How can I show men I’m approachable and friendly without saying it?

[Anonymous]

I usually don't say this because I don't want people to think I'm full of myself or narcissistic, but I'm conventionally attractive. I'm only saying it because I need help and I need to say this to explain what's happening, that's why I'm anonymous, I'm not here to farm likes/followers/compliments. I only want advice.

When men become friends with me and they feel safe, they let me know that they want me and they shower me with lust.

An example: I have a friend who texts me every day. I'm honest with him, I tell him we're just friends, he doesn't care and keeps pursuing me. This has been happening for 3 years, he literally can't get over me.

However, men who don't know me yet are cautious. They act defensive, they blame me for mistakes other women make, they avoid giving me ''validation'' because they assume I want to use them.

I'm being judged for mistakes that other women make.

I'm as interested in men as men are interested in women, but they assume I'm not. I want to stay single and find a stable partner when I'm old, which means I'm easy to approach because I want casual relationships.

Don't get me wrong: I'm not saying men don't want me, they do want me, but I'm tired of having to ''unlock'' their confidence and receive cold treatment when they don't know me yet.

[Mark_Est]

Women spent years telling men not to approach and bother them. It isn't going to change just for you.

Secondly men chase goals not women. Only some simps do it.

Thirdly, men aren't cucks, we only date virgns. Most of you aren't. We dont give a rats ass about some Temu Bonnie Blues running around. The man that you want with traditional values, provide, protect, loyalty, honour, marriage, masculinity etc. Also wants a traditional womam, fit feminine friendly virgin.

You aren't it. Most women are low value to men. Same as a broke weak man is to women. Useless.

Only fboys will chases you for your easy ass telling you all the BS you want to hear and then dumping your butt. And simpy cucks will date you. Some modern dudes, with modern values, such as yourself. Even if you try to mimic traditional relationships it will ultimately fail cause you lack such values.

As you see, you can't really undo some things. And you can't get men to look at you as somebody worthy if you aren't worthy.

Next generation of women have a chance, if old women tell them to stop with their nonsense.

[Asker]

I think you need to relax a little.

This answer is so stupid it's not even offensive.

[Mark_Est]

Cope harder. Typical modern woman. Allergic to personal accountability.

Men not wifing up harlots is hardly a controversial point.

[NathanDavis]

say hi from the distance... with your hand, a smile, your lips...

works 99% of the times...

[DryGermanGuy]

Smile, laugh, talk to them, ask questions, answer their questions...

[Anonymous]

I'm so tired of trying to end up with nothing or worse. Obviously, you aren't nearly as attractive as you think.

[jahaims]

You don't understand healthy boundaries and no one reasonable wants to date someone who keeps friends around that break healthy boundaries.