Girls, do you mind if a guy compliments you on your appearance?

Question

Does it make a difference if it's a stranger or a friend? How does it make you feel? I'm not talking about your partner, that should be a given :-)

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

Depends on the intention.

At the beginning of the year a guy walked up to me, called me beautiful, I said thank you.
The guy continued to follow me around, got onto the same train I did, then stood over me.
I told him he was making me feel uncomfortable to which he reacted by pretending to hold a hand gun and pointing it at my face. Kept telling me how stunning I looked.
I can tell you, I did not feel beautiful in that moment.

However, when a guy recently walked up to me, he told me "you are very strange. I like it." Then yes, that does make me feel good and appreciated. Because I know I am weird and the fact that someone sees that and is willing to accept it, that's an awesome compliment.

Personally, I don't mind being complimented... I do mind being harassed.

Dinklex3 · Accepted Answer

I don’t mind.

Getting a compliment on my outfit from a friend is nice. I absolutely adore compliments from old people though. In Korea all the old people would constantly tell me how pretty I was. I’d feel flattered and shy.

When random young men compliment me I just say “thank you”. I don’t really feel anything and just move on with my day. If a random woman compliments me though I feel flattered and want to talk about shopping and where we got whatever.

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

I know you asked the ladies, but you didn't close it to guys so I'm chiming in.

I try to complement 5 people a day. I try to do one thing a day for someone else, but some days it's just hard to see a way for that to materialize because I'm not out much that day... whatever... point is, of those 5 a day most of them go to women just based on the demographics where I am. Virtually none of them haven't resulted in some kind words (at a minimum) back.

Everybody is always so afraid of offending everybody (and partially that's justified because of all the Professional Outrage Sufferers (great acronym, that) out there), but if we'd just get past that stage in societal de-evolution, it doesn't have to suck so much out there.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you DON’T compliment a woman on her appearance, it is a sure death sentence.

If it is a date, you-best, damn, better.

Most likely she spent a good portion of her day, on top of, a significant amount of her paycheck at the spa earlier that day to look good for YOUR ass. Don’t be a dick.

How would you feel if you took her out for an expensive meal and she never complimented you on your choice of a good restaurant; even if she hated it. Or if she bitched about her meal.

Or even worse, laughed at your tiny pecker.

etsylo · Answer

honestly it depends. i get kind of uneasy when a stranger or even a guy friend compliments my appearance.

i can't control what others say about me obviously, just sometimes i would prefer a simple "you like good/nice" and not "you're pretty" from a guy friend. it just makes me feel weird inside, especially when i have a partner. boundaries from me i guess.

if it's a stranger, i start getting paranoid. im not sure why, but i don't really like being looked at sometimes. it just makes me go, "how long have they been looking at me for?" but i always say thank you and brush it off after. maybe it's because i would get catcalled sometimes that made me need to be alert for any suggestive looks.

menina · Answer

It depends on what he says. If it's something racist disguised as a compliment, then I don't like it. Or if it's something extremely sexual.

If it's a genuine compliment, it makes me feel good, of course. And it doesn't matter it's a friend or a stranger.

NathanDavis · Answer

when done right... they can appreciate it

there's also chances that they are VERY VERY VERY used to them... so do not feel entitled to anything at all, just because you were the 24,537th to compliment a girl and she happened to like it

valentina4eva · Answer

i don’t mind compliments on my appearance if they are respectful and not repetitive!!😊😊💜 99% of compliments from men are the exact same thing thooooo😅😅

PeteBy · Answer

I don't make a habit of saying it but have been known to compliment a stranger and have been met with nothing other than a big smile, a blush, a thank you and them smiling at me as I depart.

In fact I was in the grocery store today and told a young cashier that she was very pretty. She giggled and told me I made her day.

It's nice to be nice.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

It depends on many factors, and many things can go wrong. If you want to compliment her, remember to be honest and genuine... Don't make stories... Women know their qualities :D

Joshydavid25 · Answer

They don't if they think you're attractive, and the compliment seems genuinely.. Or they purposely put themselves out there to be complimented.. I hardly compliment any woman her appearance unless I know her personally or feel compelled to.. Even if she is fine.. I do compliment other specific attributes sometimes though..

JacobJordan · Answer

Wife response: I didn't like it when I was single and I don't like it now I am married. My husband of course compliments me and that is fantastic but other people do and it feels fake and disingenuous.

el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Answer

No. If it's from a single man who actaully finds me attractive, not to try to sell something. Yes. If he's married or has got a girl friend.  😬

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

If the compliments are respectful, I wouldn't mind 'em at all.  Usually, I'd express my appreciation afterwards.

Hawkes_Lady · Answer

I appreciate someone going out of their way to pay me a compliment. It feels nice to have someone say something nice about you.

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

it comes down to social skills. give a compliment projecting emotion & confidence and it will come across as flattering. But, if you for instance fall flat on delivery and come off as overly nervous or deadpan; it'll get awkward.

kibbenkat · Answer

I like it when someone tells me that I am beautiful or graceful. I don't like it when someone tells me that I'm sexy or hot.

TrueConfection · Answer

I like it, especially when it's not flattery.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I ignore 99% of compliments from men. Female compliments seem more genuine.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I don't mind it at all. If someone is offended by compliments, then they're weird.

rachel776 · Answer

i would prefer to just be left alone by guys i don't know

DizzyDesii · Answer

I like it as long as it seems genuine and he isn't going overboard

Kelly6 · Answer

I don’t mind at all, I love when guys do that

Anonymous · Answer

I mean depends on the compliment.  If it's something sweet, then it's fine. If it's something that's creepy then no of course.  I messaged you, check your messages!

warsevf · Answer

You mean me

caroline062005 · Answer

If it seems genuine and not sexual (at least for me), I love compliments!

soe11 · Answer

If someone know us, like a friends and family then she didn't mind at all.

PeytonVD · Answer

I don’t mind

Anonymous · Answer

Kassem G was a youtuber who told women what he liked about them and was rude about it (yes their bodies). They laughed as he had the social skills to pull it off. He was spoken to staff for it though.

MissStrawberry912 · Answer

As long as it’s genuine, I do like it :)

elizamichale1 · Answer

I always like tht

KatherineJ · Answer

I wouldn’t be comfortable with that.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m fine with it 😊.

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

Maybe depends on how a guy does it

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's creepy. Don't do that.

Anonymous · Answer

It's cool

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