time we go somewhere.

Gee, that's probably why I have been single for most of my life. Cause I never see guys checking me out.(Even in my 60's this was happening with younger guys.)

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

In the scene you're talking about, I'd believe you'd be flirting, because I'd take your statement as something heavily warm, intimate in fact, something a lover says. Which also means I'd be thrown off instead of asking for your number lol, because we wouldn't be lovers but strangers instead

And that sums up how I take compliments about appearance, since from experience, they are never told by someone I don't know enough, which makes them de facto personal

Anonymous · Answer

If someone do it to me I wouldn’t assume they want me dating them

dragoblack · Answer

i just assume they are moking me or just being nice, because that's my experience, unless they give me envy-complements. Usually when I'm called sexy, hot, or cute, it's in a sarcastic wooing from people driving by, or it's because they want something from me or used as a manipulation tactic... which is normally they want money or me to join their OF or sexcam site. It's insanely rare that i ever get a genuine compliment.

msc545 · Answer

I take it it is an unconvincing and insincere attempt at manipulation.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It depends. Like if it's a girl and she's looking me up and down that's flirting but if she kinda just says it in passing or in literally any other way then I never have any idea what to think

Nikki1989 · Answer

I usually just ignore it if it comes from most men. Compliments from other women I take far more seriously.

Iron_Man · Answer

if somebody flirts with me, it means they like you and I take it as a compliment not as they’re just being nice. Woman are very selfish and they’re not gonna waste their time unless they like you

Sunshinelips · Answer

Men don’t get compliments so I imagine they would see it as flirting or we are taking the piss

Elliegirl · Answer

I usually take it as a compliment. It really depends on how it’s presented

lilBigPotato · Answer

It really depends on the context. Who said it, how and when.

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

Stop your naughtiness miss phoenix from bouvet island, we all know you're compliments are never innocent 😂😂

MikeTheBartender · Answer

If she's hot I take it as flirting, if not I take it as just being nice.

jamesgoldman · Answer

They're lying to part me and my money most likely

jahaims · Answer

Depends on the context

dudeinohio · Answer

Take a compliment as a compliment.

CubaPirate · Answer

The later mainly

browsingthroughthe · Answer

Both actually 😋

6942Dantheman · Answer

That never happens

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