Should girls really not text first?

[Anonymous]

So me and this guy have been talking via message a lot, and we like each other. He usually messages first but i want to message him today because he hasn't messaged. I have messaged first a few times but i always feel like i have to lead the conversation when i do this.
So is it true guys that you find it threatening or it impinges on your freedom when a girl texts first?
If you like her would you like her to text and ask how your day was etc?

Girls should not text first

Girls should text first

It should be equal

[xxrockmexx]

From very recent personal experience I can tell you that, IT IS OK. I'm dating an older guy with 3 kids. I used to think he was so weird because he would only text me short messages and nothing else and he wouldn't call very much but when we were together he would be very affectionate.

I figured out that he just doesn't spend a lot of time on his phone or checking messages when they come in. At some point he will think about it but it could be HOURS later before he even picks up.

If you are thinking of him just send him something short but keep longer communication to phone calls or face to face interactions.

[Sephora_Addict]

Both parties should contribute equally to a text! Damn it! I'm always texting this guy so I stopped. Fuck it. But I like it when the guy texts me first makes me feel like he's thinking about me.

[taytay10133]

i feel like whenever i text first then he isn't as conversational as usual

[Asker]

That was exactly what I found!

[taytay10133]

i think it's bs when guys tell us to text first

[taytay10133]

if he wanted to talk to you he would

[Bsvscsc]

Dont you think there are guys who have the same thinking. I have friends who wait for girls to text them first because they say they put in effort already. Both parties want to feel 'Thought of'... What makes a woman's more important?

[Robin48]

Both can text each other first if they what too. There is no law, rule, policies which states that male are to text first. Just remember to be respectful. Do not do it as you are driving, in class, or at work. Text on your break, lunch, no in class, and when you are not driving.

Texting someone is not a sex thing. It a relationship between two or more people. Now do us common sense. Be sure the person know you and aware that you will text them. If I got a text from someone I do not know. I would be concern. Be mature, and professional in your text. Be careful with personal informations and personal pictures.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Just text him, He would love it.

Do you know how many guys sit there trying to figure out what to say just wishing so bad the girl would text first. But in their mind that would never happen in reality.

lol yet your sitting here wondering if you should do it haha.

[sovetskii13]

I'm gonna say that it should be around equal. It should not matter if you are male or female. If you need to say something or just wanna chat for fun, then text first. If you are interested in something or someone, go for it. Don't wait for it to come to you because you are basically limiting or decreasing your chances. If a girl never starts conversations with me then i will think that she's probably not interested and that I might be annoying her. And that will be the end. A girl who texts first removes a lot of stress from the guy. Any guy will appreciate that.

[pnl86]

"So is it true guys that you find it threatening or it impinges on your freedom when a girl texts first?"

And the Academy Award for creating the most bullshit reason/excuse to justify or rationalize anxiety and fear of actually being accountable and responsible for a potentially negative result and instead rather delegating full responsibility to another person (while retaining at least some "token" responsibility for yourself... you know... to save face) ... goes to... (opens envelope)

[Oladeji12]

Honestly, i don't know why girls feel that men should be doing all the work. I suck at texting and when i am texting a girl, i always feel on the back of my mind that i may be annoying her, simply because I've always initiated the texts and i feel like if she at least liked me, she would initiate some

[tyber1]

The reason is just that they don't want to. Making the first move means you're making yourself vulnerable and putting in effort for someone who might not return that effort. Women cannot stand being vulnerable so they just dump all the initiating of everything on Men.

[Junlian]

When you make rules you have limitations. If the rule is for guys to text first then you'll be waiting especially if we got other things to do. So with that said, let's say no rules. tgen no body don't have to worry about who text who. Who ever is available.

[Anonymous]

Things girls should not do:

1. When a person text you or having a conversation with you and you just not respond. Annoying as fuck behavior that 90% of you do.

2. When girls only want to talk to guys to get something from them.

3. When you never text.

These 3 make you out to be an asshole.

[Kalee26]

Its ok for you to text him first, don't apply that dumb rule to your self. Sometimes its good to show him, you too are interested in him, by messaging him first.

[Anonymous]

There is a girl i'm really looking forward to receive a message from her. I know that she likes talking to me too, and she even lead the conversation when i have nothing to say. Now you wanna know why dont i just text her? I was the one who initiated the last conversation, and the one to end it. It is her turn now, plus it makes me feel she doesn't wanna talk (to me or anyone) when she doesn't text first.

[Anonymous]

What kind of nonsense have you been hearing...

If anything men are, in general, known to be horrible at texting. It might be a service to both of you if you take a bit of a lead there seeing how women are, in general, adept texters.

[sweetshyguy]

It should be equal, the saying that men should initiate is stupid as fuck, you like a man? go after him, you like a woman? go after her, if it was the guy's duty, i'd always be alone, thank God for bold women!

[Kolya]

Equal of girls text first, if i text fjrst girls would say "what a creep"," dafuq you want? who are you?","nope...","ihaveaboyfriend. jpeg"

[Ahsain]

That could not be further from the truth. If a girl never texts firsts then we assume that she's not interested.

[LittleSally]

My response to all Qs like this is - who cares? IF you care you'll text... if you don't you won't.

[bloodmountain1990]

Yes. Girls should text first. It's all about 50/50 for both guys and girls. If a girl doesn't ever text first or further the conversation then I figure she might not be interested.

[Anonymous]

First the girl in that picture is HOT!

Second, I think it should be equal. In fact it's really great when a girl actually initiates and texts without playing games.

[JohnDoe3000]

If a girl never texts first the guy is going to think she's not interested.

[fsu19]

I don't like texting games. Just text first, dang. Talk to him about it if he never initiates.

[pavlove]

yeah, the fact that girls don't text first means a lot of guys mistake her disinterest for her just being coy

[Toad-1]

if she doesn't text first once in awhile ill start wondering if she really likes me... so yeah you should text first sometimes too

[admles]

You are severely over thinking this.

If you have something to say, text him!

[madhatters4]

gender shouldn't dictate who texts first