Are women more attracted to the validation and excitement they get out of casual sex than the act itself?

[Phunk_Fenomenon]

I've noticed this constant pattern in most women I've encountered who are particularly open to flings and hookups. They often seem to have turbulent histories involving...

• toxic breakups
• chaos with former partners
• jealousy
• competition with other women
• recurring drama reputation

these continues to make me curious about something. When women pursue flings or hookups, are they actually looking for sexual pleasure and enjoying sex without commitment? or are they fetching other things, such as...

• excitement
• attention
• validation
• feeling desired
• social status

I'm also curious whether these motivations tend to overlap. Can women actually enjoy casual sex while also seeking validation through it? And is there any meaningful connection between how they approach to casual sex and the amount of interpersonal drama in their life, or might I simply be noticing a pattern in a biased sample?

[Nuclear_Warhead]

Everyone has a nuanced component of this. Cleverly promised idea of pleasure is always more seductive than pleasure itself. ㅤ

[Nuclear_Warhead]

That's my poorly worded quote of i believe the book "philosophy of freedom" that said somwthing like "pleasure doesn't motivate people, the promise of pleasure does".

[Apple1996]

Considering most women dont orgasm from casual sex its likely that they do it for the validation/attention/thrill of doing it rather than for pleasure

[Phunk_Fenomenon]

I knew it

[Stormy_Moon]

can't answer I've never used anyone before

[Stormy_Moon]

@Insekirorue lol I don't know