It's not a good sign if he keeps pulling away since December and doesn't want to talk about it + blame you when you get 'emotional' about it. You are both only 17 and it explains that lack of emotional maturity. The thing is he should at least try to be there for you and asnwer your needs. People get busy and yes sometimes life happens, but he chose to be with you. He doesn't act like a good boyfriend; not because he has issues on his own, but because he doesn't take your needs in consideration. I can understand the anxiety you're living. I've been there and it's honestly one of the worst feeling I've ever felt in my life. I don't want to scare you, but the guy who put me through this ended up breaking up with me. You're not overreacting. I'm not saying he's going 100% to breakup with you, but should not ignore your gut feeling. I was thinking too that everything was in my head, that I was probably overreacting and I tried to minimize what I was feeling, but it almost made me crazy haha Honestly, you're only 17... There are plenty of men who can treat you better and who will value you. By acting like that, he's disrespecting you and your feelings. I agree with your mom: you should give him space and not text him because nothing you can say or do will change his mindset right now. 4 days is a long time not to talk to someone you love... I'd say give him 3 more days and if he's still not reaching out, you should strongly consider breaking up with him. I hate to advice that to people because I do think that people can overcome issues with efforts, but that's the thing: he's not willing to make efforts for you. It takes two to be in a relationship. Anyways, most importantly, don't lose yourself. When the person we love treats us like that, it's easy to think that we are not enough and that we don't deserve better, but we are so wrong. Losing him would be a hard thing, I'm not going to lie, but losing yourself is far more worst. Remember that you are valuable and lovable and if he can't see your worth, someone else will.
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Sweetheart, no offense, but please find a hobby and get a life. He has a life of his own that doesn't revolve around you. You sound extremely clingy. It's only 4 days. You're behaving as if it was 3 weeks or something. At the same time, this guy has issues, and he is emotionally neglecting you and is very immature. He doesn't want to talk about it? Then at this point, you need to dump him. Because he is not going to change and give him back that ring. It doesn't mean jack. Let the jerk GO. And focus on yourself and graduate HS.
Ever had a guy like you and he was overly attentive? Remember how it was annoying after a while and a little desperate? Girls seem to want/(demand) than guys do and have a tendency to make guys feel smothered.
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No that is not good all of the teen guys I know that have done that were cheating.
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