A guy that is shy, socially-awkward, quiet and never approaches you?

[Anonymous]

or the guy that is shy, socially-awkward, quiet, and he does approach you, is brave enough to make a move on you? I'm on the second one but I have not had any luck, I have always gotten rejected, and I can't stand it anymore, and I believe that shy guys, socially-awkward are seen, viewed as creepy in a girl's perspective, opinion, that's what I have read and heard from girls on here, that socially-awkward guys, somewhat shy are seen as creepy, seriously, why do girls have to be so damn paranoid like this?

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why do girls have to label guys creepers especially when the guy was just being himself? he was not intentionally trying to scare you or creep you out? Do you have to be born not-creepy? the guys that are good at getting girls, whether it is many or just a one-girl's guy, how is it so damn easy for them to not come across as creepy? were they born like that from day one? or is it trial and error, do you have to learn it? don't just say "don't be creepy then" be specific, what is and what is not

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because I will admit that I have never been good socially, that is because I have Autism, well not hardcore, but a mild form of autism, okay, I have Asperger Syndrome, but since I'm a guy, unfortuneately I can't make that as an excuse

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Why do girls have to be such paranoid bitches?

[Jay_So_Lovely]

Well that would depend on what he looks like...some guys like that tend to look very creepy... but if he was like the way you described and he just looked chill then I would definitely give him a shot. and Girls are paranoid bitches because thay don't want to be raped by some creepy looking guy.

[Asker]

yeah but they judge the guy before they completely know him

[Jay_So_Lovely]

well that's just the way of the world... make yourself look how you want otheres to percieve you and you won't have any complaints.. just because your nerdy at heart doesn't mean you have to look like one.

[Asker]

and why do you girls think every guy is out to get you, rape you?

[Jay_So_Lovely]

because guys are like that and until you know that person, everyone is not a person to trust.

[defytraditiongirl]

better than not approaching at all

[Smejlo]

I like the quiet kind, but even though they are quiet, they still must be able to carry on a conversation with me. The loud guys that are in your face annoy me.

[Asker]

well in order for me to carry on a conversation, I hate it when it is one-sided, when I have to ask all the questions or tell all the stories

[Smejlo]

same here. If a guy doesn't contribute to our conversation, I leave.

[helpha]

I wold be very happy if guys that checked me out approached me. I'd think "Wow, this guy is awesome to have the nerve to do that."

[Asker]

yeah but there are different levels of shyness, some guys are so shy that they will never make any more or step out of there comfort zone, me, I'm willing to step out of my comfort zone and have done it many times but no luck, because you girls think those guys are creepy

[helpha]

Uh, I don't think it's creepy if the boy is attractive and kind..

[Asker]

your only 16, I bet once your 18 or older, then you will start thinking it is creepy

[Anonymous]

I'm not picking a banana here :)

I'll just follow my heart and mind. He could be shy or outgoing, introvert or extrovert, tall or short, talkative or quiet, etc...the most important thing is that we would get along well and he'd love me very much :)

[Asker]

yeah but almost all girls want the guy to be outgoing

[Opinion Owner]

Not all of us :)

[Asker]

are you sure about that?

[Opinion Owner]

Positive :)

[Asker]

why I do get the feeling you are just saying that to make me feel better

[Opinion Owner]

That's wrong. My ex wasn't handsome at all (it's just an example) and I loved him very much. He was far away for too long and I stayed devoted. Love is uncalculating like that even though people at a certain age could be immature and superficial and as they grow older they become down to earth.

[Asker]

still he is expected to have confidence, and that is never easy

[Opinion Owner]

Confidence comes with practice and experience. It isn't difficult.

[Asker]

well easy for you girls since you don't need confidence

[Opinion Owner]

We all need confidence; in our jobs, relationships and everything. We learn to be confident.

[Asker]

yeah but most guys will date, accept a girl that is insecure, has low self-esteem, but it is not the other way around

[Anonymous]

i would prefer someone who approaches me, I tend to be very shy and I've been rejected before and it ruined my esteem

[Asker]

story of my life, unfortuneately since I'm a guy I have the chore of initiating

[moviedude714]

the one that doesn't do anything