My boyfriend says I'm too passive. Since when is being laid back a bad thing?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months. The other day he told me I am too passive and "to get mad about something" because I said I didn't care what movie we watched that night. I can be a fiesty person, but I have not found anything meaningful to fight about over the past months. I thought my laid back attitude was a good trait. I am very adventorus and passionate person. I know his last girlfriend was a major drama queen, but that just not me. What is so bad about my chill attitude?

[MrOracle]

Overall, there's nothing wrong about being laid-back. But, you need to understand that he's going to feel pressured if he has to be the one to come up with every idea and make every decision. Plus, he may have some insecurity that you are hiding your real feelings from him by seeming to never having a strong opinion about anything. He may think that you don't care about HIM, and that not caring about the other stuff is a reflection of that.

Try to find some middle ground. Pick the movie one night, or the kind of food you eat, or something. And don't be shy about telling him if you'd rather do something else sometimes.

You needn't be a drama queen or anything (please, don't!), but he doesn't want to date a passive robot either. Make a decision or share an opinion often enough that he knows you're still involved in the relationship, and this whole thing will evaporate.

[TissueForIssue]

I think the personality is fine, but sometimes stepping up and picking stuff is absolutely wonderful. My ex never picked anything, but I got her to by basically taking turns with decision making sometimes. Recently I've had encounters with girls that would say an idea before I even threw in any personal opinion or thought, I liked it a lot actually haha.

[Anonymous]

He wants you to show that you some leadership skills. By getting angry that you didn't care what movie you watch, he is probably tired of having no idea what you want, how to please you and of calling all the shots. Text time and ask him to come over and say, "Im cooking you this___ or I really want to watch ___." Say or do something that puts you in charge.

[Opinion Owner]

*Next time text him not text time