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Sweetheart, no offense, but please find a hobby and get a life. He has a life of his own that doesn't revolve around you. You sound extremely clingy. It's only 4 days. You're behaving as if it was 3 weeks or something. At the same time, this guy has issues, and he is emotionally neglecting you and is very immature. He doesn't want to talk about it? Then at this point, you need to dump him. Because he is not going to change and give him back that ring. It doesn't mean jack. Let the jerk GO. And focus on yourself and graduate HS.16
Ever had a guy like you and he was overly attentive? Remember how it was annoying after a while and a little desperate? Girls seem to want/(demand) than guys do and have a tendency to make guys feel smothered.1
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No that is not good all of the teen guys I know that have done that were cheating.2
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It's not a good sign if he keeps pulling away since December and doesn't want to talk about it + blame you when you get 'emotional' about it. You are both only 17 and it explains that lack of emotional maturity. The thing is he should at least try to be there for you and asnwer your needs. People get busy and yes sometimes life happens, but he chose to be with you. He doesn't act like a good boyfriend; not because he has issues on his own, but because he doesn't take your needs in consideration. I can understand the anxiety you're living. I've been there and it's honestly one of the worst feeling I've ever felt in my life. I don't want to scare you, but the guy who put me through this ended up breaking up with me. You're not overreacting. I'm not saying he's going 100% to breakup with you, but should not ignore your gut feeling. I was thinking too that everything was in my head, that I was probably overreacting and I tried to minimize what I was feeling, but it almost made me crazy haha Honestly, you're only 17... There are plenty of men who can treat you better and who will value you. By acting like that, he's disrespecting you and your feelings. I agree with your mom: you should give him space and not text him because nothing you can say or do will change his mindset right now. 4 days is a long time not to talk to someone you love... I'd say give him 3 more days and if he's still not reaching out, you should strongly consider breaking up with him. I hate to advice that to people because I do think that people can overcome issues with efforts, but that's the thing: he's not willing to make efforts for you. It takes two to be in a relationship. Anyways, most importantly, don't lose yourself. When the person we love treats us like that, it's easy to think that we are not enough and that we don't deserve better, but we are so wrong. Losing him would be a hard thing, I'm not going to lie, but losing yourself is far more worst. Remember that you are valuable and lovable and if he can't see your worth, someone else will.
After giving the set time limit, or even waiting for him to contact me first, and he doesn't by the time school starts back up next week, how should I react if I see him in school? We usually see each other before first period and sit together with mutual friends. Do I just not sit with him? Or do I sit with him and act distant, or act normal? If he becomes affectionate to me if I do sit next to him, how should I react? How should I go about it if he asks why I didn't contact him? I'm sorry for asking you so many questions. I just really don't know what to do. I haven't been in this situation before. Nor have I ever dated someone in my school. I dated other guys from different schools so I never really had to consider these questions.
You should avoid him if he hasn’t reached out to you in those 7 days. Honestly, don’t chase him. Act like if you broke up with him and go into no contact. If he comes to you and asks you what’s wrong, explain to him that you don’t accept this behavior in a relationship and that you’re considering breaking up with him. If he fights for you, you choose if you want to give him a second chance. If he doesn’t even come to you, then you have your answer; he is too weak to breakup with you and you should then see the situation as a breakup. If you act like nothing happened, he’ll think that his behavior is okay and he’ll put you through it again. You deserve better
What if bringing up my concerns about this ultimately pushes him away because he told me he doesn't like it when I talk about my doubts and stuff (which I dumbly apologized for instead of sticking my ground)? Ugh
**Ugh why are men so difficult
A guy who minimize your needs and your emotions isn’t ready for a relationship. HE has to come to you to ask for explanations and if he complains about your ‘doubts and stuff’, tell him that you won’t apologize for asking for the bare minimum. Honestly, he isn’t even giving you the basics... I bet some guys you don’t even date treat you better than him. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself
Sadly, I already apologized and said "I'll work on being a better girlfriend". I'm very unconfrontational and rarely speak my mind when it comes to arguments because I'm afraid of having the other hate me... and yeah honestly, this one guy (who dated for like three days before breaking it off because he wanted me to sneak out and honestly he's rather boring) treats me better than he does. He always texts, wonders how I am and always asks to hang out and stuff. Him and I just didn't click because all we had in common was our love for Led Zeppelin while my current boyfriend and I at the time could talk about anything and everything due to our similar personalities...
By apologizing and telling him that you are not a great girlfriend, you give him all the power to treat you like shit. From now on, stop apologizing for having standards and principles. He’s ignoring you? Ignore him back. He’s taking you for granted and he doesn’t know yet what it feels like to lose you. Give him a taste of what it’s like. Say yes to that other guy who’s asking you to hangout, post a nice story of you two having fun, do things you like! He’s acting like he’s single tbh, so do the same.
Okay, I'll keep that in mind. I honestly thought me hanging out with the guy caused all of this, but I realized that even before that, he was acting this way but not as much. The last time he asked me to hang out was December 14th, then I have initiated every hang out/text since then. The last time I hung out with him was December 27th, ever since then he's been "busy". Boys are weird tbh. I just hope he snaps out of this bc I really do like him...